I don't know what to title this..
- Thread starter BackDoorMan
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And my father-in-law has now taken to drinking up all my creamer at night. Here we go again. 
gogrow
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good relationships start with good friendships; and stay that way... i am my wife's best friend, and she is mine.... thats why it works out... he didnt just say he is after the "poon"... he says he really cares for this woman...
gogrow
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probably because his feelings are taboo... and he is getting nothing but useless opinions from most of the posters... most of them sound like young, single guys who dont know what it means to care for someone; much less a child
... poor guy came asking for REAL advice...
Seamaiden
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I wonder if he started getting pm's, too. I've seen it happen to others if they talk about something that brings about strong emotions from people.probably because his feelings are taboo... and he is getting nothing but useless opinions from most of the posters... most of them sound like young, single guys who dont know what it means to care for someone; much less a child
BackDoorMan
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probably because his feelings are taboo... and he is getting nothing but useless opinions from most of the posters... most of them sound like young, single guys who dont know what it means to care for someone; much less a child
There you have it.. thats why I deleted the original post.. I try to convence myself that I don;t care about her.. and you know.. I may never get with her.. but that wont make me stop caring anyless
BackDoorMan
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yeah.. and it sucks.. cause all i think is why?.. or why not? ya know? oh well...
gogrow
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nothing hurts worse than to love something you cannot have..... i still say that you shouldnt keep your feelings to yourself... if nothing else, you have the right to tell her, and she has the right to know.. even if you consider it to be an unspoken understanding... may not be that way..
Seamaiden
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That, my friend, is called "spinning", and it's just no good. It's one thing to examine yourself, maybe even in the mirror. But it's another to keep digging in such a way, because there just may be no other answer except something as mundane as timing.
HoppusTheCaveman
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probably the same reason why I delete some of the posts I've made on here. maybe he expected more. maybe just to vent in a weird sort of way. chances of actually meeting you in person ore slim to none, so you just unveil a lot more on here or anywhere on the internet. like, I would love to just tell everyone about a particular girl that really makes/made me an emotional wreck, but I just know better not to tell people that shit and to just keep it to myself....I mean no offense by that BackDoorMan, I've said/done some stuff on here that had a lot of my feelings on here before as well. I just don't do it anymore because I'm under the impression no one really cares and that I can't really trust EVERYONE on here as cool and awesome as most of you guys are.
gogrow
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you'll probably change your mind once you've been here longer... sure there are alot of people that you dont want to know your shit, but at the same time, you will actually develop friendships with some of the people here... and you dont care if the rest read your emotions because as you said, what are the chances of you meeting them??? none unless you want to...
HoppusTheCaveman
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true, but I've also come to the conclusion that me on the computer, is not much different than me in person. quiet and conservative. I have a difficult time talking amongst large groups of people for the chance of rejection. I'm extremely difficult to become friends with because I barely talk EVER to anyone. I'm a very awkward person to try and start a conversation with because all I ever say is "yeah" and maybe something that just kills the mood of everything. I guarantee that the majority of discontinued threads have me as the last one to post something because of this lol.
and also, I'm barely friends with my friends I have now. people I've known all my life, THEY barely know me. expecting me to become comfortable with a bunch of people in a relatively short amount of time is like expecting a stereo to turn into a cupcake in a spontaneous act of something.
gogrow
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i know exactly where you are coming from, just on the other end of the spectrum.... im the guy to say too much in alot of situations... i am very free with telling people about myself... at least you know who i am really quick... the threads i start tend to go nowhere fast too... so i just jump into everyone else's
.... and i can make people like you open up; i suppose because i am so free, people dont have a problem sharing back with me... can definately be a hinderence at times though
HoppusTheCaveman
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I'm that guy when I'm really highi know exactly where you are coming from, just on the other end of the spectrum.... im the guy to say too much in alot of situations... i am very free with telling people about myself... at least you know who i am really quick... the threads i start tend to go nowhere fast too... so i just jump into everyone else's
HoppusTheCaveman
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true, but I just don't trust them. all they do is make fun of me being depressed. there is one person though that I probably could tell everything to, but I'm slowly losing contact with him. another thing with this friend, the mood that I'm usually in is because of some chick, and her and him happen to be really good friends, and I've said it all to him before, and I'd rather not talk about it anymore because what happened, happened (about 8 months ago) and I realize my childishness/selfishness about the whole situation. I'm more of an independent person too.
to add on to my current friends, I usually end up hating all of my friends for no reason at all. to explain my train of thought and feelings is like me trying to explain string theory. I know next to nothing about it.
gogrow
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"friends" that make fun of you for your mood/feelings are not friends... i have one person in life that i can call friend no matter what... i can call him in the middle of the night crying like a baby... no judgement, because the man actually cares about me... that is a friend... same for him from me... i have been through more "friends" in my life than most people, cause i, like you, end up at some point saying "fuck em"... but i've come to realize that these people were just aquaintances.... as far as im concerned, as long as you have at least one TRUE friend in life, you are doing better than most people.... but your one buddy, if he is a true friend, dont let that go idle... but if he really cares, he wont let it happen either.... just cause he talks to her doesnt mean he has to bring it up with you... or take sides with her....