Respectfully, I did think long and hard about this. My position didn't change. Yeah it sucks for these women, but as pointed out above they can still leave and there are resources to help them yet they choose to stay. No sympathy then. Maybe respect if they stay for the kid.
My problem with saying that these women are stuck or raped or otherwise have hardship forced upon them is it reduces them to either a mindless idiot or some object that doesn't have personal agency. It is the same issue with black people above. Saying that a a black family that has a family and they have been here for years is somehow held back more than a somalian that just arrived with nothing and knows nobody is insulting to the African American. What do you think held them back anyways, genetics?
By saying that only African Americans were victims of racism and that women choosing to stay in abusive relationships is rape, you are saying they somehow don't have agency or the ability to think for themselves. By proposing things like affirmative action and it's always the mans fault you 1) state that the two groups are not equal, that there is some fundamental difference between the two (which is false, except maybe with women and strength) and 2) that one group is actually below the other in reality (which is also false). This is the whole basis of the belief that the two groups should be treated differently.
