not surprised by the results but disappointed nonetheless. my $0.02 on it all as a woman: this ain't our first rodeo with this clown. there's a TON of fear mongering and frankly, we as a society are addicted to it. fear is a huge motivator, which is great because it helps us discern threats and keeps us safe. unfortunately it has been weaponized and i believe most folks who voted for him were doing so out of fear, and feeling like he will keep them safe or help take away/alleviate their fear.
find your allies in men who aren't misogynists (they're out there!! so many of them are so so good and love their sisters, friends, girlfriends, mothers, daughters, etc), ask them to STAND UP for us when they're with their buddies who make shitty comments (my man was on a job site with a guy last week who, i shit you not, was making the argument that women shouldn't be allowed to vote, quoting jordan peterson and talking about "meritocracy vs democracy" and how women aren't capable of being as intelligent as men - yes, he was dead serious), to take the fear that we have as women seriously, help keep us safe. we're all meant to work together, to complement each other in strengths and weaknesses, but frankly we ARE out-powered physically by men, we've known it since we were very very young. surround yourself with good guys and ask them to be your advocate. directly, frankly. i brought this up at a brewery the other night and it started some great discussions.
oh, and buy a gun, learn how to shoot. join a shooting range and ask if they have a ladies sharp shooters group. you'll find some great people there, who believe in protecting themselves. i'm not an ammosexual by any means, but feeling empowered and like i could protect myself if i had to helps me sleep better at night, no matter who is in office.