I've always kinda wondered what all the shots @ robroy were about..what was his quote specifically?
I got a blowjob when I was 14 from a woman in her 40's, it was one of the best expierences in my life..there is no way in hell would I want her charged with a crime.
At the age of 14, a boy's decision whether or not to get that BJ is legally not theirs to make. As with MJ, there is no way to prevent a kid from partaking in sex if they really want it. Also, alcohol and heroin. Kids do shit like this. Because kids aren't fully developed in terms understanding the long term effect of what they are doing, they aren't held to the same standard as adults. Its up to adults, all adults, to make the right decisions in the interest of the developing adult. A 14 year-old boys' guardians are the ones responsible to raise a healthy well adjusted man. I don't know if you have kids or not but I'm pretty sure you wouldn't want your 14 year old to become involved with an adult.
Sex and the pleasure coming from it cause changes in the brain in regions mostly associated with emotional bonding. These changes are variable from person to person but also stronger in children. Sometimes what that woman did causes emotional harm, especially if the child abuser continued with the relationship and the child forms a bond with the older partner. Sometimes the abuser is a predator and uses their unequal position in the relationship to coerce, manipulate and use the child in harmful ways. So, all told, I'd say you got off lucky (pun intended).
If your parents had found out about your liaison, it would be up to them to decide how much harm you experienced and whether or not to press charges. The justice system generally leaves this decision up to the parents unless there is evidence of parental neglect or abuse. The law is mainly a tool to give parents a way to keep sexual predators away from children. The law says that 40 year old woman must leave 14 year old boys alone. The woman that gave you the BJ is by definition a child abuser. If she had harmed you, your parents had the ability to press charges and gain damages. I'm glad to hear you think that BJ did not cause harm. No STDs, no other issues, good.
Underlying the discussion with Rob is the basic question of whether or not a child can give consent to such an act. He says that they can, although he won't use those words. He also says that a shopkeeper or any business can deny access to their services for whatever reason. The rolling back of protection to equal rights of minorities and stripping the ability of parents to protect kids is at the heart of disagreement with him. His completely hypothetical views on society, views that are unhinged from human behavior or history and narcissistic lack of empathy are disgusting to many, which explains the hard edged replies that RR gets from many on this board. For myself, I've found discussion with RR boring and will not read his posts any more.