It should be up to the persons involved in a potential interaction to decide whether or not they interact or don't interact. If one party or the other doesn't wish to interact, then the interaction should probably not happen, unless you have a rationale that mimics a rapists actions, as you do.
Forcing another human being to interact with you, when it's clear they don't want to, wouldn't be how I'd do it. I fail to see the justification of how any person has that right. Could you show me where the right to force a peaceful, but unwilling person to interact with you comes from ?
What your gun grabbing from black people friends did, was use your beloved government to prevent OTHER PEOPLE who wished to interact from doing so. They did that when they made Jim Crow laws. The solution to those heinous Jim Crow laws wasn't to force people who didn't want to interact to do so, like you and rapists advocate, it was to cease preventing people who wished to interact from doing so. Leave it up to the persons involved to interact if they mutually wish to, or peacefully ignore each other if one or both wish that.
It is harmful to remove an individuals right to self determine, since doing so violates the equality of every person to make their own choices, The so called "equality" you advocate, is one of equality of oppression where individuals lose their right to self determine and some external force, government, can make others obey them.
Clearly, your "equality" can't be equality since it grants some people automatic power over others personal choices.
It's your love of the Nanny State, which is really a kind of Sick Religion that prevents you from being an advocate for true equality of all people. Why do you think black people shouldn't be able to decide who they interact with on a mutual basis?
How would you enforce your forced association rape similar laws, would you use a gun to do it?