Yes I have notes to next grow be more precise on the amount of soil I put in each pot so I can tell the weights easier. I was dumb and didn't do so this time so I do try to lift it up and see if it feels heavy but I didn't do so in the beginning so I don't particularly have a reference, just gut judging.
Yeah I'd be willing to bet the top is drying but you're holding moisture further down in the root zone which is why the over watered look. Sounds like you're learning from this which is good. You could try a "transplant" into soil with better drainage/perlite if you intend to keep this grow going, which is what I'd probably do. Everyone has they're own style and approach to learning so I encourage you to feel it out.
You don't need specific starting number. Just pick up a pot, bro. Has nothing to do with being dumb or not. The soil you are using is fine, but is much better with 20-25% perlite added to it, you can make that change next time.
I'd really like to emphasize what bongula said here because they will get a little droopy when thirsty but this is different from the curling/clawing you're seeing and should be noted. If you mistake the clawing for a thirsty plant you will be watering a plant that is already drowning, so be mindful.
I feel you, I will pick it up more often to feel it out. Could I transplant an auto and not stress it out?
I understand, I might try to transplant it into soil with more perlite.
This shit right here. In my experience autos need a looser soil with above average drainage. As for stressing it out; I've had terrible luck transplanting them but others here do it all the time and seem to be fine. IMO it's a real crap shoot.
Seeing its my first grow, I might just let it go and water less often, maybe rry to loosen up the soil a little.
You've already stressed it out....no sense in doing anything further. Just get your watering squared away and don't over feed it.
It isn't about watering less often. It is about watering properly. There is a difference and you can learn it right here on these plants by fully saturating your media and then letting it dry out before watering again. If you water too little, you are underwatering, if you water too little and too often, your pot will feel dry but your plant will be overwatered because the water by the roots never has time to dry out....then the rest of the pot can turn hydrophobic which can just make everything else more difficult than if if you just water properly from the start. Saturate your media, let it dry, repeat.
Got it!