You asked for help, here's the skinny although I don't have alot of patience when it comes to teaching basic plant care:
She was having yellowing of the lower leaves so I basically flushed the soil 2 weeks ago,....
Why? If you have premature leaf drop there is a good cultural reason for it which I covered in my ditty. What's your definition of flushing?
... added some dolomite lime
And how's the dolomite lime supposed to help?
and started giving her nutes again with some light foilar feeding.
So you reached an elemental saturation point with both foliar feeding and root feeding and then added dolomite lime to boot? Sounds like you're trying to push your plant, which has pushed it to the edge of its grave.
It was BMO grow it green (5-2-5) and I was dosing about 1/3-1/2 ounce to 3 cups of water.
1/2 ounce aka 1 TBLSP. per 24 oz. of water is enough to fry a fish. That amount will be fine for 256 oz of water. I doubt if you have any small roots or roothairs left. That plant is toast, it will be stunted forever. Accept it and move on.
She seemed to be recovering from the N deficiency until yesterday.
Ya think?
I think I was getting a little too happy with foilar feeding and possibly had 1/2 ounce nute's on the last watering.
Bingo, Father DoItRight has received your confessional with his blessing.
Hmm about 2 days ago the soil got really dry and she wilted a little bit, but I fixed it soon as I checked on her.
How's that? By using a little water, not enough to get good run-off? Why did you let the soil dry out? Do you water until you get a good runoff? This is basic stuff.
Possibly the wilting to over nute is my problem? My mistakes have led me here and I need to find the road to healthiness.
May I suggest a book on general plant culture? Or, if you must, buy Mel Franks MJ Insiders Grower Guide, it covers the basic principles that apply to ALL plant material very well. It will be your shortcut to success.
Now, you have 3 choices:
1. Shit can that plant and don't attempt to grow again until you've removed yourself from cannabis forums and read some good books on general horticulture, or,
2. If you really want to save that pathetic thing, repot into fresh soil gently (inspecting the health of the root system) and bury the plant up to its first leafsets to induce rooting along the "trunk". Add some Osmocote, nothing else, (sorry, I don't trust you, yet) and let nature take its course. Downside the size of the pot. You must size the pot with the transpiration dynamics of the plant which is controlled primarily by the leaf area and quality of the root system. It does not
require a 3 gallon pot now. My avatar does, yours doesn't. The quickest way to screw up a plant is to give it something it doesn't need/want/require.
3. See the latter part of #1.
Good luck,
UB