Im sorry, but I still dont see a question that can't be easily found in your numerous resources you've aquired but apperantly haven't read yet.
Lighting - I guarantee you there is a section entitled "lighting" if all 3 of your books and almost every link you have saved. They will most likely go over which lighting sources are best for which growing sitiations, along with detailed information on electricity consumption, light output, quality of light, and what you can expect to produce with said lighting. You will most likely choose to go with cfl or t5, so I would read up on that. They are cheap, effective, heat/energy efficient, and great for small spaces.
**Tldr; To answer your question: No, do not just put it kn your windowsill before you go to school.
Good strains for a first grower, first just find strains that appeal to you, then research them a bit more to see if they will be good fits for your skill level and growing style. There are just tok many to list.
Good places to order include: TheDankTeam, Jamesbean co., Great Lakes Genetics, Midweek Song, @HeadieGardens on IG... And many many others you can find on this very forum in the breeder/seedbank review page... Or all over the newbie forum. Just look for titles such as "where do I get seeds?!!"
Im not sure what you mean by "grow box or go as I learn?" You need an area that is completely sealed and light proof. Light leaks will cause you issues. Get a tent, build a box, or seal your closet.
These are the questions that really erked me:
Soil type?
How much water a day?
Ok, so if you have, in fact, do have the research materials you said you have; and you have, in fact, been "reading up on stuff for weeks now," there should be no need to ask these.
You will find a million posts on here about soils and watering. First of all, watering will depend on several factors such as pot size, size of plants and their roots, heat and humidity. Most likely you will not water daily. You will most likely be watering every 4-5 days at first in a small solo cup or small pot. When you get up to larger pots, your frequencybof watering will greatly depend on the size of plants/root mass compared took ur pot sizes. Research a little on the pot lift method rather than going by days in between.
Many soils will work. It will depend what what you have available to you. I would just suggest adding some pearlite. Number one issue newbies run into is overwatering. If your soil drains well, you will be less likely to make your soil muddy by overwatering. Most people here (including myself) use fox farms ocean forest (ffof) or fox farms happy frog (ffhf) mixed with about 15-30% pearlite. Other popular choices are: ProMix, Sunshine #4, Roots Organic, Black and Gold. Some even use mirical grow with good results (use pearlite!!).
All of your books will go over all of this (except maybe the strains/seeds).