Any other couple growers out there?

neosapien

neosapien

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missnu said:
Do you argue about techniques?
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Boyfriend, husband, business partner, soulmate, friend, neighbor. Doesn't matter.

If there's 2 people on a collective, different ideas are always going to clash. And that's not just limited to growing weed. Literally anything else in life.

I wish you good luck in getting your ideas heard.

Your boyfriend sounds like a real jerk too. You should pm me some nudes to teach him a lesson.
 
IndoBlazing76

IndoBlazing76

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missnu said:
Hey me and my boyfriend with which I love so much grow together, and I was just wondering if anyone else grows with their partner. I have some questions for navigating these choppy waters, where I thought it would be smooth sailing.

Do you argue about techniques?
My bf is an anal type fellow sometimes, and I'm more a try it 12 different ways if it all ends up the same sort of gal...

Like with cloning plants. I like to cut off most of the leaves and cut the large leaves, I do leave, in half. He likes to watch a plant with too many leaves struggle.
His basis being that it's more stress on an already stressed plant. My view being fewer smaller leaves creates less stress because theres not so many water requirements going unmet. Same with transplanting... I like to remove a bit of the larger leaves as I'm transplanting. I think a plant with fewer leaves to worry with bounces back faster...

For example me and a friend took a couple of decorative banana trees from a construction site where they were just being trashed... anyway, one we dug up was all rough looking and pretty ripped up so I cut the whole middle out of it leaving effectively a bulb so she wanted the one that still looked like a plant with a few leaves...
She took hers and planted it, and I took mine and planted it. In 3 weeks mine had 4 brand new huge impressive leaves, meanwhile hers still only had the original 2. Given those 2 leaves were in better condition than when she planted it, but since then I've always cut plants back before transplanting them.
Most of my plants are borrowed from patches I find elsewhere and a plant that you strip down some will always grow back faster than one you just transplanted without de leafing a little. Tomatoes, cannabis, whatever...
Anyway I digress...
Back to my original question. Do you have a hard time getting your partner to be willing to try things a different way? Do you have a hard time agreeing on the means to the same end?
I often feel like pinching his head off... as if plants can only grow if you do this and that just so.

Like I water heavy, less often. He waters sparingly consistently.
I think the sparse consistent waterings lead to malformed roots because they never have to reach and even if they did reach theres no moisture lower for them to reach to...

Anyway I keep getting him to just try things my way and things keep getting better and better but fuck! Talk about an uphill battle. I feel totally unheard sometimes. Or like hes the only person to ever know anything about anything even though I've been at this far longer.

When I show him my old pictures of my grows and stuff and tell him how I managed to do what I did and get what I got he tells me it was just the strain I had then. Because his plants wouldnt do like that even if he tried things my way... and while I do know that different strains grow differently, I also know I grew many different strains and got pretty good results from them all.
I'm not expecting a huge yield from a mostly sativa indoor plant, but they shouldn't be puny.
If they are, then something is going wrong somewhere so let's try this and that and oh no... no no no... we can't water them fully every time they get dry it would be too much water and too much time in between waterings, etc....

I told him we are going to have us some good old fashioned grow offs because I've had about enough of this nonsense.
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My Girlfriend helps me to grow and is happy to let me take the lead, but to be honest she's got quite the greenfingers and if she wanted her own space I bet she could grow some lovely ladies. Im not one to think my techniques are the best and I think it would be great if we could learn from each other, plus different things seem to work for different people. Plus from what you've written I actually do more of things that you do and far less of the things that your boyfriend does. Rope off a bit of that space for yourself and show him how it's done, lol.
 
cannabineer

cannabineer

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missnu said:
I've never met anyone so particular in their methods.
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I’d say controlling. Which is concealed disrespect, and much harder to negotiate than just being particular.

How is he, say, as a passenger when you’re driving? Does he keep suggesting things, or does he respect you there?

If he is about “his way v. the wrong way” in any other shared domain other than the grow, he will almost certainly make you unhappy in the end.
 
Laughing Grass

Laughing Grass

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missnu said:
I'd think that he'd say well let me listen to what you've got to say because you've got a few years experience on me... but instead he watches grow videos on youtube and if you want to do something that whoever the heck doesn't do, well then you obviously know nothing of growing.

He has a hard time understanding that people all have their own methods of getting to the same thing.
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Switch teams, girls are much better at listening and compromising.
 
missnu

missnu

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cannabineer said:
I’d say controlling. Which is concealed disrespect, and much harder to negotiate than just being particular.

How is he, say, as a passenger when you’re driving? Does he keep suggesting things, or does he respect you there?

If he is about “his way v. the wrong way” in any other shared domain other than the grow, he will almost certainly make you unhappy in the end.
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Driving is mostly ok. Sometimes he alternates between telling me I'm going too fast or too slow, but hell sometimes im going too fast and other times too slow. So it is what it is. I guess I do have to remind him I've been a licensed driver for 20 years from time to time. Cooking is dangerous territory... I once wiggled around a microwave bag of popcorn before putting it in the microwave and it seemed this gentleman thought it wouldnt pop unless it is in the one rectangle shaped lump in the bag...

I am also sometimes a pretty particular person... but I really dont feel like I'm bothered by quite so much.
 
curious2garden

curious2garden

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missnu said:
Hey me and my boyfriend with which I love so much grow together, and I was just wondering if anyone else grows with their partner. I have some questions for navigating these choppy waters, where I thought it would be smooth sailing.

Do you argue about techniques?
My bf is an anal type fellow sometimes, and I'm more a try it 12 different ways if it all ends up the same sort of gal...

Like with cloning plants. I like to cut off most of the leaves and cut the large leaves, I do leave, in half. He likes to watch a plant with too many leaves struggle.
His basis being that it's more stress on an already stressed plant. My view being fewer smaller leaves creates less stress because theres not so many water requirements going unmet. Same with transplanting... I like to remove a bit of the larger leaves as I'm transplanting. I think a plant with fewer leaves to worry with bounces back faster...

For example me and a friend took a couple of decorative banana trees from a construction site where they were just being trashed... anyway, one we dug up was all rough looking and pretty ripped up so I cut the whole middle out of it leaving effectively a bulb so she wanted the one that still looked like a plant with a few leaves...
She took hers and planted it, and I took mine and planted it. In 3 weeks mine had 4 brand new huge impressive leaves, meanwhile hers still only had the original 2. Given those 2 leaves were in better condition than when she planted it, but since then I've always cut plants back before transplanting them.
Most of my plants are borrowed from patches I find elsewhere and a plant that you strip down some will always grow back faster than one you just transplanted without de leafing a little. Tomatoes, cannabis, whatever...
Anyway I digress...
Back to my original question. Do you have a hard time getting your partner to be willing to try things a different way? Do you have a hard time agreeing on the means to the same end?
I often feel like pinching his head off... as if plants can only grow if you do this and that just so.

Like I water heavy, less often. He waters sparingly consistently.
I think the sparse consistent waterings lead to malformed roots because they never have to reach and even if they did reach theres no moisture lower for them to reach to...

Anyway I keep getting him to just try things my way and things keep getting better and better but fuck! Talk about an uphill battle. I feel totally unheard sometimes. Or like hes the only person to ever know anything about anything even though I've been at this far longer.

When I show him my old pictures of my grows and stuff and tell him how I managed to do what I did and get what I got he tells me it was just the strain I had then. Because his plants wouldnt do like that even if he tried things my way... and while I do know that different strains grow differently, I also know I grew many different strains and got pretty good results from them all.
I'm not expecting a huge yield from a mostly sativa indoor plant, but they shouldn't be puny.
If they are, then something is going wrong somewhere so let's try this and that and oh no... no no no... we can't water them fully every time they get dry it would be too much water and too much time in between waterings, etc....

I told him we are going to have us some good old fashioned grow offs because I've had about enough of this nonsense.
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@manfredo didn't you say someone took one of your plants?
 
missnu

missnu

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cannabineer said:
I’d say controlling. Which is concealed disrespect, and much harder to negotiate than just being particular.

How is he, say, as a passenger when you’re driving? Does he keep suggesting things, or does he respect you there?

If he is about “his way v. the wrong way” in any other shared domain other than the grow, he will almost certainly make you unhappy in the end.
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That is something he says though.

When I try to remind him that theres numerous ways to do things, he says "I know there are, and theres the right way"... by the right way he means his way.

We've got a desktop vaporizer and we cant ever agree on the temp to use. He likes it higher and I prefer lower. Both are fine. Neither is wrong or right..but hes not a to each their own sort of guy it seems. Or we just need 2 of everything. That sort of sucks though.
 
missnu

missnu

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curious2garden said:
@manfredo didn't you say someone took one of your plants?
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Hey hey hey these were like a roadside section of banana trees, they were widening the road and had already just smashed most of them.... but there were a few that were still ok and I'm not ashamed to say I took them.

I also used to do some housekeeping on rental places and I would thin out their flowerbeds in a necessary fashion except I'd bring alot of the plants home with me so they could start taking over my place as well. Lol
 
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