Android spy app needed

Olive Drab Green

Olive Drab Green

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IgrowUgrow said:
Well if I don't spy on her and she is cheating on me, what happens if I don't find out until years down the road then I'm fucked and will have to start over. I am in love deeply with her and that's why I worry so much. If she would just tell me how she feels and what she desires we would be much happier.
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Who gives a fuck if she’s cheating on you and you find out years later? You think you’re justified in invading her privacy and bugging her phone? If you’re acting paranoid like this, or if trust is suddenly this much of an issue for you, your relationship is likely ruined already, and you’re allowing it to be ruined by your immaturity. If you really care that much, chill your neurotic ass out and stop acting like a whiny bitch. Otherwise, move on like a man and do what’s right for you.

I’m kind of getting the feeling I know why she might cheat on you. She’s probably not into women.

..A fucking spy app?

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Cannabis.Queen

Cannabis.Queen

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Olive Drab Green said:
Who gives a fuck if she’s cheating on you and you find out years later? You think you’re justified in invading her privacy and bugging her phone? If you’re acting paranoid like this, or if trust is suddenly this much of an issue for you, your relationship is likely ruined already, and you’re allowing it to be ruined by your immaturity. If you really care that much, chill your neurotic ass out and stop acting like a whiny bitch. Otherwise, move on like a man and do what’s right for you.

I’m kind of getting the feeling I know why she might cheat on you. She’s probably not into women.

..A fucking spy app?

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Fubard

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Olive Drab Green said:
Who gives a fuck if she’s cheating on you and you find out years later? You think you’re justified in invading her privacy and bugging her phone? If you’re acting paranoid like this, or if trust is suddenly this much of an issue for you, your relationship is likely ruined already, and you’re allowing it to be ruined by your immaturity. If you really care that much, chill your neurotic ass out and stop acting like a whiny bitch. Otherwise, move on like a man and do what’s right for you.

I’m kind of getting the feeling I know why she might cheat on you. She’s probably not into women.

..A fucking spy app?

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Be careful, you might get splinters in your arse from sitting on that fence
 
Underground Scientist

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Sorry, but I've seen this shit done, so be advised, the tech is crazy. Know a guy who loved a chick who was great at lying and manipulating. He'd be convinced, then, no bro, we talked and she would never do that to me. It was kinda pathetic though. He got sketched out enough to download an app on her phone that wasn't visible. He showed me he could log in, look at all texts, all call logs, voice mails, deleted shit, everything. If he paid more he could turn the mic or cam on and off in real time. It's fucked up. He finally saw it all...fucked him right up.

So really though, do you want to know it all? You know what time it is, engaged, feel trapped, no real proof. How much dough is on her finger? We're you too eager to ask? How long did you wait to ask?

I guess I'm kinda a pessimist when it comes to people, people are fucked up. Who can you trust? The list is small and can change. Few people are actually in touch with themselves and are just reacting based on life experience and impulses without any self discipline. They just make up narratives to justify how they act and shift blame.

I'll just end my rant on, if she is fucking around, then ask what you are doing wrong. Yeah, it's fucked she would disrespect you like that, but you might be behaving in a way that's triggering it. Not saying it's all your fault, but if you fail to look at that angle, you might set yourself up for a repeat session of this, or settle for less than you can get just for the security. Choose, Dust Yourself Off, and Own It
 
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greg nr

greg nr

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Installing an app like that likely would cross the line on multiple felonies. People go to jail for stuff like that. And, your new jail fiance will still cheat on you. ;)

But more seriously, it is a dick move. Man up. Stalkers are pussies.

Either trust her, accept her for what she is, or leave. You don't get to be a sniveling weasel.

Is that clear enough?
 
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Fubard

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tyler.durden said:
What is this thread about?
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Someone with a major insecurity complex who wants to make sure his woman tells him to go fuck himself by secretly installing spyware on her phone, especially since he's already ruined any chance of a future with her because he's so paranoid.

I think that sums it up
 
IgrowUgrow

IgrowUgrow

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Thanks for all the advise people of RIU, even those with a sense of humor. I have thought long and hard on this and I just came to the conclusion that I'm not going to install any spyware. I will not worry about it one more second of my life. I don't think she is cheating, I did confront her and told her everything I was feeling and right after she got a new phone with a new number without me asking. She has been spending more time with me and not hiding her phone from me. I think she is scared of being alone and likes to keep in touch with ex bf just incase we break up. I'm not sure but that's how it seems. I don't even look at her phone anymore, I decided it's not worth my sanity. I still feel like we have serious communication issues and if it's a topic she doesn't want to talk about she won't talk. I guess the biggest problem was that she doesn't show love very well, she also sucks at keeping in touch when we are away from each other. I get generic responses over text and basically talk to myself when I call, she never calls me are rarely text first. She gets distracted easy when I am trying to text her. There are alot of issues but I love her and I know she loves me but I think her parents relationship has alot to do with how she sees a relationship. Her father is always out of town and when he is home her parents act like friends. I never see them cuddling, kissing, flirting, ect. Idk I feel like she has seen her parents so distant her whole life so she doesn't know how to show love. I just feel like I do all the work in the relationship, from talking to having sex. I start the conversations, I kiss her first and am almost always the one to initiate a kiss or hug or say "I love you". I always intiate sex which makes me feel bad because I feel like she didn't want it. I almost always do all the work during sex and it's usually boring really because she isn't on my level sexually. Blowjobs and handjobs are basically non existent anymore. She finishes really fast most of the time and leaves me hanging every now and then saying I'm hurting her. I asked her to go to couples therapy with me to work on communication. I know I sounded like a paranoid sneaky weasel to begin with but I'm not like that around her. I don't ask her where she has been or whom she was with, I don't bug her about likes or comments on social media, I don't take her phone and Snoop anymore, I don't accuse her of anuthing. If I feel concerned or worried or threatened, I tell her how I feel. The problem is getting her to talk about stuff, she just isn't good at communicating and when someone has nothing to say it makes you over think everything and feel ignored. Like my feelings don't matter, when she is mad at me it could be days before she acts normal again and actually forgives me after hours of ignoring me. If I'm upset or mad about something no matter the severity it's like I'm not allowed to be, she won't allow me to stay upset. She will get mad at me for being mad and I fall for it every time. What is mean is I will be mad and she will get mad that I'm mad and just go to sleep and not talk to me about what I'm mad about then she says I'm aggravating her. I tried to tell her that it doesn't matter how petty something is if it upsets me she should understand and respect that. If she gets upset over something petty I apologize even if I think it's stupid because I know it hurt her feelings or upset her someway and it doesn't matter what I think because either way she is upset and me being a loving bf I don't want to see her upset so even if I don't understand what I did I try to and apologize for what I may have said or done.
 
tangerinegreen555

tangerinegreen555

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IgrowUgrow said:
Thanks for all the advise people of RIU, even those with a sense of humor. I have thought long and hard on this and I just came to the conclusion that I'm not going to install any spyware. I will not worry about it one more second of my life. I don't think she is cheating, I did confront her and told her everything I was feeling and right after she got a new phone with a new number without me asking. She has been spending more time with me and not hiding her phone from me. I think she is scared of being alone and likes to keep in touch with ex bf just incase we break up. I'm not sure but that's how it seems. I don't even look at her phone anymore, I decided it's not worth my sanity. I still feel like we have serious communication issues and if it's a topic she doesn't want to talk about she won't talk. I guess the biggest problem was that she doesn't show love very well, she also sucks at keeping in touch when we are away from each other. I get generic responses over text and basically talk to myself when I call, she never calls me are rarely text first. She gets distracted easy when I am trying to text her. There are alot of issues but I love her and I know she loves me but I think her parents relationship has alot to do with how she sees a relationship. Her father is always out of town and when he is home her parents act like friends. I never see them cuddling, kissing, flirting, ect. Idk I feel like she has seen her parents so distant her whole life so she doesn't know how to show love. I just feel like I do all the work in the relationship, from talking to having sex. I start the conversations, I kiss her first and am almost always the one to initiate a kiss or hug or say "I love you". I always intiate sex which makes me feel bad because I feel like she didn't want it. I almost always do all the work during sex and it's usually boring really because she isn't on my level sexually. Blowjobs and handjobs are basically non existent anymore. She finishes really fast most of the time and leaves me hanging every now and then saying I'm hurting her. I asked her to go to couples therapy with me to work on communication. I know I sounded like a paranoid sneaky weasel to begin with but I'm not like that around her. I don't ask her where she has been or whom she was with, I don't bug her about likes or comments on social media, I don't take her phone and Snoop anymore, I don't accuse her of anuthing. If I feel concerned or worried or threatened, I tell her how I feel. The problem is getting her to talk about stuff, she just isn't good at communicating and when someone has nothing to say it makes you over think everything and feel ignored. Like my feelings don't matter, when she is mad at me it could be days before she acts normal again and actually forgives me after hours of ignoring me. If I'm upset or mad about something no matter the severity it's like I'm not allowed to be, she won't allow me to stay upset. She will get mad at me for being mad and I fall for it every time. What is mean is I will be mad and she will get mad that I'm mad and just go to sleep and not talk to me about what I'm mad about then she says I'm aggravating her. I tried to tell her that it doesn't matter how petty something is if it upsets me she should understand and respect that. If she gets upset over something petty I apologize even if I think it's stupid because I know it hurt her feelings or upset her someway and it doesn't matter what I think because either way she is upset and me being a loving bf I don't want to see her upset so even if I don't understand what I did I try to and apologize for what I may have said or done.
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