Where Is My Mind?

SlaveNoMore said:

When I meet a woman who says she only has male friends then red flags start popping up. This is an indication of a woman who enjoys the company of wannabe's. They require huge doses of attention.

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since you say sorry ill let it go thank you.

I have more male than female friends, i used to have lots in highschool and college and like i said ive kept a few, i think i have more male than female is not because i dont like females , or anything its because i cannot find a female with similar interests with me, so when i go out with my girlfriends, its harder to have a good time because when they speak about things that are important to them, i of course listen and respond because its important to me based on the fact that its important to my friend but sometimes its like i need abreak and need to like take a deep breath because their importance things in life are so goddamn fucking boring,. LOL i love shopping but not for pink girly dresses, i love movies but not the romantic comedies, or fucking the notebook i find the differences to be too much sometimes.

I love all my girlfriends! their all different unique and i love them but 90% of the time the shit they say doesnt peak my interest. so the whole "male only "thing as much as red flags can go off each person in life has a different personality it may be that she has more male dominated friends because her interests are more male dominated, or shes a cowgirl and shes interested in mudboggin and horses , for me, im more interested in sc-fi, anime, and video games, so my interests dont go too far with my girlfriends,

or your red flag could be correct and she only has male friends because shes screwed over every female shes met with wrong choices such has female has a boyfriend , boyfriend hits on her, and they go at it, than girlfriend finds out , girlfriend tells 100 people about how big of a slut the friend is, than friend has no female friends ever. LOL thats been known to happen

The Notebook is a great movie.

kinetic said:

The Notebook is a great movie.

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if i have to see ryan gosling or hear about him one more fucking time im going to jump off a fucking cliff.

or any of those "HEY GIRL I LIKE SWEATERS" memes , I JUST WANT ONE ONE DAY on pinterest without seeing ryan gosling

sunni said:

since you say sorry ill let it go thank you.

I have more male than female friends, i used to have lots in highschool and college and like i said ive kept a few, i think i have more male than female is not because i dont like females , or anything its because i cannot find a female with similar interests with me, so when i go out with my girlfriends, its harder to have a good time because when they speak about things that are important to them, i of course listen and respond because its important to me based on the fact that its important to my friend but sometimes its like i need abreak and need to like take a deep breath because their importance things in life are so goddamn fucking boring,. LOL i love shopping but not for pink girly dresses, i love movies but not the romantic comedies, or fucking the notebook i find the differences to be too much sometimes.

I love all my girlfriends! their all different unique and i love them but 90% of the time the shit they say doesnt peak my interest. so the whole "male only "thing as much as red flags can go off each person in life has a different personality it may be that she has more male dominated friends because her interests are more male dominated, or shes a cowgirl and shes interested in mudboggin and horses , for me, im more interested in sc-fi, anime, and video games, so my interests dont go too far with my girlfriends,

or your red flag could be correct and she only has male friends because shes screwed over every female shes met with wrong choices such has female has a boyfriend , boyfriend hits on her, and they go at it, than girlfriend finds out , girlfriend tells 100 people about how big of a slut the friend is, than friend has no female friends ever. LOL thats been known to happen

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Yes I agree. It seems to me that women are far more competitive when trying to find a man. I have met women that will actually tell another woman's boyfriend about his girlfriend's past in order to discredit her. I don't know why a guys entertain this kind of behavior.

I have a couple of female friends like you. Not really tom boys but less interested in tyranical type behavior.

Red Flags. A woman who expresses to me that she is only friends with men tells me that she is manipulative. She surrounds herself with guys that want to be with her. He will tolerate her whinning and complaining in hopes of one day winning her affection. He will be the "safe" guy who she can call for advice, cry on his shoulder, hold her hair when she is puking after a night of drinking. The guy (simp) has a low self esteem and tolerates this treatment which is his own fault.

This is really apparent with "scene" gay men. The guys that are fruity. They are not accpeted by straight males so they try to fit in with women. These men are merely toys to a woman who would exploit them because they will endure anything to be a part of the female paradigm.

Are Men and Women taught these gender roles or do you think they are natural?

i think you just know a lot of shitty people. LOL
sounds like you know FAKE PEOPLE doesnt matter if its male or female or what sexuality they have

i have gay guy friends some are super fruity gay and some aren't they are friends as well, i have female friends and i have a lot of male friends, all are great people, none are manipulative, none use each other as accessories . Sorry you know such horrible people dear lord LOL

lolikun said:

We have shitty bitch hormones. Putting two pissy women together is like trying to push the same side of two magnets together. Other than that, it's usually a security or self esteem issue I think, feeling inferior to another female. I have no problem with girls who have the same interests as me and I love hanging out with my girl friends. Of course, same goes for guys-- I wouldn't kick it with them if we didn't have similar interests anyway.

The ongoing theme with girls that will only be friends with men is the attention they get from em it seems (and maybe an ego boost?). Their excuse may be 'oh, theres no drama and gossp with guys~' which is totally nooooot true. I like hanging around guys though because they don't bother me to talk if I'm upset and it's nice to be around people who aren't as sensitive sometimes.

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I don't think it's bitch hormones but more learned behavior. I think women are exposed to so much superficial bullshit in the media that it is only natural that a woman acts like a bitch. I often hear,"It's because men like fake tits and painted faces", which I think is bullshit. You show me an "ugly" woman and I will show you something attractive about her. A man can make a woman attractive in his own mind. Unless she is a bitch to the core then she gets passed up by the good men.

Guys gossip for sure. It usually isn't the main focus of a male relationship though. Guys will generally call eachother on their bullshit, talk about it then go have lunch. Well adjusted men won't get physically violent over nonsense. All young guys fight at some time though. I think it's part and parcel of wearing a cock.

sunni said:

i think you just know a lot of shitty people. LOL
sounds like you know FAKE PEOPLE doesnt matter if its male or female or what sexuality they have

i have gay guy friends some are super fruity gay and some aren't they are friends as well, i have female friends and i have a lot of male friends, all are great people, none are manipulative, none use each other as accessories . Sorry you know such horrible people dear lord LOL

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These are just experiences that I have had to deal with at some point in my life. The meme still exists though. When I asked the original question I got the most common answer by both men and women on this thread. I was doing some reading on the subject and started to contemplate after about three bowls worth of the magical meditation herb..LOL

I observe how boys and girls are treated at my daughter's school and it is quite drastic. I just wanted to see other people's ideas on the issue. I was looking at divorce rates and why they skyrocketed starting in the late 60's and if modern feminism is helping or hindering a woman's progress.

divorce is sky rocketing because what is acceptable is becoming different, women can have jobs, women can be a single parent and not burned at the stake for it, if religious they can still do it without feeling kicked out fo the church or religious community, women dont need to feel trapped by abusive partners,

sunni said:

divorce is sky rocketing because what is acceptable is becoming different, women can have jobs, women can be a single parent and not burned at the stake for it, if religious they can still do it without feeling kicked out fo the church or religious community, women dont need to feel trapped by abusive partners,

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Do you think men still want a woman that is a stepford wife? I was focusing on divorce because the impact it has on children is pretty dramatic compared to families that stay together. Formal marriage really isn't the issue but couples that have children is the issue. Of course abuse should never be tolerated and is just cause to move on.

I for one would love to be a stay at home dad. I think of how much I miss out while I am at work. Maybe the problem is that men and women don't define what is acceptable BEFORE they enter into a relationship? Communication.

To all women:
Do you think that women still not have the same rights or fairness that men have? If not, can you give an example, please?

SlaveNoMore said:

Do you think men still want a woman that is a stepford wife? I was focusing on divorce because the impact it has on children is pretty dramatic compared to families that stay together. Formal marriage really isn't the issue but couples that have children is the issue. Of course abuse should never be tolerated and is just cause to move on.

I for one would love to be a stay at home dad. I think of how much I miss out while I am at work. Maybe the problem is that men and women don't define what is acceptable BEFORE they enter into a relationship? Communication.

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i dunno youre getting into a whole different ball game right now dude,

personally i would rather have my parents divorced than have to deal with negative tension and friction and feel like walking on eggshells, and listening to my parents scream and argue all the time thats worse for a child than divorce

sunni said:

i dunno youre getting into a whole different ball game right now dude,

personally i would rather have my parents divorced than have to deal with negative tension and friction and feel like walking on eggshells, and listening to my parents scream and argue all the time thats worse for a child than divorce

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amen to this

sunni said:

i dunno youre getting into a whole different ball game right now dude,

personally i would rather have my parents divorced than have to deal with negative tension and friction and feel like walking on eggshells, and listening to my parents scream and argue all the time thats worse for a child than divorce

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I think it's the same ball game because to understand the action it's important to understand the mental attitude of both sexes. I believe it is a problem that can be solved if a person took the time to understand the issues.

One cultural bias that I have seen is how laws can be passed to protect women against domestic violence but not men. It almost seems like everything is coming full circle. Women can now act as men did in the past before the women's movement. I am all for equal rights but I think women now are being shown that it is ok to kill a man because you can claim that you were abused. I think this is a dangerous direction to go.

Strange thing is that men will kill another man or himself while a woman will kill a man or her own children. This one perplexes me and I can't figure it out.

No question, women.


They all talk shit about each other's backs CONSTANTLY when I'm at work, the guys even join in sometimes but the women always bring something about that person up. Then that same bitch will talk about that group, never ends.


Not even personal shit either, just like, yeah she's weird for doing that or yeah her feet were soooo nasty!



I pretend like I don't hear them tho, being high really helps.

lolikun said:

naw totally not true. It may not be about clothes or stuff like that, but it's more along the lines of:

"Dude, you see ______'s truck? He threw that shit up on 33's and lifted it 4 more inches. HIS DICK MUST BE TINY."
"Yeah man, it ain't got shit on my integra. I just lowered that shit n it's HELLA FLUUUUUSH. VTEC YO."

idk I can't think of a better example right now, but guys totally shit talk ^_^ lol

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Big difference there... guys do brag and one up each other constantly, but women degrade and insult each other. same goal, different method. Both could be considered fighting tho.

DonPepe said:

Big difference there... guys do brag and one up each other constantly, but women degrade and insult each other. same goal, different method. Both could be considered fighting tho.

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This is true. I don't think men do it to be hurtful. Or maybe men are just taught not to feel hurt.

Women, no doubt. But I don't think I'm pumped full of bitchy hormones and I don't blame PMS on my bitchy behavior. When men are pissed off with each other, it's usually either something everyone will get over or there will be a blunt confrontation. Either way, it'll air itself out. Women hold grudges and would prefer to talk shit behind one anothers back instead of calling her out. Hell, I'm awesome at pretending to be okay with one of my friends on a night out when I'm actually incredibly mad at her lol. I don't argue with any of my friends really except for one, and that's because we had a falling out a few years ago and share a mutual friend. Truthfully, the only way we usually know we're mad at one another is through that mutual friend... I'm just not a confrontational person, but that doesn't mean I don't get mad lol.

BygonEra said:

Women, no doubt. But I don't think I'm pumped full of bitchy hormones and I don't blame PMS on my bitchy behavior. When men are pissed off with each other, it's usually either something everyone will get over or there will be a blunt confrontation. Either way, it'll air itself out. Women hold grudges and would prefer to talk shit behind one anothers back instead of calling her out. Hell, I'm awesome at pretending to be okay with one of my friends on a night out when I'm actually incredibly mad at her lol. I don't argue with any of my friends really except for one, and that's because we had a falling out a few years ago and share a mutual friend. Truthfully, the only way we usually know we're mad at one another is through that mutual friend... I'm just not a confrontational person, but that doesn't mean I don't get mad lol.

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Why do women not express their feelings to eachother even if it may cause conflict?

Autistic Austin said:

No question, women.


They all talk shit about each other's backs CONSTANTLY when I'm at work, the guys even join in sometimes but the women always bring something about that person up. Then that same bitch will talk about that group, never ends.


Not even personal shit either, just like, yeah she's weird for doing that or yeah her feet were soooo nasty!



I pretend like I don't hear them tho, being high really helps.

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I can't give you anymore +rep but if I could I would have a setting that would automatically give you rep on anything you post. You'll always be cool in my book.

SlaveNoMore said:

I don't think it's bitch hormones but more learned behavior. I think women are exposed to so much superficial bullshit in the media that it is only natural that a woman acts like a bitch. I often hear,"It's because men like fake tits and painted faces", which I think is bullshit. You show me an "ugly" woman and I will show you something attractive about her. A man can make a woman attractive in his own mind. Unless she is a bitch to the core then she gets passed up by the good men.

Guys gossip for sure. It usually isn't the main focus of a male relationship though. Guys will generally call eachother on their bullshit, talk about it then go have lunch. Well adjusted men won't get physically violent over nonsense. All young guys fight at some time though. I think it's part and parcel of wearing a cock.

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Indeed, I believe the media definitely plays a big role in how society feels like they should act and portray themselves, and women generally are shown as bitchy or snooty and with a 'perfect' body, whether it be fake or not. I feel like some guys deserve a fake stiff boobed woman though, because in the same way guys can be superficial too. I feel stupid now, but I was with a guy once that treated me like shit due to the fact I wasn't the fake made-up girl he'd normally try to date. He made me feel ugly and worthless without openly saying anything abusive.

oh definitely-- guy gossip is more chill/casual if anything. Guys also seem to not hold grudges over petty things like girls tend to do. Parcel of wearing a cock...LMAO! I don't think that could've been worded any better in such a semi-formal way xD