After it breaks the surface you should water once a day and don't water again until the top layer of the soil has dried up. Make sure theres also a way for the water to drain out.
Pictures would be helpful tho.
Depends on the company how they ship. The most you'll get for buying seeds is a letter from customs telling you they took your seeds.
Seed companies usually do stealthy shipping, inside keychains, T-Shirts. etc.
From your description 2x 20 watt CFL, and stems breaking then they fall over and die. Looks like stretching is the problem. How far away are your lights?
Judging from the fact that theres no burn and you said you've only fed her once. Id suggest starting nutes now. If she gets better we found the problem. If in a week or so she's not better nutes aren't the problem.
If they just sprouted don't give them half strength or any strength for that matter.. They should have enough nutrients to get through the first 2 weeks by themself. Then start with 1/4th dosage and work your way up to half, and so on.
If i had to guess, id say the admin is the same for both sites. Judging by the names. Just a theory tho.
I stick with Speedyseedz. I love his customer service.
Id say you're working with the bare minimum here. You can get through vegging with a 30 watt. Your yield won't be great. But it can be done.
But for the ammount of plants you have id suggest you get at LEAST four of them. Id recommend getting around eight tho.
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