I really have only one suggestion.
Maybe you guys are already into it. But I'm just trying to help, so here ya go!
This is directed to anyone felling even remotely depressed, or curious.
The advice is to read some books, and actually practice the stuff in them.
A overview of the these books: Stuff that is absent from mainstream culture, but is vital to happiness as well as balance.
Mantak Chia
Awaken Healing Energy Through the Tao
Healing Love Through the Tao: Cultivating Female Sexual Energy
Taoist Secrets of Love: Cultivating Male Sexual Energy
Transforming Stress Into Vitality
Anything by Stewart Swerdlow....
-Blue Blood, True Blood: Conflict and Creation
-The True Reality of Sexuality
-Journey Into Hyperspace
Sangra Ingerman
Shamanic Journeying
Everyone just is in search of Energy...High Energy is happiness, energy leaks lead into depression. Leaks can be physical or metaphysical or psychic... These books will help to seal the leaks. We as humans do not need to search outside ourself for energy source, But when we deplete our energy... usually we have no other choice but to seek EXTERNAL ENERGY. So Either you don't know that you have a inextinguishable INTERNAL ENERGY supply, or you think it is too difficult to achieve. It really comes down to the point of... ARE YOU ACTUALLY READY TO FEEL GOOD AND HAPPY? Or do you still want to keep digging deeper. You cant know peace until you have had suffering.
Again, I can't help you. I can only help you help yourself.
=D Enjoy, Any questions, Ask!
Edit:
As far as the energy stuff goes, when looking at the Two Sexes, Practices really break down into the individual sex at first.
However, Once the energy leaks are sealed it becomes very general, and the two sexes are generally the same.