what "war" did those 4 people die in? using your anecdotal experience to excuse what happened to those 4 men is complete bullshit pal. my old man was a recon marine in the nam and i served in kosovo and the gulf as a medic and seen my fair share of people die, both civies and marines/navy fellas, and it would never even come to my mind that "well, a bunch of people died there, so well whatever." i can't even comprehend what goes into thinking like that.
so many vets died in vietnam because the politicians play fucking games with the lives of our brave youth and think nothing of the impact of tying a hand behind our backs and sending us to fight. vietnam is the most prime example of that. so when it comes to pinning the blame on a politician and trying to nail her to the wall both over her negligence and her response afterward, i'd think a guy like you would be the one holding the hammer and nails.