I agree with Panhead.
I think it's better than having multiple partners then panicking and deciding you only want a baby when you're pushing 40.
14 is way too young, definitely a child. If the age of consent for sex is 16-18, is marriage a good idea? And would a 14 year old know who they love?
I've never has a boyfriend but I've screwed around with enough men to know I don't like the mind games, the heartbreak, knowing the other person sees you as just a temporary thing, the lack of a need for commitment, wondering if anythingwere to happen would that person still be there for you. I know marriages fail all the time and people say it's just a piece of paper, but the selfish I want to party and fuck as much as I want for as long as I want attitude...
Looking back, I wish someone would love me enough to even ask. If someone was dating me and we were really in love I'd marry them in a heartbeat.
Don't tell me I have my whole life ahead of me, what's there to look forward to? Even more years of accumulating baggage, getting emotionally screwed up and used until some other used guy has a mid-life crisis sick of playing the field and finally saying 'fine, maybe I should settle down, you'll do.
Years ago, younger people were marrying and starting a family, and a certain amount of emotional maturity and selfless effort came with that... It had to.