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slomoking13

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start out slow by just throwing something out there... for example, get the topic of smoking up and have a long conversation with her about how its not that bad and all (not a conversation implying that you do it, but a general conversation to feel her out more and see what her views are).. if she takes it well, you can lead into to something like this makes me want to start smoking again, then see if she wouldn't mind smoking with you if you could find some from a buddy or something or if she just wouldn't mind if you smoke. I dated a girl for a year that didnt know i smoked, so i just kind of brought it up slowly once i decided i didn't want to hide it anymore.. i decided the best way to do that wouldn't be to just say hey, i have been smoking for the last year... i thought it was easier to "start" smoking and have her be a part of it (even though she didn't realize i was no amateure) and getting to voice her opinions first instead of making it sound like i have been lying to her and then letting her voice her opinions. i think that worked out better in the long run although we did break up after 3 years, but i had gotten her to become a regular smoker!
 
heathaa

heathaa

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roll a fat joint. put it on the kitchen counter. let her come over. let her find it. let her ask you what it is. say you wanted to smoke with her. hand her a lighter before second guessing. smoke joint vigorously. sit on couch for two hours. go to crystal burger.
 
323cheezy

323cheezy

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if she reallly loved u she would except u for who u are.....
pothead or square it shouldnt matter.....
I lost a great girl over weed ..... she was something special....
in her eyes i was a loser pot head..... but fuck that bitch...
Theyre are plenty of fine stoner babes....
 
norris420

norris420

Member
Ya you should definitely load up a bowl and introduce it to her. If she loves you, she wont get too upset. Good luck!
 
Johnnyorganic

Johnnyorganic

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You might as well unfurl your banner and see if she salutes.

At the next opportunity pull out a big fat joint and spark it up.

If she wants a toke - score!

If she freaks out, so be it.
 
customcloset

customcloset

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dude i had found myself in a similar situation... I had started up smoking weed again about 6 month into my girls and i's relationship. we were living in different area codes at the time and shit sometimes i would be smoking while we on the phone. She knew i had a past of smoking but, she looked at it as a childish thing you grow out of...

So were in the middle of a trip to lets say we live in iowa and we drove to ohio, to visit her family and some graduate schools an 11 hour trip over all (not sure if the example is 11 but go with it) so were right in the middle when this song came on the radio. I immedietly was like this is my jam... so im singing the song... and the refran came up (note at this point of the song i had no idea what song i was singing... i just knew all the words)(I'm a stoner)....

"and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeee eee,
bumb,
bumb,
bumb,

take you out where i used ride,
moon lit night,
moon lit ride,
dun,
dun,
dun,

theres some one i used to see,
but she dont give a damn for me,
so lets get to the point,
lets roll another joint,
lets head on down the road,
there is somewhere i gotta go,

lets turn the radio loud,
I'm to young to be proud,

and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeeee eeee"

So a great stoner song right, and im in my own world, I get done singing and i said, "damn i wish i had some weed with me"

I looked at my gf of 2 years and she was just glairing at me... pissed... she asked me if i still smoked and i was sick of hiding it like she was my fucking mom, i loved this girl, so i was honest... and she got PISSED.

It was good though because we sat the in silence for a half hour, neithor one of us had anywhere to go, and I asked her is she wanted to talk about it. and we did, and there was yelling, but i was able to explain to her, what all of you reading understand...

getting high is sweet, because it gets you high.
thats why you smoke, to get high, and I enjoy that.

yes it is illegal, but so is underage drinking and you dont see people dyeing from weed...
(we all know this argument)

anyway it went well, 5 hours later we had to be hospitable we were out of town... but i think the best part of how i let her know was that there was nowhere for eithor one of us to go... we both we thinking about what was said, and in the end she understood why it was difficult for me to tell her.

So my sugestion, would be to drive 4-5 hours away with her, then tell her. take a trip for the weekend... that way she will have to hear your side of the story, you both have plenty of time to talk, and "just head on down the road there is some where i gotta go" HAHAH

PLUS MUCHO REP+++++ if anybody can get me the name of that song!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Oh yea, that night, yea your going to have to take care of her. just kiss it... HAHA


Good Luck,
CC
 
True Stoner

True Stoner

Active Member
WOW 5 years and she doesnt know and you also grow!!! Is she retarded and cant smell it or your just a pro and can mask all the smells and the grow room!! I would just tell her and u never know she may be a secret smoker as well!!
 
Johnnyorganic

Johnnyorganic

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1twstdFCK said:
i think, if u tell her, after lien 4 2 years..

she might trip balls on u bro..

my girl hates the shit..
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Which is why I suggest such a dramatic introduction of the subject.

If the OP takes a roundabout way of introducing the subject, his girl might take a roundabout way of leaving him should she object.

If he lays all his cards on the table with irrefutable evidence of his cannabis use, she will either accept it or not accept it. Her immediate reaction will determine the fate of the relationship - unless he intends to quit if she goes apeshit.

Either way, it is reasonable for her to be informed this facet of his life at this point in the relationship.
 
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Bob Smith

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Dude, at the end of the day, you're pretty fucked (depending on how you look at it).

Obviously your subconscious knows how she's gonna react, or you would've told her long ago and it wouldn't have been a big deal.

So you know she's gonna have a problem with just your smoking.

That's #1.

#2 is that she's going to be hurt that you've kept this "secret" from her for the last however long, and even if she does get over the smoking weed thing, that mistrust is gonna be lingering in her mind, and first time she can, she's probably going to cheat on you (just saying, it's what girls do).

#3, DON'T TELL HER THAT YOU GROW.

Like for a long, long, long time, until you're absolutely sure that the mistrust/misunderstanding of this whole situation is way, way behind you.

I don't think that this is gonna end well, so try to mitigate your losses, because if she's really hurt, odds are she'll run her mouth to her girlfriends and then the secret's out and you're fucked.

Just my $.02.
 
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TheBlazehero

Active Member
I agree with the previous poster. Definitely do not tell her that you grow. There is no reason to do that, it is none of her business and girls (people really) typically can't keep secrets.

Secondly, I'm surprised no one has suggested this. But I'd just leave a piece out and if she asked about it, I'd be like..."Oh, I must have missed that when I was cleaning up." Then when she starts acting all like, "you smoke weed OMG caw caw caw (like a crow)" then you can be like, "oh ummm, well I assumed you already knew that I smoked, sorry about the misunderstanding...is this a problem for you?" Maybe that is a little shady, but honestly, you don't have an obligation to tell her anything if you don't want to, unless she's asked and you've lied to her about it. That's a different story.
 
Leothwyn

Leothwyn

Well-Known Member
So if you've been with her 5 yrs., and you stopped smoking for 2 yrs... didn't you get an idea of how she'd react in the 3 yrs. that you were with her and smoking?

I'd just tell her. IMO, it's about like you admitting that you enjoy a glass of wine, or a few beers here and there. What's the big deal? Or is she really uptight? If so, might be time to move on.
 
foily

foily

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slomoking13 said:
start out slow by just throwing something out there... for example, get the topic of smoking up and have a long conversation with her about how its not that bad and all (not a conversation implying that you do it, but a general conversation to feel her out more and see what her views are).. if she takes it well, you can lead into to something like this makes me want to start smoking again, then see if she wouldn't mind smoking with you if you could find some from a buddy or something or if she just wouldn't mind if you smoke. I dated a girl for a year that didnt know i smoked, so i just kind of brought it up slowly once i decided i didn't want to hide it anymore.. i decided the best way to do that wouldn't be to just say hey, i have been smoking for the last year... i thought it was easier to "start" smoking and have her be a part of it (even though she didn't realize i was no amateure) and getting to voice her opinions first instead of making it sound like i have been lying to her and then letting her voice her opinions. i think that worked out better in the long run although we did break up after 3 years, but i had gotten her to become a regular smoker!
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Thanks for your reply. I've been thinking about this every day. Your insight was helpful. :):bigjoint:
 
foily

foily

Well-Known Member
323cheezy said:
if she reallly loved u she would except u for who u are.....
pothead or square it shouldnt matter.....
I lost a great girl over weed ..... she was something special....
in her eyes i was a loser pot head..... but fuck that bitch...
Theyre are plenty of fine stoner babes....
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And she does. I'm pretty sure she will not mind. I have a good job. I'm not a dealer and it doesn't affect me negatively... I'm not 16 and wild and crazy any more.. That;s 10 years ago. I'm not out getting arrested. You get my drift...

customcloset said:
dude i had found myself in a similar situation... I had started up smoking weed again about 6 month into my girls and i's relationship. we were living in different area codes at the time and shit sometimes i would be smoking while we on the phone. She knew i had a past of smoking but, she looked at it as a childish thing you grow out of...

So were in the middle of a trip to lets say we live in iowa and we drove to ohio, to visit her family and some graduate schools an 11 hour trip over all (not sure if the example is 11 but go with it) so were right in the middle when this song came on the radio. I immedietly was like this is my jam... so im singing the song... and the refran came up (note at this point of the song i had no idea what song i was singing... i just knew all the words)(I'm a stoner)....

"and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeee eee,
bumb,
bumb,
bumb,

take you out where i used ride,
moon lit night,
moon lit ride,
dun,
dun,
dun,

theres some one i used to see,
but she dont give a damn for me,
so lets get to the point,
lets roll another joint,
lets head on down the road,
there is somewhere i gotta go,

lets turn the radio loud,
I'm to young to be proud,

and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeeee eeee"

So a great stoner song right, and im in my own world, I get done singing and i said, "damn i wish i had some weed with me"

I looked at my gf of 2 years and she was just glairing at me... pissed... she asked me if i still smoked and i was sick of hiding it like she was my fucking mom, i loved this girl, so i was honest... and she got PISSED.

It was good though because we sat the in silence for a half hour, neithor one of us had anywhere to go, and I asked her is she wanted to talk about it. and we did, and there was yelling, but i was able to explain to her, what all of you reading understand...

getting high is sweet, because it gets you high.
thats why you smoke, to get high, and I enjoy that.

yes it is illegal, but so is underage drinking and you dont see people dyeing from weed...
(we all know this argument)

anyway it went well, 5 hours later we had to be hospitable we were out of town... but i think the best part of how i let her know was that there was nowhere for eithor one of us to go... we both we thinking about what was said, and in the end she understood why it was difficult for me to tell her.

So my sugestion, would be to drive 4-5 hours away with her, then tell her. take a trip for the weekend... that way she will have to hear your side of the story, you both have plenty of time to talk, and "just head on down the road there is some where i gotta go" HAHAH

PLUS MUCHO REP+++++ if anybody can get me the name of that song!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Oh yea, that night, yea your going to have to take care of her. just kiss it... HAHA


Good Luck,
CC
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LOL Great idea. I'll need a lot of time to talk to her about it all.

True Stoner said:
WOW 5 years and she doesnt know and you also grow!!! Is she retarded and cant smell it or your just a pro and can mask all the smells and the grow room!! I would just tell her and u never know she may be a secret smoker as well!!
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LMAO.. I grew outside. LOL thanks for the props

Bob Smith said:
Dude, at the end of the day, you're pretty fucked (depending on how you look at it).

Obviously your subconscious knows how she's gonna react, or you would've told her long ago and it wouldn't have been a big deal.

So you know she's gonna have a problem with just your smoking.

That's #1.

#2 is that she's going to be hurt that you've kept this "secret" from her for the last however long, and even if she does get over the smoking weed thing, that mistrust is gonna be lingering in her mind, and first time she can, she's probably going to cheat on you (just saying, it's what girls do).

#3, DON'T TELL HER THAT YOU GROW.

Like for a long, long, long time, until you're absolutely sure that the mistrust/misunderstanding of this whole situation is way, way behind you.

I don't think that this is gonna end well, so try to mitigate your losses, because if she's really hurt, odds are she'll run her mouth to her girlfriends and then the secret's out and you're fucked.

Just my $.02.
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I defiantly won't tell here I grow... LOL I could be like... Here's my 5 oz. LOL could you imagine the look on her face!!!

TheBlazehero said:
I agree with the previous poster. Definitely do not tell her that you grow. There is no reason to do that, it is none of her business and girls (people really) typically can't keep secrets.

Secondly, I'm surprised no one has suggested this. But I'd just leave a piece out and if she asked about it, I'd be like..."Oh, I must have missed that when I was cleaning up." Then when she starts acting all like, "you smoke weed OMG caw caw caw (like a crow)" then you can be like, "oh ummm, well I assumed you already knew that I smoked, sorry about the misunderstanding...is this a problem for you?" Maybe that is a little shady, but honestly, you don't have an obligation to tell her anything if you don't want to, unless she's asked and you've lied to her about it. That's a different story.
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I want to tell her because a true relationship is being honest always. That's what I want from my end so this is what I have to do.

fdd2blk said:
so when do we get an update?
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Soon Mr. HUGE BUSHES

*jealous*


Johnnyorganic said:
Which is why I suggest such a dramatic introduction of the subject.

If the OP takes a roundabout way of introducing the subject, his girl might take a roundabout way of leaving him should she object.

If he lays all his cards on the table with irrefutable evidence of his cannabis use, she will either accept it or not accept it. Her immediate reaction will determine the fate of the relationship - unless he intends to quit if she goes apeshit.

Either way, it is reasonable for her to be informed this facet of his life at this point in the relationship.
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I'm not going to be like. Ohh Here is my crop. Do you like how it smells? Ohh Yeah BTW I SMOKE!!! LOL
 
Johnnyorganic

Johnnyorganic

Well-Known Member
foily said:
I'm not going to be like. Ohh Here is my crop. Do you like how it smells? Ohh Yeah BTW I SMOKE!!! LOL
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For now I am not addressing the growing, just the smoking.

Although eventually you will have no choice but to tell her about the growing.

Before that time comes, it would be better to know now if she has a problem with the smoking.
 
foily

foily

Well-Known Member
Johnnyorganic said:
For now I am not addressing the growing, just the smoking.

Although eventually you will have no choice but to tell her about the growing.

Before that time comes, it would be better to know now if she has a problem with the smoking.
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Totally agree. I am a pot head no doubt but I'm going to start small. I'm nervous don't get me wrong... :/
 
JimmyPot

JimmyPot

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Being in a relationship is about sharing common interest and being able to just chill and be yourself around each other.If your girl does not like who you are move on brother.You should have been up front from the beginning.I hope she is a perfect ten and is worth all the sneaking around and being fake.
 
tebor

tebor

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"and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeee eee,
bumb,
bumb,
bumb,

take you out where i used ride,
moon lit night,
moon lit ride,
dun,
dun,
dun,

theres some one i used to see,
but she dont give a damn for me,
so lets get to the point,
lets roll another joint,
lets head on down the road,
there is somewhere i gotta go,

lets turn the radio loud,
I'm to young to be proud,

and you dont know how it feels,
and you dont know how if feels,
to be meeeee eeee"
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"You Don't Know How It Feels" by Tom Petty
from the 1994 album 'Wildflowers'
Petty is legend. making hits since the 70's. Still drawing larges crowds at concerts.
Wildflowers is his best album IMO.
 
foily

foily

Well-Known Member
Well my friends, the day has come. So.. Where to begin... It all started with her friend, She really likes that show Weeds on showtime so we started watching it. We're at season 4 now and I just softened her up and I couldn't wait any longer... So last night I just threw a bag with about 2 grams in it and she thought at first that I just got some because of the show.. so I explained that I smoke here and there and couldn't handle lying anymore... Of course she was upset that I had been lying to her but over all wasn't too mad. I told her that I'm going to keep smoking and that I would like her to try. She said she would when she's ready. So finally... Thanks guys! :)
 
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