Free Coke.......

ok so i have a friend who ive known closely for 5-6 yrs now, he sells and hes been a good friend to me over the years, but each time we link up its always the same we sniff, never once in the years we been friends has he asked me to pay and if it wasnt free n on tap i wouldnt look for it at all, but having battled addiction all me life in one way or another i find it very hard to say no, recently we been seeing more of each other than normal n of course thats led to alot more sniffing which tbh im not that happy about.

now i aint saying hes trying to get me hooked or any shit like that and i dont wana lose me friend cause he is a friend this isnt some dealer trying to get me to buy, i dont even know why im posting this shit im just wrecked lol and HS use to be anyway one of the best places for sensible advice minus the trolls but seems nowdays the trolls are hitting hard, im a old member with a different username i been around longer than most.

i aint looking for advice or anything like that just wrecked n saying me piece n know others must be in the same situation with good friends who you love but really aint doing you much good.

You'll get good advice here if you filter through it a bit.

Personally I've got nothing. I would be right there building a hoover dam with your friend honestly.

Maybe try and set up meetings where you two are in a place less congenial to coke? Judging by your vernacular I'm guessing you're from the UK (I think?) so I'm not sure how feasible my idea of heading out and backpacking for a few days is. Though to me looking at a map the Highlands are right there. But I can attest to getting out in nature for a few days can really clear one's head. Even with a fellow user, if you can separate the normality of using together for a bit I do think it can help change some of the learned behaviors we build up with friends. Bars and house parties are probably always going to be a trigger, but if you can separate the use patterns from the times you guys are together I think there is a chance.

thanks dutch like i say i been around alot longer than this username and i seen u speak a lot off sense over the time, yeah im from the the UK your right and doing other stuff aint easy when in truth we are both addicts he with the sniff n booze me with the booze n benzos n whatnot, neither of us is what you could call a junkie but theres no lying we both love to get wrecked, hes my friend and one of the only in a area i was not brought up in or know that well, i dont want to cut him off but i dont wana be doing class A's so much im too old for that shit......

Looking at your usernames I'm expecting a fight to break out any second

OP there's still some sensible advice to be had here. Does your friend know about your past? If so a conversation that maybe you've been partying too much might be a good thing.

We all know Arnold > Sly.

But yeah a simple discussion never hurt anyone.

My best friends wife politely asked me once to not bring coke around as we had a history, and I obliged and nothing really changed. True friends will be there without the drugs. Sometimes you just gotta let em know.

rambo,sambo?????

that was about as close as i get to rambo lol

I didn't read anything, but I'm willing to accept free coke.

i've gotten to the point where i can hang out with a friend of mine who does blow, and have him do it right in front of me, and not have the slightest inclination of wanting to do any myself..
not trying to say i'm awesome, which obviously i am, lol, j/k, just saying it's possible to be around him and not want to do any coke ime.. it's probably not the wisest decision if you can't trust yourself and think you might do some at some point though..
idk what it is that got me to this point though tbh, just got tired of knowing what happens every time i touch coke.. so, now i just play out the tape all the way to the end of the road i tend to go down the second coke gets into my system, and today, right now, i'm simply not willing to do that bull shit to myself.. it really does help..
not sure if that was any sort of help or not though tbh, hope you figure it out..

You had me at Free Coke!!!

racerboy71 said:

i've gotten to the point where i can hang out with a friend of mine who does blow, and have him do it right in front of me, and not have the slightest inclination of wanting to do any myself..
not trying to say i'm awesome, which obviously i am, lol, j/k, just saying it's possible to be around him and not want to do any coke ime.. it's probably not the wisest decision if you can't trust yourself and think you might do some at some point though..
idk what it is that got me to this point though tbh, just got tired of knowing what happens every time i touch coke.. so, now i just play out the tape all the way to the end of the road i tend to go down the second coke gets into my system, and today, right now, i'm simply not willing to do that bull shit to myself.. it really does help..
not sure if that was any sort of help or not though tbh, hope you figure it out..

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duck,racerboy,rory,impman even sumtime suxks lol u lads give a lot more to this site than is sumtimes appreciated i get what ya saying maybe it is not my friend maybe me i should be stronger n just say NO lol anyway thanks for the replys i carnt say i wont say no again im just a lil drunk n coked up and venting.....

Id talk to your friend and tell him exactly what's on your mind..a true friend will leave the coke at home and still hang with you..honesty is best..how will he ever know if you don't say something?

rory420420 said:

Id talk to your friend and tell him exactly what's on your mind..a true friend will leave the coke at home and still hang with you..honesty is best..how will he ever know if you don't say something?

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i dont need to say something i no hes a addict n selling time is come wkend when its always around, ive never paid for a thing but my own addict inside me waits for said times when i just wish we could have a normal friendship..... im far from proud of what i just said but its the truth we both would do alot for each other n ive earned my friend a lot of money over the years, i just wish we could be friends minus the drugs but they seem to be such a big part of both our lifes that i doubt that can happen

rambo22 said:

i dont need to say something i no hes a addict n selling time is come wkend when its always around, ive never paid for a thing but my own addict inside me waits for said times when i just wish we could have a normal friendship..... im far from proud of what i just said but its the truth we both would do alot for each other n ive earned my friend a lot of money over the years, i just wish we could be friends minus the drugs but they seem to be such a big part of both our lifes that i doubt that can happen

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i had to divorce about 95% of my friends when i got clean.. pretty much the only one i associate with now is the one i was mentioning earlier who still does blow once in awhile..
it was either their friendships, or my life tbh, and well, my i chose my life, and now i look back at it, their friendships were no where near as important as i had thought at the time, (not saying that is how you and your friends is though, just saying)..
i pretty much now only have a small handful of friends, and not to sound all corny and cliche, probably too late, i know, lol, i'm much better off in the long run without them and my being clean.. don't get me wrong, i still have shitty days, lots of them even, but those shitty days are much better than my best day in active addiction..
ok, i'm rambling now, and sound a lil preachy, which i don't like, so i'll shut up now..

rambo22 said:

duck,racerboy,rory,impman even sumtime suxks lol u lads give a lot more to this site than is sumtimes appreciated i get what ya saying maybe it is not my friend maybe me i should be stronger n just say NO lol anyway thanks for the replys i carnt say i wont say no again im just a lil drunk n coked up and venting.....

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Wait, even sometimes suxks? Is that an insult or a compliment . Just kidding man... but coke is one of those things. When you get to drinking a few brews, coke and/or benzos are the first thing to pop in your mind (and MDMA). And you said that your friend sells, and that he is always drinking and sniffing. If he's a real friend, you should be able to speak your thoughts. Maybe say you would appreciate it if he didn't talk about or do blow around you.... and he should respect that. If he stops hanging out with you just because you said that, then it wasn't a great friend to begin with.

Skuxx said:

Wait, even sometimes suxks? Is that an insult or a compliment . Just kidding man... but coke is one of those things. When you get to drinking a few brews, coke and/or benzos are the first thing to pop in your mind (and MDMA). And you said that your friend sells, and that he is always drinking and sniffing. If he's a real friend, you should be able to speak your thoughts. Maybe say you would appreciate it if he didn't talk about or do blow around you.... and he should respect that. If he stops hanging out with you just because you said that, then it wasn't a great friend to begin with.

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i do speak my thoughts skuxx but he will never change, i aint silly i no its me that needs to make that move n say nomore but when it really is a friend it aint easy cocaine addiction yes is a major fault of his but i have my own faults as do many.

4am here in the UK and thanks people for listening to my shite, night all.

I think it only seems as though he wants to share the coke for 'free'... he is just a addict that wants a friend but trust me when I say he is building up resent for you not paying your share.

IMpman's advice: Start paying your half of the coke! This will work out two fold. You will have to re consider your finances and cocaine addiction and also your friend will not feel like such a chump

Impman said:

I think it only seems as though he wants to share the coke for 'free'... he is just a addict that wants a friend but trust me when I say he is building up resent for you not paying your share.

IMpman's advice: Start paying your half of the coke! This will work out two fold. You will have to re consider your finances and cocaine addiction and also your friend will not feel like such a chump

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it aint or never has been like that imp, yes i agree hes a addict who wants a friend to share that shit on his conscience cause he knows hes a addict but not for a minit do i think he resents me for not paying, ive never in many a yr asked for a line its all offered n he knows i would not take it unless its on a plate it aint my drug of choice, i have had big problems with other drugs but not coke

coke is just one of those things to do in moderation because if not you end up doing it everyday, a slippery slope! and it makes you feel like ass, as most drugs do. the only thing i can do everyday is smoke weed. just my thoughts, next time i would just casually decline, and tell him you need to cut back a little bit...peace rambo

I think you should ask your friend not to give it to you. If you are forced to pay for it, your relationship with it will change. Set up some personal filters. Every time you want coke do a bong hit etc. good luck!

I had a problem with cocaine for the last 22 years. I have been clean now for 3 years and I owe it all honestly to cannabis. The human body has CB1 and CB2 receptors. We produce our own cannabinoids, just not in the levels that actually cannabis can give. These are what scientists call the "endo-cannabinoid system". coke,crack,meth,heroin and alcohol all trigger and release an abundance of dopamine, and that's what gives us a "pleasure response" or "high". The release of dopamine is so high that when the body/mind goes without, it sends us into a deep depression. This is how we become addicted, we have to keep doing it to feel happy or just normal. This is where the endo-cannabinoid cb1 and cb2 come in. It actually mimics the same response as narcotics, and get us high. However it does not have any addictive properties, and hasenmedically proven to wean individuals off narcotics. I swear to you this is true. Look it up.

To this day I owe my sobriety to cannabis. But that doesnt mean you can be around dope, because even tho I am clean, I still have dreams about it and everywhere in my city I go, I am constantly reminded of it and have cravings. I had to give up all my friends and all the money I was making selling. In the end I am much happier with my life (even tho I cant wipe my ass with 3k/day anymore) and I have learned things about myself I never knew. But it does get easier, just hang in their.

The rock bottom line is........ YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BAD ENOUGH. If not, you will never change and will eventually become a junkie just like everyone else does. I really do hope the best for you. Not sure if you believe in GOD but having something to believe in helps. I will keep you in my prayers friend. Also developing a "positive" friend base or support system is essential. If you ever need me, or just feel like venting, Im on several times daily. Take care buddy.