Death before life

Bublonichronic · Nov 12, 2015

So I just got a call from my brothers girl all hysterical apparently she went in for a ultrasound and her baby didn't have a heartbeat she was suppose to be around 14 weeks but they said the baby was around 9 week developed so I guess it's a miscarrage...I kinda feel like a asswhole cause I didn't know what to say to make her feel better other than I'm sorry...part of me thinks it's kind of a blessing in disguise cause I know my brother isn't ready to be a father with is drug use and all and their relationship is pretty rocky to say the least...I dunno I'm just bummed I kinda wanted to be a uncle again but now she's afraid to go to the ER and I don't know what to say to convince her she has to like right now cause she's been really sick recently and I'm thinking maybe there is some kind of bacterial infection going on or somthing...eh shits fucked up and I'm the only person who knows so I can't really ask anyone what I should say or do to make her go to the hospital

budlover13 · Nov 12, 2015

All you can do is suggest going. Adults make their own decisions.

ODanksta · Nov 12, 2015

Bublonichronic said:
So I just got a call from my brothers girl all hysterical apparently she went in for a ultrasound and her baby didn't have a heartbeat she was suppose to be around 14 weeks but they said the baby was around 9 week developed so I guess it's a miscarrage...I kinda feel like a asswhole cause I didn't know what to say to make her feel better other than I'm sorry...part of me thinks it's kind of a blessing in disguise cause I know my brother isn't ready to be a father with is drug use and all and their relationship is pretty rocky to say the least...I dunno I'm just bummed I kinda wanted to be a uncle again but now she's afraid to go to the ER and I don't know what to say to convince her she has to like right now cause she's been really sick recently and I'm thinking maybe there is some kind of bacterial infection going on or somthing...eh shits fucked up and I'm the only person who knows so I can't really ask anyone what I should say or do to make her go to the hospital

Hey homie I am an uncle of 7.. No kids myself... And yes it is a blessing. Just remember everything happens for a reason..

And sometimes all you can say is... sorry

Bublonichronic · Nov 12, 2015

Yea I got two nieces and a nephew from my other brother but they live out in co so I don't see them often maybe 1-2times a year so i was excited to have one a couple minutes from me that I could see daily

Dr.Pecker · Nov 13, 2015

A bacterial infection can be lethal.

Resses · Nov 13, 2015

Sorry that this happened.

VTMi'kmaq · Nov 13, 2015

Your her family, at this point she needs medical help regardless of the emotional involvement/damage imvho. Do everything you can to encourgae the medical treatment, no reason for her to lose her life also for being stubborn.

curious2garden · Nov 13, 2015

Bublonichronic said:
So I just got a call from my brothers girl all hysterical apparently she went in for a ultrasound and her baby didn't have a heartbeat she was suppose to be around 14 weeks but they said the baby was around 9 week developed so I guess it's a miscarrage...I kinda feel like a asswhole cause I didn't know what to say to make her feel better other than I'm sorry...part of me thinks it's kind of a blessing in disguise cause I know my brother isn't ready to be a father with is drug use and all and their relationship is pretty rocky to say the least...I dunno I'm just bummed I kinda wanted to be a uncle again but now she's afraid to go to the ER and I don't know what to say to convince her she has to like right now cause she's been really sick recently and I'm thinking maybe there is some kind of bacterial infection going on or somthing...eh shits fucked up and I'm the only person who knows so I can't really ask anyone what I should say or do to make her go to the hospital

I am so sorry. She needs to see her OB/GYN.

Unclebaldrick · Nov 13, 2015

Sorry dude, but Friday is Friday.

abe supercro · Nov 13, 2015

You can't make a person do anything. Focus on conveying a clear point how it's fucked if she doesn't take care of herself immediately.

Hookabelly · Nov 13, 2015

maybe explain that if she doesn't get examined by a doc, she could end up sterile. Infections are no joke.

qwizoking · Nov 13, 2015

yes afraid to seek help for her or the possible youngin.
def in the right thinking they arent ready

oldtimer54 · Nov 13, 2015

Where's your brother in all this ?
If she doesn't want to go to the hospital for help there may be a reason that only she knows. That could bring on even more problems.
I also agree with quizoking .
They aren't ready !

Death before life

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