Death of a parent

In December I posted about the declining health of my mother.
Mom passed away this morning at the hospital from complications from an emergency surgery yesterday.
I can't help but feel that the people who were trained to maintain her health or to heal her may have in fact shortened her time of life. Mom never fully recovered from her initial surgery the removal of a cancerous bladder.......she went back to the hospital this past Tuesday and they were treating her for a bowel obstruction Saturday they did a catscan and decided to do an emergency surgery to get a look at what was going on.......they soon found out that her problem wasn't what they were treating her for but a twisted bowel that had become infected. During the surgery they discovered a hole in her bowel as well...they did what they could for my mother but she never regained consciousness.
The LAST thing my mother told me was she didn't think she would wake up from surgery as I said in my earlier post my wife and I have both discussed the possibility of declining surgery late in life that may not increase your time of life but in fact shorten your time ......
Just needed to get this off my chest!

RIP mom

I hear ya m8! Hang in.

My mom died from complications surrounding her brain cancer, not the cancer itself.

I'm sorry for your loss. No one loves you like a mother does.

Sounds like someone dropped the ball and they are covering their ass. Get her complete medical records asap. Follow thru on what you find you might be saving someone else's mother.

Heart goes out OT. Lost Dad last year. Even when expected, still leaves a hole. Remember that quality of life matters and it sounds like she was in a lot of discomfort. Sending consoling hugs.

Sorry to hear this. My mom just passed away recently, too. She loved her opiates too much. I had lost friends before the same way, but losing a parent can hurt worse than one expects. You're not alone. If you need to talk to someone - my PM box is open.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope you find some comfort throughout your hard times. Take care

My condolences oldtimer,
loss is very tough. I have lost many friends and family and know the feelings that come with it too well. I lost a very close friend in January and still feel grief.
I hope you and your wife are able to take some time from regular life and share your feelings together or just be with each other. I know that might sound odd but may help.

Not to preach but i hope you care for yourself through the next while and ask your spouse and friends for help if need be (I've found this very hard to do). I have seen some pretty insensitive stuff at wakes and funerals. I always try to mention this ever since I went through a very infuriating situation at one funeral.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Keep your head up and hold tight to the good memories. Much love.
Polo

Man, I am sorry to hear this. Take comfort knowing that it happens to us all and that dying while anaesthetized is probably the best way to go.