Indeed.
However, I still stand by my previous statements regarding policing of
all who attack or abuse. It simply isn't done, and it appears to me that with so few mods/admins
cannot really be done. What ends up happening is that it's basically applied to those who are caught, or... ?? I notice immediately that you make red (noticeable) the bit about not attacking moderators, and that tends to "bury" the rest of it, the bit about the rule applying to all members. Can you see how that might lead someone to the conclusion that you're essentially putting yourself above others in importance?
Here we appear to have a member who, from what those of us on the "outside" are able to determine, has not violated this rule, yet is banned (I would have said appears to be banned, but you've confirmed that she was, indeed, banned). In the meantime, it's quite easy to find many other examples of clear abuse in the form of very personal attacks, and many of those who continue with the poor behavior seem to be able to do so with apparent impunity. So, when folks see that, what then? Keep our mouths shut? That's not exactly conducive to the "family" or community feeling.
I certainly expect unity among site admins and mods, but I also rather expect some fairness when such rules are applied. When such rules are put into place, especially when you're working with such a large site, you set yourselves up for observations when you do whatever it is that you do, as well as requiring a LOT of policing.
Honestly, fdd (and CALI, rollitup, et alia), if we cannot find what Lacy did that brought about her banning, then what else are we to think except that it involved a private and personal exchange between the two of you?
I understand that making my observations may lead to me being banned as well, but at least I haven't shelled out any of my own hard-earned cash for the privilege.