The Sex Talk Thread

sunni

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Read this on Reddit..

Most chicks fantasy is DP

I'm wondering why in your case it's specifically with black dudes?

In your opinion, what is the appeal of DP? (you know me, no judgments, just curious) I read a lot of women feel it's taboo and definitely somewhat 'naughty'. The dirtiest thing they can think of, and to be honest, in my opinion, I would probably find it pretty hot myself to tag team a chick with a friend and treat her the way the act requires!

Is it the whole 'taken advantage' thing that you find appealing?

Also, thanks for your honest reply
cause black guys are hot? ...LOL
i dunno man i dont really go too deep into questioning these things its porn, it slike asking why is toast toasted i just go my business and leave ! LOL i would probably never do dp or gangbang in real life, that would just be odd.....but the lady on the film is a porn star she wants to do those things so its okay!

but the video cant be like stupid fucking cunt take that dick i dont like those mean ones, not nice! LOL


Just guessin here...submissive?
uhm, im a bit odd in terms of sub or dom, im kinda both but neither here nor there, like in real life, ill voice my opinion thats for sure, and im very hmm how do i put this without sounding like im an aggressive bitch but im very like independent strong woman, cut me off in a supermarket youre gunna hear kinda gal , but i also am someone who cooks , cleans, and when i did have a boyfriend dinner was ready whenever he came home, kinda thing, i would love to be a housewife. i dunno...LOL ya'll are over thinking it too much i think , its just porn fap , clean up and get out! LOL
 

Padawanbater2

Well-Known Member
My boyfriend (25m) and I (24f) have been together for 2 years, we have an incredibly healthy relationship with very good communication. We absolutely adore each other.

About six months into our relationship, we started opening it up to threesomes. I would seek the girls out and we’d have some fun. I discovered during this time that a) I’m not really all that bisexual, b) I LOVE the idea of my boyfriend with other women, the look on his face when he discovers a new pussy for the first time is overwhelmingly hot and c) I like hooking up with friends more than strangers/randoms.

Over time we’ve had a couple more threesomes and he’s hooked up with one of my best friends one on one a couple times and he’s flirted with a few girls (with my encouragement). I’ve only had to veto once because I really didn’t trust the girl’s intentions (and I later discovered my gut was spot-on).

As we foray deeper into this fetish (which is more like an obsession. It’s almost all I can think about) I’m starting to realize it’s a lot more complex than me being turned on by sex, it's a mental thing almost to the point that it’s a mindfuck and I’m beginning to worry whether it’s healthy. Here are some of my concerns:

1) I can only get off to imagining him with other women. Sometimes we masturbate with me watching him masturbate to other women on GW. We still have loving one on on sex on the regular but this fetish is so strong I feel unsatisfied if we don’t have a current prospect for him.

2) About prospects, I have a lot of trouble not seeing my friends/acquaintances/new women in my life as sexual prospects for him. It’s really hard for me to compartmentalize and I have to try very hard to take these ladies out of the potential-sex-partner-for-my-partner bubble. It’s so bad that when a conquest starts dating someone new I get as disappointed as if I was a single man with a crush on her. I don’t think this is healthy and I’d really like to learn how to separate my fetish from every day life.

3) Thinking about him with other women leads to a strange combination of arousal, compersion, sadness and jealousy. Sometimes I’m happy for him, sometimes I’m angry at him, sometimes I want to prove myself the best, sometimes I’m just really fucking horny and want him to tell me about it while he fucks me. I really can’t control it and sometimes it can affect our relationship but he’s excellent at after-care. The arousal always tends to beat out all the other emotions in the end though.

4) Speaking of proving myself, I know he’s absolutely head over heels will give up anything in the world in love with me but sometimes I get off on the feeling of inadequacy that sometimes crops up after he’s with/goes on a date with another woman. I like to try to be the best girlfriend ever by cleaning and cooking and doing sexual favors for him afterward. It makes me happy but the fact that I love playing wifey to prove myself can’t be healthy either?

5) I’m not interested in polyamory so I’m afraid I’m playing with fire here. I love when he goes on dates and tenderly kisses and makes love to other women but I absolutely do not want him to fall in love or have a relationship with them beyond close friends with benefits. This is why ideally I love when he hooks up with our mutual friends because I know there is an intimacy between the three of us and the girl he’s with won’t see me as a threat and try to undercut me. I know I can’t control his heart but this is such a great fear for me.

6) I have no interest in swinging or being with other men in any fashion. The idea makes me sick. I guess it goes back to the inadequacy thing but I like being only his but him not being only mine. Being with another man would ruin the fetish for me completely.

7) Sometimes I pressure him to pursue women and I should back off and let things develop organically. Really no advice you can give me here, just adding it as a reminder to self.
I think I covered it as well as I could, as you can see it is quite complex. I’ve tried to quiet this but it seems I can’t, it’s powerful and it’s here to stay. Is this healthy? If it’s completely terrible is there a way I can rework it in my mind to make it healthy? Those with similar fetishes, how do you reconcile all the opposing feelings?

I'm happy and we're happy. I'm a beautiful woman with a great job, great friends and a great education but I'm afraid my dirty little secret might be damaging in the long run even though it isn't now.
Thank you so much for your time :)

http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1jb74r/my_fetish_of_having_my_boyfriend_have_sex_with/

Interesting...
 

It'sAllGood

Member
About six months into our relationship, we started opening it up to threesomes..
I love this thread :-P and your story is turning me on :wall: my sister and I did the same thing (almost) with her husband. It's been going on for 5 years and it's been wonderful. I don't know what I'll do if they decide to stop, because I'm attached to both very much both heart and mind, and my sis and I don't do the bi-sexual thing with each other, but we will touch each other for him. But we draw the line on kissing and eating pussy :lol: but goin down on him together is deffinitely OK :fire:
 

Padawanbater2

Well-Known Member
I love this thread :-P and your story is turning me on :wall: my sister and I did the same thing (almost) with her husband. It's been going on for 5 years and it's been wonderful. I don't know what I'll do if they decide to stop, because I'm attached to both very much both heart and mind, and my sis and I don't do the bi-sexual thing with each other, but we will touch each other for him. But we draw the line on kissing and eating pussy :lol: but goin down on him together is deffinitely OK :fire:
Well that's awesome!
 

ARobyn

New Member
I gave birth two months ago and am finally able to have sex as of last night!!! Score. What a terrible dry spell. I never quite realized what stress relief sex is. bongsmilie My husband will get sick of me soon wanting it so much, lol.
 

BygonEra

Well-Known Member
I'm happy and we're happy. I'm a beautiful woman with a great job, great friends and a great education but I'm afraid my dirty little secret might be damaging in the long run even though it isn't now.
Thank you so much for your time :)

http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1jb74r/my_fetish_of_having_my_boyfriend_have_sex_with/

Interesting...
I feel like there is no way that that isn't damaging in the long run. She even admitted that the only reason she gives into her fetish is because the arousal overpowers the negative emotions... notice the only positive emotions are coming from primal sexual pleasure. I feel like this can seriously screw you up in the head after a while... obviously not between the 2 of them since they're both consensual, but I definitely think it's pretty likely that she'll have some intrapersonal mental issues herself.
I love this thread :-P and your story is turning me on :wall: my sister and I did the same thing (almost) with her husband. It's been going on for 5 years and it's been wonderful. I don't know what I'll do if they decide to stop, because I'm attached to both very much both heart and mind, and my sis and I don't do the bi-sexual thing with each other, but we will touch each other for him. But we draw the line on kissing and eating pussy :lol: but goin down on him together is deffinitely OK :fire:
:shock:........:spew:
 

Flaming Pie

Well-Known Member
1) I can only get off to imagining him with other women. Sometimes we masturbate with me watching him masturbate to other women on GW. We still have loving one on on sex on the regular but this fetish is so strong I feel unsatisfied if we don’t have a current prospect for him.

Do you feel that he won't be satisfied with just you and knowing that he has another on the line makes you feel he will be satisfied? Is it a control for you? You get to choose the partners so you don't have to worry about him going off beind your back?

2) About prospects, I have a lot of trouble not seeing my friends/acquaintances/new women in my life as sexual prospects for him. It’s really hard for me to compartmentalize and I have to try very hard to take these ladies out of the potential-sex-partner-for-my-partner bubble. It’s so bad that when a conquest starts dating someone new I get as disappointed as if I was a single man with a crush on her. I don’t think this is healthy and I’d really like to learn how to separate my fetish from every day life.

I tend to have that prob with women as well, but I am seeing them as a conquest for myself. It is hard to block out.

3) Thinking about him with other women leads to a strange combination of arousal, compersion, sadness and jealousy. Sometimes I’m happy for him, sometimes I’m angry at him, sometimes I want to prove myself the best, sometimes I’m just really fucking horny and want him to tell me about it while he fucks me. I really can’t control it and sometimes it can affect our relationship but he’s excellent at after-care. The arousal always tends to beat out all the other emotions in the end though.

Those feelings are there for me as well. Sometimes it just turns me on and other times I dont want to be thinking about it and the lack of control over my feelings makes me sad.

Having my hubby whisper in my ear a scenario can satisfy my wanderlust at times. Other times I just have to struggle to bury it.


4) Speaking of proving myself, I know he’s absolutely head over heels will give up anything in the world in love with me but sometimes I get off on the feeling of inadequacy that sometimes crops up after he’s with/goes on a date with another woman. I like to try to be the best girlfriend ever by cleaning and cooking and doing sexual favors for him afterward. It makes me happy but the fact that I love playing wifey to prove myself can’t be healthy either?

Are you worried he will find someone better?

5) I’m not interested in polyamory so I’m afraid I’m playing with fire here. I love when he goes on dates and tenderly kisses and makes love to other women but I absolutely do not want him to fall in love or have a relationship with them beyond close friends with benefits. This is why ideally I love when he hooks up with our mutual friends because I know there is an intimacy between the three of us and the girl he’s with won’t see me as a threat and try to undercut me. I know I can’t control his heart but this is such a great fear for me.

Have you ever thought about videotaping the two of you doing these things just you two? Then you can watch and play at the same time. =) Or maybe find a porn with men that look like him.

6) I have no interest in swinging or being with other men in any fashion. The idea makes me sick. I guess it goes back to the inadequacy thing but I like being only his but him not being only mine. Being with another man would ruin the fetish for me completely.

Does the idea sicken you because you feel you would be cheating on him with another penis?

7) Sometimes I pressure him to pursue women and I should back off and let things develop organically. Really no advice you can give me here, just adding it as a reminder to self.
I think I covered it as well as I could, as you can see it is quite complex. I’ve tried to quiet this but it seems I can’t, it’s powerful and it’s here to stay. Is this healthy? If it’s completely terrible is there a way I can rework it in my mind to make it healthy? Those with similar fetishes, how do you reconcile all the opposing feelings?

I think any fetish grows if you feed it. If you starve it, it can get rather small.
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Beefbisquit

Well-Known Member
My boyfriend (25m) and I (24f) have been together for 2 years, we have an incredibly healthy relationship with very good communication. We absolutely adore each other.

About six months into our relationship, we started opening it up to threesomes. I would seek the girls out and we’d have some fun. I discovered during this time that a) I’m not really all that bisexual, b) I LOVE the idea of my boyfriend with other women, the look on his face when he discovers a new pussy for the first time is overwhelmingly hot and c) I like hooking up with friends more than strangers/randoms.

Over time we’ve had a couple more threesomes and he’s hooked up with one of my best friends one on one a couple times and he’s flirted with a few girls (with my encouragement). I’ve only had to veto once because I really didn’t trust the girl’s intentions (and I later discovered my gut was spot-on).

As we foray deeper into this fetish (which is more like an obsession. It’s almost all I can think about) I’m starting to realize it’s a lot more complex than me being turned on by sex, it's a mental thing almost to the point that it’s a mindfuck and I’m beginning to worry whether it’s healthy. Here are some of my concerns:

1) I can only get off to imagining him with other women. Sometimes we masturbate with me watching him masturbate to other women on GW. We still have loving one on on sex on the regular but this fetish is so strong I feel unsatisfied if we don’t have a current prospect for him.

2) About prospects, I have a lot of trouble not seeing my friends/acquaintances/new women in my life as sexual prospects for him. It’s really hard for me to compartmentalize and I have to try very hard to take these ladies out of the potential-sex-partner-for-my-partner bubble. It’s so bad that when a conquest starts dating someone new I get as disappointed as if I was a single man with a crush on her. I don’t think this is healthy and I’d really like to learn how to separate my fetish from every day life.

3) Thinking about him with other women leads to a strange combination of arousal, compersion, sadness and jealousy. Sometimes I’m happy for him, sometimes I’m angry at him, sometimes I want to prove myself the best, sometimes I’m just really fucking horny and want him to tell me about it while he fucks me. I really can’t control it and sometimes it can affect our relationship but he’s excellent at after-care. The arousal always tends to beat out all the other emotions in the end though.

4) Speaking of proving myself, I know he’s absolutely head over heels will give up anything in the world in love with me but sometimes I get off on the feeling of inadequacy that sometimes crops up after he’s with/goes on a date with another woman. I like to try to be the best girlfriend ever by cleaning and cooking and doing sexual favors for him afterward. It makes me happy but the fact that I love playing wifey to prove myself can’t be healthy either?

5) I’m not interested in polyamory so I’m afraid I’m playing with fire here. I love when he goes on dates and tenderly kisses and makes love to other women but I absolutely do not want him to fall in love or have a relationship with them beyond close friends with benefits. This is why ideally I love when he hooks up with our mutual friends because I know there is an intimacy between the three of us and the girl he’s with won’t see me as a threat and try to undercut me. I know I can’t control his heart but this is such a great fear for me.

6) I have no interest in swinging or being with other men in any fashion. The idea makes me sick. I guess it goes back to the inadequacy thing but I like being only his but him not being only mine. Being with another man would ruin the fetish for me completely.

7) Sometimes I pressure him to pursue women and I should back off and let things develop organically. Really no advice you can give me here, just adding it as a reminder to self.
I think I covered it as well as I could, as you can see it is quite complex. I’ve tried to quiet this but it seems I can’t, it’s powerful and it’s here to stay. Is this healthy? If it’s completely terrible is there a way I can rework it in my mind to make it healthy? Those with similar fetishes, how do you reconcile all the opposing feelings?

I'm happy and we're happy. I'm a beautiful woman with a great job, great friends and a great education but I'm afraid my dirty little secret might be damaging in the long run even though it isn't now.
Thank you so much for your time :)

http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1jb74r/my_fetish_of_having_my_boyfriend_have_sex_with/

Interesting...

wait.... that's not your ​story is it, Pad?
 

ebgood

Well-Known Member
thread died huh? well wake it up. anybody love a squirter as much as i do. that shits so hot
 

justlearning73

Well-Known Member
Well i have never been with a chick who squirts so it really doesnt do anything for me. Now maybe if I had, i would have an opinion. To each their own I say.
 
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