Not proven wrong, updated. You now have a more accurate understanding. If you feel jaded, it should be directed towards those who perpetuate that consciousness does play a role. Early on the experiments did seem to indicate that consciousness influenced reality, before we learned to control for it. This gave many spiritual guru and paranormal researcher reason to use science to back up their ideas. When we finally determined that consciousness had no effect, it was an inconvenient truth which many, like Depak Chopra, choose to ignore. Having QM back up your pet theory with science is just too good of a card to throw away, and so the public awareness is tainted by this idea because scientists tend to be less vocal and exploitative than the gurus and flakes. This is why you experience some measure of hostility and exasperation, because many perpetuate a myth even after hearing the truth, and animosity for them spills over. Even though what you were doing was harmless mussing, something we all do.
It seems to me that you are being true to your claim of skepticism, which means accepting the evidence even if it leads you in a direction you do not care for.
Particle physicist Victor Stenger has two books on the science and philosophy of quantum mechanics and its abuse by new agers:
The Unconcious Quantum
"In this fascinating and accessible book, physicist Victor J Stenger guides lay readers through the key developments of quantum mechanics and the debate over its apparent paradoxes. In the process, he critically appraises recent metaphysical fads. Dr Stenger's knack for elucidating scientific ideas and controversies in language that the non-specialist can comprehend opens up to the widest possible audience a wealth of information on the most important findings of contemporary physics."
Quantum Gods
"Does quantum mechanics show a connection between the human mind and the cosmos? Are our brains tuned into a "cosmic consciousness" that pervades the universe enabling us to make our own reality? Do quantum mechanics and chaos theory provide a place for God to act in the world without violating natural laws? "
"Many popular books make such claims and argue that key developments in twentieth-century physics, such as the uncertainty principle and the butterfly effect, support the notion that God or a universal mind acts upon material reality."
"Physicist Victor J. Stenger examines these contentions in this carefully reasoned and incisive analysis of popular theories that seek to link spirituality to physics. Throughout the book Stenger alternates his discussions of popular spirituality with a survey of what the findings of twentieth-century physics actually mean. Thus he offers the reader a useful synopsis of contemporary religious ideas as well as basic but sophisticated physics presented in layperson's terms."
These books are on my ever growing list. You may find them interesting as well.