Granny weed
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Hurts is an understatement, what if something happens to him, I don't think I could take the chance I couldn't live with it.
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Granny weed
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He's 24yrs old.
BarnBuster
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well, if hub refuses to explore options, what are the alternatives? is your son working and could he support himself?
dannyboy602
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Mb give the situation a couple months to cool down. In the heat of the moment a lot of bad decisions can be made. Talk to your husband about a deadline for a change in your sons behavior and talk to you son about the seriousness of keeping the family together and how he needs to change himself or face the consequences.
BarnBuster
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well said..does your son make ALL attempts to get along with your hub?
Granny weed
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He's not working at the moment, infact he had a interview today, being able to support himself is not a problem! that's the trouble.
joe macclennan
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I love ya grans...I really do.
but 24yo???
it's past time for him to go
getcha a puppy or kitten or something to keep you occupied. Seriously! You will need to give attention to something else to get through this.
and you will never stop worrying...that's normal. But you are letting your mothering instincts interfere with your homelife here and that's not good.
whether your hubby is a hypocrite or not... He obviously loves you...and you him as you are still married after presumably 24 years +
but 24yo???
it's past time for him to go
getcha a puppy or kitten or something to keep you occupied. Seriously! You will need to give attention to something else to get through this.
and you will never stop worrying...that's normal. But you are letting your mothering instincts interfere with your homelife here and that's not good.
whether your hubby is a hypocrite or not... He obviously loves you...and you him as you are still married after presumably 24 years +
joe and i dont normally see eye to eye
but i am in full agreement with him here
granny your ADULT child is 24.
time for him to go outta the nest get a job and straight up and act like an adult.
tough love is a good thing. hell ive been kicked out of the house since i was 17
Granny weed
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He know's but thinks he has it under control, and a bad ass chav is not what he wants to be. He is seeing the world through the eye's of someone who he's in awe of.
joe macclennan
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oh hes addicted to drugs is what img etting out of this.
stop enabling him if this is a correct statement get him the fuck out of your house and he will fall into a pit of despare and straighten up either that or ship him off to rehab
if he is indeed on drugs, granny please for the love of god i know it hurts but youre only making it worse , you can put him in rehab but you need to stand up
MojoRison
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I have no advice but I will tell my tale. Sixteen, 6'2 and full of pith and vinegar with the ego to match, so with a weeping heart my mother sided with her boyfriend and I was homeless. Faced with life on my own terms for the first time it was exhilarating, scary with a sense of release. I was lonely but never alone, life has a way showing you things that you never thought possible and for me was the fact that no matter where I was, what I was doing or who I was with, I was my mother son and loved, regardless of the situation I could call home and it would be answered, knowing these truths kept me warm on the coldest nights.
The back door was always open, there was always a five or ten sitting on the table and the wash seemed to be done every time I showed up and left dirty clothes.
When asked why she did those things, she replied " I love my son and my reasons are mine"
The back door was always open, there was always a five or ten sitting on the table and the wash seemed to be done every time I showed up and left dirty clothes.
When asked why she did those things, she replied " I love my son and my reasons are mine"
joe macclennan
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kinda my point
he has nothing under control as long as mom is protecting him
you are seriously NOT doing him any favors here granny.
what happens if god forbid you get sick???
he's gonna have to fly soon hun. while you can still guide him somewhat.
Granny weed
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He gets in with my husband really well he would do anything for him and my husband would do anything for him, its just this thing that's happening, its not good.
agreeed we would be able to help better lol
Granny weed
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No Sunni not addicted in that way!
than selling is my only other thoughts.
if thats the case my kid would be out the door so fucking fast.