I'm not surprised that logic has disturbed you.
Most people look forward to sex, to "better their lives" but if the threat of force to accomplish the act is in the equation, it doesn't better the life of the person threatened does it?
Motivations aren't an excuse to violate other peoples choices, whether the topic is "education", sex, or consuming illicit plants.
You seem to believe that failure to acknowledge a wrongful action, (like coercively funding your ideas )somehow allows a transgressor to escape personal responsibility. I suggest you consider interacting with individuals on a mutual and voluntary basis and become a real advocate for peace, rather than floundering about for excuses to force your will on other people, "for their own good".