I think I might hate my dad

[panhead]

All this parental hatred saddens me,at some point in life its going to hit you that they really did have your best interests at heart.

I call bullshit on you looking for work Nusky,maybe your dad see's the amount of time wasted on this site alone,i know i see it,take the time you spend here at riu & use it looking for work & BINGO you just trippled your chance of landing a job.

How's about video games,ive yet to meet a 25 yr old who dont spend hours on video games,hows about your texting habits,another thing youth can waste countless hours on without even being aware of it.

I see a young man who's priorities are all fucked up & your home situation sucks because of it,you cant find work but you find time for leisure activitys,you dont have a job but you have a qp your selling from his home ? You desperately need a job yet you feel you have the time to invest in not only random forum talk but you have enough time to moderate ! Anything ringing a bell here,your 1st thought was a slug move which was to apply for low income housing.

This shit sickens me,put the fuckin chips down,turn off the damm internet,stop playin video games & countless hours on texting & get your ass out looking for work.

Oh,& when you do look everywhere for work & have some spare time stop eatin those fuckin chips & laying around your dads house on toke n talk,instead use your time in his home mowing his lawn,paint something,wash the family cars,clean the garage & basement,or just throw another hissy fit & throw shit like an irate school girl,its your choice,one thing i know is respect is earned & you wont earn it laying around,smashing chips & modding an internet site all day.

 

[Urca]

you know what the funny thing is? you hate your dad soo much, when really if it came down to it, he'd have your back.
yes, my mom has done fucked up shit to me, yes, sometimes i cant stand her. but i love her so much it hurts to think of what she must think of me, cause she likes my sister better. yeah she picks on me, yeah she's harsh on me at times.... but then i know she does it out of love, i know my mom loves me very much, and those actions only happen 30% of the time, so i can forgive.
and your dad loves you. just because they make foolish mistakes doesnt mean you say "i hate you". forgive him

 

[Sgt. Floyd]

If you're 25, live at home and have a minimum wage job you should probably be working harder than you are. And you probably shouldn't be smoking pot.

 

[rowlman]

you know what the funny thing is? you hate your dad soo much, when really if it came down to it, he'd have your back.
yes, my mom has done fucked up shit to me, yes, sometimes i cant stand her. but i love her so much it hurts to think of what she must think of me, cause she likes my sister better. yeah she picks on me, yeah she's harsh on me at times.... but then i know she does it out of love, i know my mom loves me very much, and those actions only happen 30% of the time, so i can forgive.
and your dad loves you. just because they make foolish mistakes doesnt mean you say "i hate you". forgive him

Have my back...lol...he just stabed me in it
I'm glad your dad has yours, but you'll learn that there is true evil in this world...I'll go to Hell before I ever forgive him for anything
...this thread is fun.

 

[Nusky]

All this parental hatred saddens me,at some point in life its going to hit you that they really did have your best interests at heart.

I call bullshit on you looking for work Nusky,maybe your dad see's the amount of time wasted on this site alone,i know i see it,take the time you spend here at riu & use it looking for work & BINGO you just trippled your chance of landing a job.

How's about video games,ive yet to meet a 25 yr old who dont spend hours on video games,hows about your texting habits,another thing youth can waste countless hours on without even being aware of it.

I see a young man who's priorities are all fucked up & your home situation sucks because of it,you cant find work but you find time for leisure activitys,you dont have a job but you have a qp your selling from his home ? You desperately need a job yet you feel you have the time to invest in not only random forum talk but you have enough time to moderate ! Anything ringing a bell here,your 1st thought was a slug move which was to apply for low income housing.

This shit sickens me,put the fuckin chips down,turn off the damm internet,stop playin video games & countless hours on texting & get your ass out looking for work.

Oh,& when you do look everywhere for work & have some spare time stop eatin those fuckin chips & laying around your dads house on toke n talk,instead use your time in his home mowing his lawn,paint something,wash the family cars,clean the garage & basement,or just throw another hissy fit & throw shit like an irate school girl,its your choice,one thing i know is respect is earned & you wont earn it laying around,smashing chips & modding an internet site all day.

It's not that I hate him, that was just a word I chose for the thread title. He really pisses me off and the worst thing is when he lectures you he just doesn't shut up. You get the point, you tell him you get the point yet he still will ramble on about the point. It just makes me want to punch him in the face and tell him to shut up. My mom does the same thing, tells him to shut the hell up.

I don't play video games at all. I only know 1 person who stayed in my province that I'm friends with, everybody else moved.

Most jobs are online only applying so its very easy to apply. I have 24 hours a day to do things. It doesn't take 24 hours to look for a job. Once you apply to every place close theres nothing to do for a few weeks until people quit.

I've had many jobs, I worked at wal mart for 5 years full time. I worked security for 2 years. I've worked at 2 other grocery stores too. I was at wal mart when this happend and I was selling QPs every week to fellow employees. My parents already told me to leave the house as a hollow threat and wanted me to apply for low income housing so I did, its not my choice, they're very dirty and full of bed bugs. I have a $1600 bed that I bought my self that I don't want ruined.

I don't have to do anything around the house, it's HIS house. I'm 25 and I'll help but I'll be fucking damned if I'm going to improve HIS house when I get fuck all from it. Buy me a slurpee or something and I'll gladly do it.

 

[Urca]

i meant that for nusky, not for you rowlman. im sure that your dad was terrible, from the way you talk about him.

 

[rowlman]

maybe we got the same dad lol are you my 1/2 brother?

I'd love a brother ( or sister...lol)...but I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

 

[rowlman]

i meant that for nusky, not for you rowlman. im sure that your dad was terrible, from the way you talk about him.

...lol...sorry...he wasn't terrible, he wasn't anything but a peice of shit.... since my accident he's been dragging me through court, stealing my money, lieing to my kids, stealing their money, sueing me for money he gave them,sending the COPS to my house to seize my assets if I didn't have $3700 for a bullshit lawsuit, because I wouldn't give him control over my settlement money...he didn't raise me,I have a step-dad,he only showed up when he knew I had money coming...he did this to many others too, not just me...he's a fuckin snake

 

[Filthy Phil]

It's not that I hate him, that was just a word I chose for the thread title. He really pisses me off and the worst thing is when he lectures you he just doesn't shut up. You get the point, you tell him you get the point yet he still will ramble on about the point. It just makes me want to punch him in the face and tell him to shut up. My mom does the same thing, tells him to shut the hell up.

I don't play video games at all. I only know 1 person who stayed in my province that I'm friends with, everybody else moved.

Most jobs are online only applying so its very easy to apply. I have 24 hours a day to do things. It doesn't take 24 hours to look for a job. Once you apply to every place close theres nothing to do for a few weeks until people quit.

I've had many jobs, I worked at wal mart for 5 years full time. I worked security for 2 years. I've worked at 2 other grocery stores too. I was at wal mart when this happend and I was selling QPs every week to fellow employees. My parents already told me to leave the house as a hollow threat and wanted me to apply for low income housing so I did, its not my choice, they're very dirty and full of bed bugs. I have a $1600 bed that I bought my self that I don't want ruined.

I don't have to do anything around the house, it's HIS house. I'm 25 and I'll help but I'll be fucking damned if I'm going to improve HIS house when I get fuck all from it. Buy me a slurpee or something and I'll gladly do it.

wow man, you gotta slow down. Everyone has had problems with their parents, some worse than others, some a lot worse than others, but he have all had issues. And because of that we have all said some shit that we regret having said, even if it wasnt to them. Try to recognize that the intensity that your father puts out is equal to the intensity of his love for you. If it werent true, he would have thrown you out already. With that said, I will admit, your dad sounds like a bit of an asshole. BUT... that doesnt mean that you cant love an asshole. (insert gay joke here i guess) A lot of time in family issues people get pissed and dont talk for years. Eventually they realize they are still pissed, yet it isnt important enough BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AND THEY LOVE YOU. You may realize he's an asshole, but that you love him anyways.
Moving on... think of how you would feel in his situation. And dont rationalize based on what you would WANT yourself to do, what would you actually do if the son you had a million aspirations for, the son you gave all your blood sweat and tears for didnt want to take life by the horns. If you son didnt care. AND THEN that same son resents you because you wish he did care, that son resents you for having intensely the best of wishes for him. Its unfair. Yes, i know, he's an asshole... but you only get one chance to be a person of integrity. Do what you can to make sure when you are a real adult that you will know that you did the right thing. Recognize your father has no obligation to you at this point, you obtain no entitlement because you are supposed to be a real man by now. Dont resent him for that, it is truly for your best. If he allowed it all you would not turn out right. This is the hard part about being a man... you gotta suck it up and dive in head first. You're going in either way, but be a man about it. You'll be glad you did.
So accept you dad is an asshole who really loves you. Agree to disagree. Prove him wrong. Get a real job, not walmart or security, do something he doubts you can do. When you accomplish that, like said befor, take a nice huge rip off a spliff and say, "you were wrong about me dad. Im the fuckin man!" Prove him wrong and be a man!

 

[Filthy Phil]

oh, and also, after you apply to a job, there IS more to do, not just sit and wait. thats how you DONT get a job. After you apply, you call three days later to ask if anyone has had a chance to review your application. You follow up a few days later IN PERSON. you have to hunt it down. Who wants to hire the guy that goes, "yeah...i think that was good enough to pass..." especially in this economy.

 

[Marlboro47]

Imho try to turn that hate around to loving him 1 of 10. Jesus says that if you love your parents more then him your not worthy of his love, so your sorta on the right track... Just admit to yourself that deep down inside your lucky to be alive.

My parents are never above 3 of 10, they always mess up or try to get me pissed off by asking "what," or they just pretend they don't understand me.
I live by myself in a way(in my own room), I only talk to them when its time for chores or to help them or dinner or shopping or anything that doesn't involve me having fun with them.
Usually they just seem retarded to me but, thats because I lack understanding...
Im sure that their seceretly making me smart as fuck by doing what they do.
Probably gonna help me control my anger too when I have to deal with people that don't understand.

 

[lambofgod]

If you don't like what you're doing, you can always pick up your needle and move to another groove. -Timothy Leery

....words to live by.

 

[ganjames]

i've never understood how people can't find jobs, just go on craigslist... help is needed all over the fucking place. when you're an adult just filling out job applications and then sitting at home waiting for an interview isn't enough. when i was a kid and times were tough for us, we would push the lawnmower around knocking on random peoples doors and asking if they needed their lawns cut... during the winter it was snow shoveling. go for the houses with small yards and driveways, you're guaranteed 15-20 bucks each house. not only will you be making money, but you will be losing weight and showing your dad you're not a bum (which is most likely what he thinks).

 

[lambofgod]

i've never understood how people can't find jobs, just go on craigslist... help is needed all over the fucking place. when you're an adult just filling out job applications and then sitting at home waiting for an interview isn't enough. when i was a kid and times were tough for us, we would push the lawnmower around knocking on random peoples doors and asking if they needed their lawns cut... during the winter it was snow shoveling. go for the houses with small yards and driveways, you're guaranteed 15-20 bucks each house. not only will you be making money, but you will be losing weight and showing your dad you're not a bum (which is most likely what he thinks).

not to mention the mass market created by prohibition.

 

[Nusky]

meh I'm moving out anyway and I'm buying a 1000 watt HPS system. Gonna grow and sell to my friends and their friends. I'm not really worried about a job at all. One of the perks of being through the psych ward is they help you get monthly money for having a problem. I get $720 a month. Rent is 25% of your gross income. So I only need to sell 2 ounces a month to live comfortable enough.

 

[lambofgod]

meh I'm moving out anyway and I'm buying a 1000 watt HPS system. Gonna grow and sell to my friends and their friends. I'm not really worried about a job at all. One of the perks of being through the psych ward is they help you get monthly money for having a problem. I get $720 a month. Rent is 25% of your gross income. So I only need to sell 2 ounces a month to live comfortable enough.

this is not the only time I have found your statements to be completely absurd and offensive.

 

[ganjames]

this is not the only time I have found your statements to be completely absurd and offensive.

dude you can do so much better than that, i'm a fucking dropout with a ged for christ sakes and i make that $720 in less than a week.

 

[Dizzle Frost]

you know what the funny thing is? you hate your dad soo much, when really if it came down to it, he'd have your back.
yes, my mom has done fucked up shit to me, yes, sometimes i cant stand her. but i love her so much it hurts to think of what she must think of me, cause she likes my sister better. yeah she picks on me, yeah she's harsh on me at times.... but then i know she does it out of love, i know my mom loves me very much, and those actions only happen 30% of the time, so i can forgive.
and your dad loves you. just because they make foolish mistakes doesnt mean you say "i hate you". forgive him

well ill let you in on a lil something lol....some of our dads arent gonn ahave our backs....when i was a lil kid growin up and if i got into a fight, no matter how many kids wanted to fight me my dad would lock the door and let me come in when it was finished...he told me it would make me tougher knowing i was all alone in fights ............i was 9

 

[lambofgod]

dude you can do so much better than that, i'm a fucking dropout with a ged for christ sakes and i make that $720 in less than a week.

my point being, this isnt the first time I've heard Nusky's abuse of the system. His intentions to live of government money and fund a growing operation to "slang" weeds to his buddies is offensive.

In reality, Nusky should think for himself....

You should think about getting an education, a degree...a CAREER. Cause I will let you in on a little piece of advice, your delusions of grandeur are just that...a delusion.

Never assume you could grow for a lifetime...for this bubble will burst.

 

[Nusky]

this is not the only time I have found your statements to be completely absurd and offensive.

theres nothing absurd about it. My car was rear ended and written off, with the insurance money they owe me from the rest of the year, I'm buying a 1000 watt HPS system. I already have an 250CFM inline fan, 21 seeds, and the nutrients plus I've grown a few times before. Maybe its offensive to you for me to be living off the system and selling pot for profit, but I plan on doing it the rest of my life and eventually owning a green house selling hydroponic tomatoes to restaurants. I really don't care what you or anyone else thinks about it. Nobody cared when they force fed me full of pharmaceuticals so why should I care about anyone else?