Should the first rule of human interactions be that all people have an equal right to self determine ?
Should the corollary to that be that no person has a right to use offensive force against another or their justly acquired property?
If you answer yes, then at some point in order to do the things you defend as necessary, you must ditch the ideas (above) and rationalize the use of offensive force as a means, which is contrary to the primary rules mentioned above.
If you answer no, then you are advocating "chaos" and "might makes right".
The question isn't whether we should model a society on voluntary human interactions and disavow the use of offensive force, it is "how would it be accomplished and would it be better than the present mode" ?