Best Friend Now Addicted To Heroin...Help

[fandango]

Let your buddy know this...He will end up in Jail or if not...you should ask him where to bury his soul.

 

[mr sunshine]

The old me would have asked you if you've tried sucking his dick from the back yet? I'm a changed man.





Find a new friend , your old one broke

 

[skunkd0c]

Find a new friend , your old one broke

Fair-weather friend

 

[ttystikk]

Fair-weather friend
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I hear you. But trying to make the OP feel bad because he can't stop his friend from making bad choices is poor form.

Tough love is the only way he can be supportive his buddy- but not so close that he's at risk or of being taken advantage of.

 

[skunkd0c]

trying to make the OP feel bad because he can't stop his friend from making bad choices is poor form.

I have not made a response to the OP, i quoted mr sunshine and made a response to his comment

Tough love does not equate to "finding a new friend"
"finding a new friend" equates to never seeing that person again

 

[lahadaextranjera]

If the guy was snorting heroine (the same as the tourists in Amsterdam, that film Pulp Fiction etc) he'd be dead.

If he wasn't already smoking it for a long time do you not think shooting it would overdose him?

The thing is, only he can make himself stop. Nobody can force him to quit.

 

[Balzac89]

I've left friends behind. Too many.

Had them try to use my place for a crash pad when they're high and I told them straight up.

You want to get fucked up go ahead. I'm not the one who's gonna call that number when you OD and it's not gonna be on my couch.

 

[Balzac89]

It may be heartless but sometimes you have to not let others decisions weigh you down.

I and I matter but not when they choose to destroy themselves.

 

[MonkeyGrinder]

Your friend's pretty much screwed.
As harsh as it sounds just cut the cord.
You can't help him man.

 

[Carolina Dream'n]

I've dropped friends for this exact reason. I don't/can't be involved with anyone that has those kind of habits. I'll tell you one time, and if u don't respect that, then I'll never talk to you again.

 

[Hookabelly]

You can't reason with an addicted person. The only way to be a friend is through tough love. It's what's best for him. If he's truly addicted, he's going to have to lose everything and everyone before he realizes he has a choice to make. Sorry but that's how it always ends up with addictive behavior.

 

[whitebb2727]

Junkies steal...hide your valuables.

Junkies steal your valuables and then help you look for them.

Yes most start snorting herion now. Its pure and in powder form instead of tar.

I took me a bump of it one time. Woke up feeling like shit craving it. I decided that it was wise to leave it alone.

You can only help him if he wants help.

 

[racerboy71]

Hes never going to stop

If he's already shooting it so soon, I'd have to say he's a lost cause unfortunately. Very few people that I know have rebounded from shooting. In fact most are dead. Not saying you shouldn't talk to him, but it's probably already a lost cause.

i must be a special kind of awesome, just had 14 years clean may 13th...

but everyone is right, no one stops doing drugs, unless they really want to, and even than it's hard enough..

 

[abe supercro]

 

[neosapien]

i must be a special kind of awesome, just had 14 years clean may 13th...

but everyone is right, no one stops doing drugs, unless they really want to, and even than it's hard enough..

And we're SUPER proud of you RB! But you're definitely the exception, not the rule. Think of all those people that were muggin with you. How many are still around? Probably not many. The feat you accomplished ime not many can.

 

[sunni]

And we're SUPER proud of you RB! But you're definitely the exception, not the rule. Think of all those people that were muggin with you. How many are still around? Probably not many. The feat you accomplished ime not many can.

what about me? i got clean.... pretty sure theres a few other members who did as well on here

its not unherd of for people to get clean.

i know the reality is a hard one that his friend may not, and it is true unless he genuinely wants to stop he wont stop,
but you guys are shedding some real rough responses here, saying his friend is completely a loss cause is kinda terrible.

i think he should try to help his friend, maybe I wouldve stopped sooner if someone gave a shit about me, and had a talk with me.

 

[neosapien]

what about me? i got clean.... pretty sure theres a few other members who did as well on here

its not unherd of for people to get clean.

i know the reality is a hard one that his friend may not, and it is true unless he genuinely wants to stop he wont stop,
but you guys are shedding some real rough responses here, saying his friend is completely a loss cause is kinda terrible.

i think he should try to help his friend, maybe I wouldve stopped sooner if someone gave a shit about me, and had a talk with me.

I'm just saying what my experiences have been. True story... A core group of 15 of us use to hang out. One night half of us went to a rave and the other half ditched us and went to a friends house to try a bundle that was found on the ground. Of that half... 1 is doing ok. All the others are dead, in jail or presumed one or the other. So in my experience it's not a very winnable battle. And all those people had our support. I told OP to still talk to him but ime it often falls on deaf ears. Never knew that bout you Sunni. Glad I'm able to know you.

 

[Kind Sir]

I was an addict and got into needles as well. Im on methadone, which can get one clean quite fast but he would still have to WANT to get clean. Theres also suboxone, methadone is very addicting itself. Ive been clean for 2.5 years and still am getting methadone.

Mention it to him, maby you could cind a local methadone cli ic(or suboxone) before you speak with him. Having a set plan already could help him.

For whoever said he wont quit or anything similar. Get your info elsewhere, your dishing out false information\opinions.

EDIT: Dont want to delete my post, but I came off rude. Just want to be honest with my personal, experience. I know the leg pains from withdrawl all too well.

 

[charface]

Real junkies sell their own kids for that shit.
You cant reason with that mindset.
Your friend may be dabbling and if so he should stop before he has no choice.
The reality is this.
By the time consequences come its usually too late.
Your buddy is about to start a very strange lifestyle.
Don't shit yourself.

The statistics for heroin users are ugly. Possible? of course, the question is
If and when. Between if and when its a total shit storm of using and abusing people, overdoses, cops and thugs.
Unless he is an independently wealthy person he will soon need
to come up with an extra 3,000 or so per month and it needs to arrive daily like clockwork.
That is a problem he will solve, believe that.

Codependent people do more harm than good to themselves and the user.

Of course you still love them but what does that look like?
There is tons of info online that will help you establish boundaries with yer addict.
I suggest you at least read some so you don't begin your new relationship
with a series of serious rookie blunders.

It would be great if you could get this concept.
He is powerless against heroin
You are powerless over him.

Don't let him become your emotional heroin it will fuck you up just as bad
as any drug addiction.

 

[whitebb2727]

It is not a lost cause. Most addicts hate what they do and have become. Maybe a good intervention. Talk to your friend but be prepared to seperate yourself.