Help With Girlfriend Please Ladies??

CALIGROWN said:

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CALIGROWN said:

so i need some outside input on our situation..basicly what has been going on for 3 years is my girl's mom has a lot of issues letting her daughter live her life. she is 22 and has been living with me for more then a year. but every day her mom tries to do little things cause issues in our relationship..we have money problems sometimes like most people have at this point in there life. but her mom is constantly trying to press the issue of money and how i can never give her everything she needs(cars,cell phones, thousands of dollars all the time)to me those aren't things that decide if a relationship is strong or not..we love each other very much.i have tried several times to sit with her mom and work things out between us and i have given that up since she takes things i say during our conversations and uses them against us. her mom has offered her a Mercedes if she moves back home, money, dangles a paid for college education over her head every time she can. and what she is best at is exploiting my girl when she goes to her to talk about problems we might be having in our relationship. instead of giving advice or comforting her daughter she says" well just come home..everything will be better you dont need a husband, i will take care of you honey so you dont ever have to work. these things are so stressfull to our relationship that i dont know what to do anymore...ive already put my foot down about letting her mom in my house..which is terrible considering she should be like family to me at this point. last night her mom showed up at my girl's work and gave her a brand new cell phone paid for a year because our phones were shut off the same day because we were late on our bill..SO WHAT..ITS OUR BILL RIGHT??? its a control issue with her mom is what i think...any advise would be much appreciated.. thanks and merry xmas

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moon47usaco said:

Do not ever give any one you love an ultimatum... Thats just putting more control into a situation that is OVER controlled... Not to mention you are asking her to choose between her family witch will most likely ALWAYS be there no matter what if they love her at all...

Moving away will not really solve anything... Any mother will never let distance be a factor in the relationship they have with their son/daughter...

Yes i have to agree that she has to be the main factor in resolving any problems with HER parents... But it really needs to be both of you equally...

I would like to say allowing her mother in the house would be a good idea but from what i read out of this she is too closed minded to see that as an offer of peace and will most likely take that for granted and use it against you... Not that its the RIGHT thing to do but i might be forced to do the same thing in your position... Again this one is not easy... =[

Refusing anything from her mother would not help anything either and would most likely aggravate the situation... Her mother is using this as an outlet, however unhealthy, for her frustrations with her daughters choice...

Both of you must be strong together and thats the only way to prevail...

Sorry you two are having problems and i hope they work out soon for you two... You both make a cute couple... If you really deserve each other, witch i suspect you do to have made it this far, you will be sure to have a good future...

Good luck... =]

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1puff2puff3puff said:

You two are a good looking couple....

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CALIGROWN said:

so i need some outside input on our situation..basicly what has been going on for 3 years is my girl's mom has a lot of issues letting her daughter live her life. she is 22 and has been living with me for more then a year. but every day her mom tries to do little things cause issues in our relationship..we have money problems sometimes like most people have at this point in there life. but her mom is constantly trying to press the issue of money and how i can never give her everything she needs(cars,cell phones, thousands of dollars all the time)to me those aren't things that decide if a relationship is strong or not..we love each other very much.i have tried several times to sit with her mom and work things out between us and i have given that up since she takes things i say during our conversations and uses them against us. her mom has offered her a Mercedes if she moves back home, money, dangles a paid for college education over her head every time she can. and what she is best at is exploiting my girl when she goes to her to talk about problems we might be having in our relationship. instead of giving advice or comforting her daughter she says" well just come home..everything will be better you dont need a husband, i will take care of you honey so you dont ever have to work. these things are so stressfull to our relationship that i dont know what to do anymore...ive already put my foot down about letting her mom in my house..which is terrible considering she should be like family to me at this point. last night her mom showed up at my girl's work and gave her a brand new cell phone paid for a year because our phones were shut off the same day because we were late on our bill..SO WHAT..ITS OUR BILL RIGHT??? its a control issue with her mom is what i think...any advise would be much appreciated.. thanks and merry xmas

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