Your definition precludes many things that are widely accepted as addictive.
But I would argue that weed does fit.
I have highlighted some compulsive uses earlier in this thread. People who continue to smoke despite an expressed wish to stop, who face unwanted consequences when they can't stop. And they keep smoking.
I've heard smokers discussing tolerance to weed here. Check number 2.
As for three, quiting weed has very minor but noticeable affects. People can't sleep, they're ass holes, they have attention problems.
Addiction specialists all agree that weed is addictive.
Weed users don't.
Users are not the group to trust as they can never be objective and honest about their symptoms.
weed does NOT have any physiological compulsion, nor any withdrawal symptoms other than those created by the habituated's own psyche.
it builds a tolerance over time if you smoke out constantly, over a period of years, but even the most burnt out stoner has no physical reaction to stopping, only psychological ones.
if you insist on creating a whole new classification for addiction that includes weed youre gonna have to come up with a new word for it, cuz "Addiction" has already been taken, and it's meaning makes no room for exclusively psychological dependence.
going to church isnt an "addiction" either despite being compulsive, destructive to society, building up a tolerance over time which results in a downward spiral of lunacy, and causing irritability and annoying behaviour when the faithful are deprived of their habitual doses of crazy every sunday.
gambling isnt addictive either, even though pschologists have claimed it is, nor is sexual deviance, which psychology similarly calls "addiction"
thats why psychology is no more scientific than astrology, phrenology or crypto-zoology. they just make shit up and use sciency sounding words to create the illusion of rigorous methodology.
i dont give a rat's ass what "addiction specialists" believe, or what lies they tell.
if those dickheads get to re-define addiction to suit their psuedoscientific mummery, then they will include every "disorder" they can, to increase their profit margins and broaden their pool of dupes.
before long they'll develop new "technologies" to combat the "addiction" to whatever they want to suppress, like dissident ideas, counter-revolutionary thinking, lack of respect for authority, or support for the evils of freedom or capitalism, or if they are more conservative, the "disease" of homosexuality, lack of religious piety, belief in marxism, or marxist thought, voting democrat, etc etc etc.
once dumbasses like you let the genie out of it's bottle, youll be fucked in the ass by your own hubris.