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gogrow said:

"friends" that make fun of you for your mood/feelings are not friends... i have one person in life that i can call friend no matter what... i can call him in the middle of the night crying like a baby... no judgement, because the man actually cares about me... that is a friend... same for him from me... i have been through more "friends" in my life than most people, cause i, like you, end up at some point saying "fuck em"... but i've come to realize that these people were just aquaintances.... as far as im concerned, as long as you have at least one TRUE friend in life, you are doing better than most people.... but your one buddy, if he is a true friend, dont let that go idle... but if he really cares, he wont let it happen either.... just cause he talks to her doesnt mean he has to bring it up with you... or take sides with her....

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yeah, he aknowledges me as one of his better friends. someone that has that little extra space for me as well as a few select others. he feels comfortable talking to me about real personal things. he compares me to his big brother. I see him as a bro too.

as for my other friends, I have thought about how 10-15 years from now, they'll just be a memory. we won't be able to keep in touch with one another. it's SO hard to keep good friends like that. I see my parents, and the friends that they have now are ones they have recently met. they don't talk to their childhood friends. shit happens and I've come to accept that. more or less why I insist on hating most of my friends at one point or another. the only person I can think of that I may have a chance of being really good friends with is my one buddy I talk so highly about.

HoppusTheCaveman said:

yeah, he aknowledges me as one of his better friends. someone that has that little extra space for me as well as a few select others. he feels comfortable talking to me about real personal things. he compares me to his big brother. I see him as a bro too.

as for my other friends, I have thought about how 10-15 years from now, they'll just be a memory. we won't be able to keep in touch with one another. it's SO hard to keep good friends like that. I see my parents, and the friends that they have now are ones they have recently met. they don't talk to their childhood friends. shit happens and I've come to accept that. more or less why I insist on hating most of my friends at one point or another. the only person I can think of that I may have a chance of being really good friends with is my one buddy I talk so highly about.

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my friend knows as much about me as does my wife.... and it can be hard to keep good friends... i know, me and my boy have had to struggle to keep in touch as he has moved to 4different states, gotten engaged, had it break off, and then put himself through college... during this time, i have went through a crack addiction, gotten married, had a child, and waiting on number two... but neither one of us were willing to lose the one person that we could really rely on no matter what... not to call you out, but you say you insist on hating them all at some point, yet your signature says the only lost causes are the ones you give up on... is that hypocritical, or is it honesty with yourself??? and if you dont want to continue this in this thread, feel free to hit me up in a pm... im more comfortable with that myself...

Don't worry about your friend count! I have ONE good friend here, and we've lived in the area for four years now. Sure, I have acquaintances, friendly even. But someone I wouldn't mind just dropping by unannounced? Nope, Ted & Norene are the only ones who aren't family that I don't mind having around frequently (and we do have some family members I would be pretty fuckin' pissed about if they just showed up unannounced).

HoppusTheCaveman said:

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I've said/done some stuff on here that had a lot of my feelings on here before as well. I just don't do it anymore because I'm under the impression no one really cares and that I can't really trust EVERYONE on here as cool and awesome as most of you guys are.

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Most of the people here cannot be trusted, Hoppus. There are a few, hell, there are plenty. But they cannot stop the others from being hurtful.

HoppusTheCaveman said:

I'm extremely difficult to become friends with because I barely talk EVER to anyone. I'm a very awkward person to try and start a conversation with because all I ever say is "yeah" and maybe something that just kills the mood of everything. I guarantee that the majority of discontinued threads have me as the last one to post something because of this lol.

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Pff! I can get almost anyone conversatin', Hoppus. All I need is for that person to work with me. Cuz if you don't, I'll just go on and on and on. Just kidding! You know that one of the most difficult things is to just hang with someone and NOT talk? Now, that takes some serious chill.

Seamaiden said:

Pff! I can get almost anyone conversatin', Hoppus. All I need is for that person to work with me. Cuz if you don't, I'll just go on and on and on. Just kidding! You know that one of the most difficult things is to just hang with someone and NOT talk? Now, that takes some serious chill.

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it's more so patience with me than anything. if you are willing to sit their and try to start a conversation with me, then you're golden. many don't have the patience enough to sit there and deal with my "yeah's" and nods and all that. it doesn't take long to get past all that, I'll show interest sooner or later. I am indeed superchill and could go a day hanging out with someone and not really talk too much. smoking changes that though haha. I don't shut up when I'm high.

Hee! People used to say, "Who put a nickel in 'Seamaiden'?" when I got high.

Sometimes people just need quietness, and that's alright. It's one of the reasons I like dogs (that don't bark a lot).

I went over to this dude's house and hung out for hours at a time and never said anything but "um, a half, you got change".. and this went on for like, months before me and her started talking..

you just gotta work on that shit hoppus.. we all have the same fears of rejectyion and we are all afraid of being the party killer, so fuck 'em.. say your shit and sya it fuckin proud (just evaluate it before you say it... I'm still having that problem).. I've been in GED classes for almost a month now and besides the people I ride with and the instructiors, I don;t speak to anybody...

I just pretend that who-ever i'm talking to is like, slightly stupid or something and just try to keep it simple.. my problem is once I start talking, like gogrow there, I just start lettin shit fly and stop processing and filtering and befor eyou know it i'm on a pedlestool preaching the way's to fix the world, and come off like a fuckin dick or something..

asfar as people fuckin with you about your emotions man, don;t.. I'm a real fuckin emotinal guy... hell I cry at the end of big daddy everytime.. just because someone's not emotinally intellegent enough to be intouch with whats goin on inside of them.. fuck 'em

to UPDATE everyone.. I got up monday morning, went out there and spent 4 hours laying it out for her.. went back the next day and talked about it some more, and now i'm confused..lol..

Seamaiden said:

Don't worry about your friend count! I have ONE good friend here, and we've lived in the area for four years now. Sure, I have acquaintances, friendly even. But someone I wouldn't mind just dropping by unannounced? Nope, Ted & Norene are the only ones who aren't family that I don't mind having around frequently (and we do have some family members I would be pretty fuckin' pissed about if they just showed up unannounced).

Most of the people here cannot be trusted, Hoppus. There are a few, hell, there are plenty. But they cannot stop the others from being hurtful.
Pff! I can get almost anyone conversatin', Hoppus. All I need is for that person to work with me. Cuz if you don't, I'll just go on and on and on. Just kidding! You know that one of the most difficult things is to just hang with someone and NOT talk? Now, that takes some serious chill.

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See, thats me.. I can fuckin hang out with you for fuckin hours on end, and not say a fuckin word, and be happy that you didn;t say shit either I think thats a real friend, someone you can chill with for hours and not sya shit besides, whats up, and later....lol..