Stop what? Defending his position? I am confused. This is politics. The point is to vigorously defend your position and, hopefully, give some of the more open minded folks some food for thought.
Although the title of the thread is "What do Gays Really Want?, that was not the intent of the thread. The thread was specifically posted as an insult to me because laughingduck didn't like the idea of a gay guy (me) expressing an opinion. He told me he was sorry for starting the thread and did not expect it to go as far as it did. Kudos to laughingduck for manning up and understanding that what he posted was hurtful. But, I never wanted or asked for a sanction. Folks should be able to speak their mind.
That being said, when you or your beliefs are being attacked, your must vigorously defend yourself. Sometimes that might involve a counter attack. Despite what Rickwhite says, his views and posts would be viewed by most people as racist, misogynistic, and homophobic.
As much as I hate to hear people like this spew their hateful remarks, this is a political forum and they have a right to do so; just like I and others have not just a right, but an obligation to counter speech that could even motivate people to violence. I could almost imagine some younger teen reading a rickwhite or viredd post and going out to find some queers to beat the crap out of them--or worse. How about Matthew Sheppard?
Especially appalling was the post by Miss MeanWeed. The horrible attitude and condemnation of a poor 7 year old boy! In his/her words the worlds biggest fag. This poor kid needs love and compassion, not mean, snide remarks. If this portrayal was truthful, I sincerely hope that poor kid gets some help. At 7 years old, he is a much better person than either the mother or father.
I get so sick and tired of having to defend myself. Let any of these folks who know it all stand in my shoes and see what the discrimination is like: Not getting housing, losing a job, getting fired from a job, people recoiling in fear, being rejected by friends. And I consider myself lucky! Some gays and lesbians have it even worse! 
You do a lot of over simplifying and you convolute issues.
It sounds like the crux of what you are saying is that everyone should say that which pleases you. And if they don't, their words should be labeled hateful and bigoted.
It also seems that just disagreeing about what causes homosexuality makes some people bigots when their take on the issue doesn't match yours.
Furthermore, if I'm reading this right, you are claiming that merely suggesting that environment is one possible cause of homosexuality is tantamount to encouraging violence against gays. And you compare holding such ideas with personal attacks.
I am sorry if my take on the truth hurts your feelings. But the validity of what I am saying isn't determined by how it makes you feel. And just because what I say hurts your feelings doesn't make it hateful.
Neither you, nor anyone else here can find a single incidence of me saying anything attacking the character of gay people or advocating their harm or defamation.
Quite the contrary, I believe that the best way to do good by people is through true understanding. Often, this involves saying what people don't necessarily want to hear. That is pretty much always the case in life. And while I can understand the intention and the thought process of organizations like the APA, I think they are misguided.
There are a lot of people in this world who are this way or that through no fault of their own. Whether the causes of homosexuality are genetic, environmental, or a combination there of, is not even necessarily important.
The fallacy with regard to this question is in how people perceive notions of "fault" and "nature." The argument is that if the causes are genetic, it isn't the fault of the individual. But, if the cause was childhood trauma, it wouldn't be the fault of the child either.
The second part comes from the fallacy of "Naturalism." This is the belief that if something is natural it is necessarily good and healthy.
Therefore, when someone advocates naturalism as the cause you perceive it as if they are saying you are good and healthy and when they do not, you perceive it as them saying you are bad and unhealthy. That is the only reason people call my views hateful and bigoted instead of merely as an objective opinion which it is.
The argument that that which is natural is good and healthy is a bad one. Down Syndrome is a genetic condition which is not healthy. And goodness of the person is a whole other matter.
There are a lot of messed up people in the world and Gays are no different. It is much healthier for people to accept that they are messed up and come to terms with it than to spend your entire life in denial and to try to force others to get on board with it.
Those who blindly tell you what you want to hear just so you can feel good about yourself are not doing you any favors and they are not your friends.
So, you are gay - so what. Why do you find it necessary to constantly seek out approval from others? Why do you feel that we should change the ideals of society just to validate your self image.
And for that matter, who is next? What if prostitutes all got together and demanded that the public change their views on prostitution? After all, aren't they people too and don't they deserve the same rights as you do? You do know it is the worlds oldest profession right? How about a little respect for this natural treasure?
I've said it before. I think gays should have the same rights as everyone else and ought not to be harassed or treated unfairly. But, I do not believe that society ought to hold it up as one of our great ideals. Quite Frankly, I don't know why you feel this is necessary in order for you to feel validated. If anything is a shortcoming on your part, it is that more so than your sexual preference.
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