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Granny weed

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your husband is right grans

and speaking as a guy who was once a kid that fucked up a lot......you CAN'T keep him safe

like several said...you are enabling him.

I know it hurts.
Hurts is an understatement, what if something happens to him, I don't think I could take the chance I couldn't live with it.
 

BarnBuster

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Its not the leaving home I have a problem with its being told to leave his home when their may be other solutions to resolve whats happening.
well, if hub refuses to explore options, what are the alternatives? is your son working and could he support himself?
 

kinetic

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Your son has to realize that if his behavior or involvement escalates or stays steady that he's endangering his mother. Men don't do that. I'm sure he thinks he's grown. You don't get to be a hard ass chav while sleeping under your parents roof.
 

dannyboy602

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Mb give the situation a couple months to cool down. In the heat of the moment a lot of bad decisions can be made. Talk to your husband about a deadline for a change in your sons behavior and talk to you son about the seriousness of keeping the family together and how he needs to change himself or face the consequences.
 

Granny weed

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well, if hub refuses to explore options, what are the alternatives? is your son working and could he support himself?
He's not working at the moment, infact he had a interview today, being able to support himself is not a problem! that's the trouble.
 

joe macclennan

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I love ya grans...I really do.

but 24yo???

it's past time for him to go

getcha a puppy or kitten or something to keep you occupied. Seriously! You will need to give attention to something else to get through this.

and you will never stop worrying...that's normal. But you are letting your mothering instincts interfere with your homelife here and that's not good.

whether your hubby is a hypocrite or not... He obviously loves you...and you him as you are still married after presumably 24 years +
 

sunni

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I love ya grans...I really do.

but 24yo???

it's past time for him to go

getcha a puppy or kitten or something to keep you occupied. Seriously! You will need to give attention to something else to get through this.

and you will never stop worrying...that's normal. But you are letting your mothering instincts interfere with your homelife here and that's not good.

whether your hubby is a hypocrite or not... He obviously loves you...and you him as you are still married after presumably 24 years +
joe and i dont normally see eye to eye
but i am in full agreement with him here
granny your ADULT child is 24.

time for him to go outta the nest get a job and straight up and act like an adult.

tough love is a good thing. hell ive been kicked out of the house since i was 17
 

Granny weed

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Your son has to realize that if his behavior or involvement escalates or stays steady that he's endangering his mother. Men don't do that. I'm sure he thinks he's grown. You don't get to be a hard ass chav while sleeping under your parents roof.
He know's but thinks he has it under control, and a bad ass chav is not what he wants to be. He is seeing the world through the eye's of someone who he's in awe of.
 

sunni

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He know's but thinks he has it under control, and a bad ass chav is not what he wants to be. He is seeing the world through the eye's of someone who he's in awe of.
oh hes addicted to drugs is what img etting out of this.
stop enabling him if this is a correct statement get him the fuck out of your house and he will fall into a pit of despare and straighten up either that or ship him off to rehab

if he is indeed on drugs, granny please for the love of god i know it hurts but youre only making it worse , you can put him in rehab but you need to stand up
 

MojoRison

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I have no advice but I will tell my tale. Sixteen, 6'2 and full of pith and vinegar with the ego to match, so with a weeping heart my mother sided with her boyfriend and I was homeless. Faced with life on my own terms for the first time it was exhilarating, scary with a sense of release. I was lonely but never alone, life has a way showing you things that you never thought possible and for me was the fact that no matter where I was, what I was doing or who I was with, I was my mother son and loved, regardless of the situation I could call home and it would be answered, knowing these truths kept me warm on the coldest nights.
The back door was always open, there was always a five or ten sitting on the table and the wash seemed to be done every time I showed up and left dirty clothes.
When asked why she did those things, she replied " I love my son and my reasons are mine"
 

joe macclennan

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He know's but thinks he has it under control, .
kinda my point

he has nothing under control as long as mom is protecting him

you are seriously NOT doing him any favors here granny.

what happens if god forbid you get sick???

he's gonna have to fly soon hun. while you can still guide him somewhat.
 

Granny weed

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oh hes addicted to drugs is what img etting out of this.
stop enabling him if this is a correct statement get him the fuck out of your house and he will fall into a pit of despare and straighten up either that or ship him off to rehab

if he is indeed on drugs, granny please for the love of god i know it hurts but youre only making it worse , you can put him in rehab but you need to stand up
No Sunni not addicted in that way!
 
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