It is naive to say that republicans and democrats are the same.
Republicans are cutting funding for medical services for the poor. Next year about 2 million children will lose healthcare benefits. Of those children several thousand will die or live disabled. Republicans are pushing for even deeper cuts. Democrats would expand coverage, not shrink it. This is but one example of a very stark and clear difference between the two parties.
Regarding your naivete, I submit that if you had a kid that depended on those programs, you'd be less likely to overlook the depredations of the radical right. I submit that it would be difficult to have a civil conversation with people who support removing your child from access to health care.
Let's compare your demand for civil conversation with an earlier reply where you mocked me for saying the the tax bill was literally killing people. Pot calling the kettle black, much?
When an ICE agent appears in a Hispanic neighborhood, it sends a message that spreads fear in the community. People living there have mothers and fathers who can be deported by those agents. If you were one of those people, you wouldn't be so blase about the foolish anti-Hispanic police action the Trump administration is so devoted to carrying out.
Basically, you are a white male living in Utah who can only be blase about the actions of the reactionary right because you won't be affected by any of it.
As asked earlier, your views on abortion and same sex marriage are?