so lonely

and it sucked

DSB65 said:

you never been through this shit.......i took care of my dad........till the end

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No I haven't and never said I wouldn't take care of a family member, just saying that changing diapers thing has options around it.

SOMEBEECH said:

Its hard not to take this personel,im in this situation myself and there is nothing to laugh at till you been there you will never know what you will do..Till your in this with what i consider my best friend.Ok, we get it your not wiping no ones
ass.

Beech

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Now you're getting it, I'm not going down there and rather have someone not so connected to do that part and like I just said above, I haven't yet but I will do whatever it takes, including paying a nurse to change diapers...

when it gets that bad you do the shit

Can a mod change my name please? People calling me a troll is getting real old itself, people who don't want to listen to my side of point of views and do not know what the word ironic means. I know I should be use to it being on RIU for these past few months bit never knew the site was this bad, I'm not a troll people...


Anyways, I've said my peace and if you don't get it then you don't get it. I will take care of my family member but I know that people don't care who changes their diapers, it should be understandable to hire someone.

Think I would since they would contact me about what to change it to.


Actually you know what, think I might make a new account, much easier, tired of explaining myself to people who dunno how to comprehend.

pop some xanax and start hitting the clubs.

Trolling, take it somewhere else man. For real.

how about some morphine

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Now, helping them in other ways is ok to me, shows personal love but changing diapers is out of the question. I'll be there but I'm not cleaning your poop, I get the point but like I said, think they would understand that you don't want to do that, hire a nurse for that.

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You'd STILL have a rash if your parents had said they weren't even going to change a baby's diaper.

imchucky666 said:

You'd STILL have a rash if your parents had said they weren't even going to change a baby's diaper.

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Good thing my parents knew about that before they had me, they were prepared to face this decision, and this is just one of the reasons why I don't want kids, again, everyone is different. I refuse to clean up human bodily fluids, sorry.

HeartlandHank said:

Trolling, take it somewhere else man. For real.

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I don't know what you mean by this, I expressed an opinion on a FORUM, and people got sensitive, go figure internet.

Trolling said:

I just asked my mom and she said, if you're financially able to, then she would understand and that every family is different. You don't HAVE to "do that shit", my mom doesn't care who would change her, sounds like a weird fettish to me if your dad wanted you or cared who changed his diapers tbh, again just me but I really doubt he cared who did that part.

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Ya, they (parents) would say that now, but think about it.
If YOU changed them and took care of them, instead of farming out the labor, I think it would bring a tear to their eye just knowing that you cared enough to do it yourself.
I know my grandmother really appreciated me taking care of her in her last days, though I didn't have to do the diaper thing, she was still semi mobile, and continent, but making the call to 911, and having to call the family out of state, then spending 4 days in the hospital with her semi conscious, and she just wouldn't let go until I got back from the airport with her brother and she was home like she wanted to be to die.
We had the ambulance take her back to the house, and everybody except her best friend was there.
She made me go across town to get her friend, and I guess she just couldn't hold on anymore, because when I was on my way back, I got the phone call that she had finally died.
I think the worst part, was having to make the 6 hour drive back to California to bury her with her in the urn sitting on the seat next to me.
Or, maybe the worst part was when the funeral home asked me if I wanted to keep the titanium rod from her shoulder after she had been cremated.

It's just bad timing.
I've always thought you were cool. It's just not appropriate to voice that opinion in a persons grieving thread... ya know? Sure, it's an open forum... but given the topic it seems like a little extra respect would be given to DSB... the OP.

It's kinda like attending a wake and announcing that you hate the music they are playing. But worse, actually. Not appropriate.

I get what you are saying. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to do that. There is definitely nothing wrong with being willing to either.

I'm not going to debate in this thread.

DSB. Hope you get to feeling better. Just hang in there.. That offer stands, anytime.

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I don't know what you mean by this, I expressed an opinion on a FORUM, and people got sensitive, go figure internet.

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I'm pretty sure what he means is you're an insensitive fucking troll, and people are tired of it.

I didn't even read the first few pages tbh, I thought it was about some guy being lonely which is why I said "jibber jabber". If it's about someone dying then I apologize for coming off that way.


Was only looking at the first post and the last page I posted that on, if I would've realized it was about someone's death, I wouldn't have brought any of this up.