Found out lil' bro smokes

My little bro is 13 now. Just found out he smokes. I told him that he's to young, He called me a hypocrite and just blazed out of my apt. Me and my bro always been really close, I know hes young But i started when i was his age. So i need advice in tackling this situation. As a responsible cannabis user I don't condone this shit, But Wont i be a hypocrite telling him other wise?
When i was his age and smoked i used to spend every single dollar to weed. It was horrible, i wasn't mature enough to have self control. This concerns me because i don't want him to make the same mistakes i did. So any advice?

just do proper parenting tactics.. explain to him the benefits and the negatives of smoking the 'bis.. explain to him that it can impair and stunt mental growth in his young body, as well as effect his developing lungs, etc.. don't bullshit him, just give him the facts and give him an ultimatum; in totality it is going to be his choice, the only thing you can do is try to guide him.

May as well get stoned with him. Tons of 20 somethings still won't listen, so why would a 13 year old listen, especially to a hypocrite? You can't tell a 21st century teenager shit.
Would you have listened? Didn't kill you, ain't gonna kill him. People make mistakes.

Yeah guess when it comes down to it, Cant really stop kids from making bad choices. Your right when it all comes down to it it is his choice.....It still just doesnt seem right that an immature boy should attempt to make a mature and life altering choice. Thanks bro i'll do my best. Hopefully i can stop this kid turning out like me.

just keep a good relationship with him like you have already but just keep up with the parental advice. try and keep him out of trouble and shit like that. tell him how you fucked up - if he doesnt stop smoking- at least he will be better at it. i learned everything from my fuck-up of an older brother. no offense to you or any other older brother tho.

Ivory said:

Yeah guess when it comes down to it, Cant really stop kids from making bad choices. Your right when it all comes down to it it is his choice.....It still just doesnt seem right that an immature boy should attempt to make a mature and life altering choice. Thanks bro i'll do my best. Hopefully i can stop this kid turning out like me.

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Dude that's what being a teenager is all about. We're all immature and we think we know everything. That's why we drink, smoke, fuck, and do drugs. That's how shit goes in society--especially one that is as religiously tolerant and open-minded as America. When you have a mindset of "agnosticism" and freechoice taught in any one place (like communism), certain things entail.

I'm not turning this into a religious debate--it's just something I've noticed. Good example is the hippy era and sexual revolution.. it's when we started to break out of our religious phase that America got even more sexual and drug induced..

It's just the natural cycle of things. The most you can do is give him that talk, and if anything just make sure he smokes responsibly, and that he's not out with dumbass friends doing stupid shit when he's high

None taken. I'll just call tell him to come over now and i guess just talk. Fuck...Lets see how it goes..

Yeah you said it yourself. Tell him str8 about the money issue and everything, all the pluses and minuses "you" went thru that way he can relate since you two are close.I'm sure he will still smoke but he may actually look up to ya bit for doing that way and maybe even think a little about what it costs and such. My bro and I are close too. he was about the same age when I found out he smoked. I busted him with a joint or two, but when I looked at it I realized he'd been gettin ripped off so I asked where he got it and straightened that out. He didn't know I was selling at the time, so from that point on I had controll of his smoke. worked out nice at that time for the both of us. Now I'm 30 and he is 27 we live together and he is a bigger chronic than I am. Go figure.

If you have any luck, let us know. Maybe I can dissuade my 24 year old daughter from comin' round bummin' my hard earned grow goodies. Gave her same lights I use, for Xmas, keep tryin' to give her excellent clones . . . but she just wants the finished product. Never could tell her diddley squat. I was hoping she'd take over for me now that I'm almost 60, but noooooooooooooo . . . lazy generation.
40-some years of experience down the tube.

MrFishy said:

If you have any luck, let us know. Maybe I can dissuade my 24 year old daughter from comin' round bummin' my hard earned grow goodies. Gave her same lights I use, for Xmas, keep tryin' to give her excellent clones . . . but she just wants the finished product. Never could tell her diddley squat. I was hoping she'd take over for me now that I'm almost 60, but noooooooooooooo . . . lazy generation.
40-some years of experience down the tube.

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I'll take over for you

Ivory said:

My little bro is 13 now. Just found out he smokes. I told him that he's to young, He called me a hypocrite and just blazed out of my apt. Me and my bro always been really close, I know hes young But i started when i was his age. So i need advice in tackling this situation. As a responsible cannabis user I don't condone this shit, But Wont i be a hypocrite telling him other wise?
When i was his age and smoked i used to spend every single dollar to weed. It was horrible, i wasn't mature enough to have self control. This concerns me because i don't want him to make the same mistakes i did. So any advice?

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A young and developing body can only be harmed by non-prescription drug use. Alcohol and tobacco are age-restricted and cannabis will be as well.

[FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif][FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Cannabis consumption is for adults only. It is irresponsible to provide cannabis to children.

[/FONT] [/FONT][FONT=Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif][FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Many things and activities are suitable for young people, but others absolutely are not. Children do not drive cars, enter into contracts, or marry, and they must not use drugs. As it is unrealistic to demand lifetime abstinence from cars, contracts and marriage, however, it is unrealistic to expect lifetime abstinence from all intoxicants, including alcohol. Rather, our expectation and hope for young people is that they grow up to be responsible adults. Our obligation to them is to demonstrate what that means.[/FONT][/FONT]

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Principles of Responsible Cannabis Use - NORML

You little brother calls you a hypocrite because to him all drugs are illegal. Beer is no different from tobacco or cannabis. By his logic, since you break the law, he should be allowed to do so with your blessing.

MrFishy said:

If you have any luck, let us know. Maybe I can dissuade my 24 year old daughter from comin' round bummin' my hard earned grow goodies. Gave her same lights I use, for Xmas, keep tryin' to give her excellent clones . . . but she just wants the finished product. Never could tell her diddley squat. I was hoping she'd take over for me now that I'm almost 60, but noooooooooooooo . . . lazy generation.
40-some years of experience down the tube.

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thats so sad i wish i had a mentor im 27 adopt me lol i will use all your knowledge and even name a new strain after you

Talk to him about being a good person first and foremost, whose hobbies include use of Cannabis.

Not a stoner first, person 2nd.
*Make sure he understands what being a stereotypical smoker is and how NOT to be it.
*Introduce synonyms such as cannabis.. instead of weed or pot
*Introduce him to stories of people such as those on this forum who are adult, have careers that happen to smoke cannabis too, but don't flaunt it around.

When I was a teen and smoked I came up with all those above, and lived my life according..
It is possible to be a mature smoker.

I should add, 13 is like 25 in today's kids . . . now, if he were 8-9, then you'd be obliged to act.
Name a strain after moi? How sweet, DL27.

MrFishy said:

If you have any luck, let us know. Maybe I can dissuade my 24 year old daughter from comin' round bummin' my hard earned grow goodies. Gave her same lights I use, for Xmas, keep tryin' to give her excellent clones . . . but she just wants the finished product. Never could tell her diddley squat. I was hoping she'd take over for me now that I'm almost 60, but noooooooooooooo . . . lazy generation.
40-some years of experience down the tube.

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teach me o wise one

MrFishy said:

May as well get stoned with him. Tons of 20 somethings still won't listen, so why would a 13 year old listen, especially to a hypocrite? You can't tell a 21st century teenager shit.
Would you have listened? Didn't kill you, ain't gonna kill him. People make mistakes.

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I agree.... Ivory started at his brothers age, and he seems to be a sensible chap

I reckon you should have a blaze with him, and just advise (ADVISE, not TELL. The boy is 13, he's probably fed up of being told what to do. I know I was at 13) him on getting his priorities right & how to have a blaze but at the same time take responsibility for his actions & life choice.

At the end of the day, if he does get a bit silly with it.... at least you are aware of it & are in a better position to deal with it should it ever occur

P.S I think what Loveformetal1 said is the best answer to your question.

*Make sure he understands what being a stereotypical smoker is and how NOT to be it.

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This will ensure he doesn't fall in with the wrong group of smokers.

I'm glad you care about you're little brother. I too was in the same situation once with my brother, except I'm the baby. Since my father kind of left us, we have been very close and he acts as a father would. He's 13 years older than me and was damn near a fuck up. He barely graduated high school and ended up turning his whole life around. Needless to say, I'm very proud of him as a person and a brother.

What my brother told me when he found out I was smoking at age 14 was, "Weed isn't a bad thing. It won't kill you and more than likely won't turn you into a lazy bum. But be responsible, and use it socially. Don't sit at home all day and smoke. You ever smoked out of an apple?!!?" It's a simple conversation and doesn't have to be too serious or frightening. Just tell him he has to be responsible and always try and look out for him and make sure he is alright. Hope that helps and good luck.

Take him under your wing .. put your arm around him and hold on to something tight ,,, Then ,Smack the piss outta him and Tell him to get his edumacation first then he can blaze all he wants after a HS diploma .....IMO

We keep forgetting, hundreds of years ago I would've found my wife, banged her, and would be expecting a kid at the ripe age of 13...

alas... education is always more important, I doubt it would hold him back though. Also, aren't we producing endocannabinoids the minute we come to life?

Around the world now I'm back again?

Wow,what to do? He's probably,well no he's going to do it anyways since he already started. I know you'll think of something since you two are close.KEEP SMOKE ALIVE!!