Any other couple growers out there?

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NoobgrowerLbc

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I grow with my gf too. We dont argue. She learns from me. She does most of the tendering while im the brains to this. We grow and make money together
 
Dontjudgeme

Dontjudgeme

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missnu said:
Hey me and my boyfriend with which I love so much grow together, and I was just wondering if anyone else grows with their partner. I have some questions for navigating these choppy waters, where I thought it would be smooth sailing.

Do you argue about techniques?
My bf is an anal type fellow sometimes, and I'm more a try it 12 different ways if it all ends up the same sort of gal...

Like with cloning plants. I like to cut off most of the leaves and cut the large leaves, I do leave, in half. He likes to watch a plant with too many leaves struggle.
His basis being that it's more stress on an already stressed plant. My view being fewer smaller leaves creates less stress because theres not so many water requirements going unmet. Same with transplanting... I like to remove a bit of the larger leaves as I'm transplanting. I think a plant with fewer leaves to worry with bounces back faster...

For example me and a friend took a couple of decorative banana trees from a construction site where they were just being trashed... anyway, one we dug up was all rough looking and pretty ripped up so I cut the whole middle out of it leaving effectively a bulb so she wanted the one that still looked like a plant with a few leaves...
She took hers and planted it, and I took mine and planted it. In 3 weeks mine had 4 brand new huge impressive leaves, meanwhile hers still only had the original 2. Given those 2 leaves were in better condition than when she planted it, but since then I've always cut plants back before transplanting them.
Most of my plants are borrowed from patches I find elsewhere and a plant that you strip down some will always grow back faster than one you just transplanted without de leafing a little. Tomatoes, cannabis, whatever...
Anyway I digress...
Back to my original question. Do you have a hard time getting your partner to be willing to try things a different way? Do you have a hard time agreeing on the means to the same end?
I often feel like pinching his head off... as if plants can only grow if you do this and that just so.

Like I water heavy, less often. He waters sparingly consistently.
I think the sparse consistent waterings lead to malformed roots because they never have to reach and even if they did reach theres no moisture lower for them to reach to...

Anyway I keep getting him to just try things my way and things keep getting better and better but fuck! Talk about an uphill battle. I feel totally unheard sometimes. Or like hes the only person to ever know anything about anything even though I've been at this far longer.

When I show him my old pictures of my grows and stuff and tell him how I managed to do what I did and get what I got he tells me it was just the strain I had then. Because his plants wouldnt do like that even if he tried things my way... and while I do know that different strains grow differently, I also know I grew many different strains and got pretty good results from them all.
I'm not expecting a huge yield from a mostly sativa indoor plant, but they shouldn't be puny.
If they are, then something is going wrong somewhere so let's try this and that and oh no... no no no... we can't water them fully every time they get dry it would be too much water and too much time in between waterings, etc....

I told him we are going to have us some good old fashioned grow offs because I've had about enough of this nonsense.
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I grow for my wife, I don’t personally medicate. I was out of work for a while and took advantage of the time being home. She has a thumb, but it’s far from being anything green, so she knows better than to question my technique and growing style. I use to grow a long time ago, but only hydro systems. It was good while it lasted, but way too time consuming, so I figured I would go the soil route. Well I’m back to work now, and only had a week to teach and show her everything. Surprisingly enough, she picked up on it pretty quick. She’s so far transplanted and cloned by herself, with me watching of course. So now I’m confident she can do it all by herself. I actually encourage her to share what she’s noticed and observed. That’s why I like growing, because there’s no one way to do it. Everyone’s style is different, and they all have different outcomes. My wife and I may bicker over some things, but how to grow isn’t one of them. Good luck to you guys, and hopefully you can see your opinions and different ways of doing things as a positive vs a negative.
 
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DaFreak

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missnu said:
Hey me and my boyfriend with which I love so much grow together, and I was just wondering if anyone else grows with their partner. I have some questions for navigating these choppy waters, where I thought it would be smooth sailing.

Do you argue about techniques?
My bf is an anal type fellow sometimes, and I'm more a try it 12 different ways if it all ends up the same sort of gal...

Like with cloning plants. I like to cut off most of the leaves and cut the large leaves, I do leave, in half. He likes to watch a plant with too many leaves struggle.
His basis being that it's more stress on an already stressed plant. My view being fewer smaller leaves creates less stress because theres not so many water requirements going unmet. Same with transplanting... I like to remove a bit of the larger leaves as I'm transplanting. I think a plant with fewer leaves to worry with bounces back faster...

For example me and a friend took a couple of decorative banana trees from a construction site where they were just being trashed... anyway, one we dug up was all rough looking and pretty ripped up so I cut the whole middle out of it leaving effectively a bulb so she wanted the one that still looked like a plant with a few leaves...
She took hers and planted it, and I took mine and planted it. In 3 weeks mine had 4 brand new huge impressive leaves, meanwhile hers still only had the original 2. Given those 2 leaves were in better condition than when she planted it, but since then I've always cut plants back before transplanting them.
Most of my plants are borrowed from patches I find elsewhere and a plant that you strip down some will always grow back faster than one you just transplanted without de leafing a little. Tomatoes, cannabis, whatever...
Anyway I digress...
Back to my original question. Do you have a hard time getting your partner to be willing to try things a different way? Do you have a hard time agreeing on the means to the same end?
I often feel like pinching his head off... as if plants can only grow if you do this and that just so.

Like I water heavy, less often. He waters sparingly consistently.
I think the sparse consistent waterings lead to malformed roots because they never have to reach and even if they did reach theres no moisture lower for them to reach to...

Anyway I keep getting him to just try things my way and things keep getting better and better but fuck! Talk about an uphill battle. I feel totally unheard sometimes. Or like hes the only person to ever know anything about anything even though I've been at this far longer.

When I show him my old pictures of my grows and stuff and tell him how I managed to do what I did and get what I got he tells me it was just the strain I had then. Because his plants wouldnt do like that even if he tried things my way... and while I do know that different strains grow differently, I also know I grew many different strains and got pretty good results from them all.
I'm not expecting a huge yield from a mostly sativa indoor plant, but they shouldn't be puny.
If they are, then something is going wrong somewhere so let's try this and that and oh no... no no no... we can't water them fully every time they get dry it would be too much water and too much time in between waterings, etc....

I told him we are going to have us some good old fashioned grow offs because I've had about enough of this nonsense.
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Trying to grow with a person who doesn't know how to grow, good luck. My wife understands that she doesn't understand so she just does what I tell her to when I need help, like once every 10 years when I'm laid up with something broken.
 
missnu

missnu

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He knows. He just thinks he is the only one that knows.... it's pretty annoying. I guess if it's bad enough to have me on here whining it must really get under my skin. It's entirely possible that I merely try to ignore things that are unpleasant as opposed to making them better....
I'm coming to realize I'm sort of fucked up that way....
 
Bobby schmeckle

Bobby schmeckle

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missnu said:
Well we grow indoors and only have just got the one space in which to do so.
So it is a shared venture.

When I met him he was growing and I hadn't been for a couple of years. I think he thought having someone to share his hobby with would be great, like I thought growing again would be great...

But the reality is stressful.

I think I'm just going to rope me off a small portion of the growing space.... and we could really try our different methods using the same strains and lights and just see what happens. Prove to him that doing something differently can be just as good or better than what you're already doing.

He got really upset with me today because we were taking clones of plants, we use my spray cloner. Which was another battle, I finally won, anyway, we were taking clones off of 3 plants. 2 different 9lb hammer phenotypes and a lemon layer cake.
And on the cups of water, that the plants will only be in for maybe 10 minutes, long enough for me to trim them and pop them in the cloner, anyway... I marked one cup 9lb type a... and he flipped out because, "what does type A even mean?" "I told you that one is pheno 1"....
Because it fucking matters what I write as a note to myself on the cup?!

And its stuff like that that I want to know if others run into... because it is supposed to be a concerted effort between the 2 of us, but instead it's a stressful time anytime we are both in the grow room at one time.

He wants to be in charge of the whole thing.... which would be fine except this isnt just his rodeo....

I guess I could be like well this is my building so imma do this this way, like it or not.... but that seems to be a sort of asshole thing to do when all I want is him to try doing some things a little differently than he has been so far...

Perhaps he is just a terribly stubborn fellow that really believes that different means dont converge on the same end.


I was looking for someone to lament to, or maybe even a nice round of useless commiseration...

Perhaps this is just a solo activity...

It's a process I guess.
I've gotten him to switch his cloning method...

Perhaps when looking for a partner I need to ask more questions...

Like beyond what's your religion and political views, do you use hid, or led lighting? Lol
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Your boyfriend sounds like an absolute asshole. I’d be so stoked if my wife did something other than smoke all the weed.

Oh and it sounds like he’s a shit grower too. :)
 
Dontjudgeme

Dontjudgeme

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missnu said:
He knows. He just thinks he is the only one that knows.... it's pretty annoying. I guess if it's bad enough to have me on here whining it must really get under my skin. It's entirely possible that I merely try to ignore things that are unpleasant as opposed to making them better....
I'm coming to realize I'm sort of fucked up that way....
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Don’t be so hard on yourself. Ignoring an unpleasant situation is just a sign of maturity, not being f’d up. Maybe it’s time you sit in the backseat and let him drive, eventually he will get tired and ask you to drive, but before you do, let him know he can’t drive the car from the backseat...
 
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