Budley Doright
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Yes that would be nice ..... if I had to choose .Slow and easy with a Morphine drip..
Yes that would be nice ..... if I had to choose .Slow and easy with a Morphine drip..
I prefer Demerol myself but yeah............Slow and easy with a Morphine drip..
I am obviously a lil sensitive, even though I hated the old bastard. I know you didn't mean any offense, I got over myself!Yup forgot spelling . And actaully if wanting out a gun is a great choice except for the mess. Suicide is not a joke though tty your right and sorry man, I lost my best friend to a shotgun and I lost all respect for him, not for what he did to him self, I guess some see no other way, I lost respect for him doing it in the family home and punishing them with that. Anywho happier times....it's almost outdoor season .... wooohooo!
Suicide survivors can be very sensitive, almost PTSD like.. Lost my 16 year old grandson... 2012... Over a girl...I am obviously a lil sensitive, even though I hated the old bastard. I know you didn't mean any offense, I got over myself!
I can relate.My mother-in law is in a nursing home as I said. She's 86. Just a few years ago, she was a lovely, vibrant, talented woman. She was a great singer and had a pretty good recording contract with Decca when she was younger and in recent years gained a bit of acclaim as a portrait and mural painter.
For the last two years she has been bedridden, shits herself everyday, and has severe dementia. We tried to care for her at home, but we just couldn't do it. It was physically and mentally exhausting and the stress was destroying our marriage, so we put her in the NH. She went thru several facilities and one mental facility when she became violent toward the staff. Now she is so weak and out of it that she poses no threat, but it is so sad to see what her life has become. Hubby goes to visit her at least twice a week, and I go as often as I can stand to. I've made a pact with my oldest daughter NOT to let this happen to me.
I'm not trying to minimize the pain of those left behind in any way. I'm just trying to take responsibility for my own feelings and not project them onto others unfairly.Suicide survivors can be very sensitive, almost PTSD like.. Lost my 16 year old grandson... 2012... Over a girl...
Quality of life has little to do with its length. Good for you to be proactive about it and to trust your daughter with what is a very adult topic. A lot of families never manage to do that, no matter how old they get.My mother-in law is in a nursing home as I said. She's 86. Just a few years ago, she was a lovely, vibrant, talented woman. She was a great singer and had a pretty good recording contract with Decca when she was younger and in recent years gained a bit of acclaim as a portrait and mural painter.
For the last two years she has been bedridden, shits herself everyday, and has severe dementia. We tried to care for her at home, but we just couldn't do it. It was physically and mentally exhausting and the stress was destroying our marriage, so we put her in the NH. She went thru several facilities and one mental facility when she became violent toward the staff. Now she is so weak and out of it that she poses no threat, but it is so sad to see what her life has become. Hubby goes to visit her at least twice a week, and I go as often as I can stand to. I've made a pact with my oldest daughter NOT to let this happen to me.
I can relate.Quality of life has little to do with its length. Good for you to be proactive about it and to trust your daughter with what is a very adult topic. A lot of families never manage to do that, no matter how old they get.
Clearly a proud and courageous person, I'm sure it was better to remember her last days at home where she wanted to be than undergoing all those treatments.I can relate.
My mother was diagnosed with cervical cancer & the her oncologist team decided on a very aggressive treatment after surgery. She was violently sick and out of it almost all the time and as a family (her decision too) we decided to stop the treatments. She loved her home and absolutely refused to leave my Dad, said that when she was gone she would leave feet first out the front door.
She got her wish and passed in her own bed surrounded by Dad and the rest of the family.
Sometimes the "Cure" isn't worth it and just makes the remaining time that much worse.
I didn't bring up the gun and would not use one, guns have a bad enough rap lol. Ya I had a rough time at points with my old man but oddly seem to have adapted some of the things I hated the most lol.I am obviously a lil sensitive, even though I hated the old bastard. I know you didn't mean any offense, I got over myself!
I wasn't trying to be funny. My point was that healthy people do not want to dwindle away because of irreversible physical or mental illness and that suicide is an option instead of rotting away in a nursing home. Whether you overdose, sit in the garage with car exhaust, or use a gun - the end result is the same.Not funny. That's how my grandfather checked out.
I don't believe in funerals - when you're gone, you're gone. Regardless of how it ends, whether it be naturally or self inflicted, there is nothing positive about it. If I am in constant pain, diagnosed with alzheimers or an incurable disease, I'm going to end it. My friends and relatives would understand, agree, and support my decision.Just remember that funerals are for the living. The dead don't really care one way or the other.
Don't inflict any more pain than necessary when choosing an end game. Make it positive. Guns and ropes don't do that.