Don't Care to go Out Anymore

[budsmoker87]

i think i could be autistic. to an extent, cuz i've also heard there is a spectrum. i do feel awkward in social situations with ppl...so its easy sometimes to just act like "someone else" and then that personality BECOMES you when you hang out with/see them. if that makes sense. i wouldn't call that "being fake" I'd call it just letting ppl bring out your good qualities.

im also very analytical. when i began studying politics in 2008, i became SO entrenched in it that my senior year of college I isolated myself a LOT. I started smoking weed again (i hadn't in years) and would spend all my time in my dorm room alone, watching videos and reading articles. I was literally discovering some life-changing shit as my perspective of the world changed and I had realized I lived within the social parameters of a giant illusion. I had a few mushroom trips and they helped heal my spirit as I learned I could come to terms with the world around me as it was and that all that matters is my happiness and I could always stay true to my values. I haven't tripped again because I feel the mushrooms taught me all I needed to know...I no longer need that tool


I'm just anxious to start working again. It's fucking hard physically and emotionally in the oil field, but it's gratifying to know that I'm working toward something and can see my progress as it translates to dollars and learning rig mechanics

 

[mnmobbin]

If I could get by in life only interacting with my wife and son id be a happy man. But honestly I pretty much left all my friends behind to much drama. Outside of work theres only a few people I interact with.

 

[ThE sAtIvA hIgH]

i dont like going out infact becauseof tonight i literally have no friends i mostly stay in andplay video games, read or do home things like cooking, i wishi knew my online friends in irl because i would have real friends who didnt fuck me over

you sound to perfect to be true , do you grow too ?

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

She is perfect. We've had this come up so many times- 'how are you still single?' Sunni is everything a guy (or girl) could ever want. Just all her local guys are blind assholes. I had the same, but had to go out and get my romance even if it is long-distance. Sunni, hundreds of gamer nerds out there for you, and I know one in particular who really wants you. You are going to have to MAKE it happen if you really want it. I found love taking a risk at the very limit of my desperation but now couldn't be happier.

Sunni, start making plans and getting things moving NOW before it is to late and you only have regrets for company. I really do love you and want you to be happy

Bud...I hope you find your dream girl too. Those nice girls you gave up on were relationship material; you saw how things worked out with Spanish Girl. Don't let your dick direct you when you have such a good heart.

 

[bigbillyrocka]

i dont like going out infact becauseof tonight i literally have no friends i mostly stay in andplay video games, read or do home things like cooking, i wishi knew my online friends in irl because i would have real friends who didnt fuck me over

What you play and on which platform?

 

[Sunbiz1]

I can definitely relate. I've moved around quite a bit since graduating high school, and it's been hard to make good friends moving around so much. So, like you, I got used to entertaining myself. I live in a college town, and I could go out if I wanted to, but I don't really have any friends here yet and I don't want to just go to the bars by myself. Also, I'll be 25 in January, so we're close in age.

I feel like I'm past going to the bars just to hook up with girls. I need something more substantial now. I don't want to meet somebody at the bar.

Try places where women shop, or frequent w/o their friends...churches are good.

 

[Sunbiz1]

And I don't go anywhere near bars anymore, they charge too much and generally are chock full of liquored-up assholes.

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

Exactly. Why would you pick a partner, someone you are supposed to be the closest to and most intimate with, someone you share your hopes and fears and deepest affection with... And you want to pick them up at a BAR??!???!!!! (I know there are exceptions when the people who aren't usually the bar 'type' decide to hang around a little and people get married after spotting eachother across the room etc)

But really, I think the candidate for lover should first be your closest friend.

 

[lokie]

churches are good.

that is true. however being a stoner we do want our new friends to have something in common with us.

 

[lahadaextranjera]

There's nothing wrong with staying in and enjoying ur own company. If u can't enjoy ur company then how can u expect someone else to? Staying in makes going out more fun ??!! Ironic but true !!

 

[lokie]

And I don't go anywhere near bars anymore, they charge too much and generally are chock full of liquored-up assholes.

I have recently forsaken my favorite bar. the ratio of assholes was getting to high.

So I figured they could use one less.

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

that is true. however being a stoner we do want our new friends to have something in common with us.

Excuse me, we have many Christian members on this site.

Plus it shows an open-mindedness and moral fiber you actively seeking a woman in the church and valuing the character of a churchgoing woman rather than just looking for some slut to bang. She will appreciate that. And if you have to convince her the pot is ok, you'll impress her doing it in an intelligent, sensitive and diplomatic way. Also the extra effort showing you are a good person despite being a pot smoker will impress too. She will appreciate it, even if that particular girl decides she can't be with a 'sinner' it will be noted and appreciated...

 

[Sunbiz1]

I have recently forsaken my favorite bar. the ratio of assholes was getting to high.

So I figured they could use one less.

Good thing I wasn't a patron, last asshole I met in a bar wound up with a broken hip...and I was of course taken to jail.

That effectively ended the bar days back in 1998, lol.

 

[lokie]

Good thing I wasn't a patron, last asshole I met in a bar wound up with a broken hip...and I was of course taken to jail.

That effectively ended the bar days back in 1998, lol.

I can empathize with the situation.

I left before things got out of hand.

I never go out thinking "I 'm gonna kick all of your asses" but I know when the dust settles
"Everyone in the room will be hurting"

There is only 3 people that I even liked in that bar and our paths only crossed there.

I may as well stay at home because if i had a can of asshole repellent i would
still be a lonesome soul.

 

[lahadaextranjera]

Sometimes you have to go out just as much as sometimes u need to stay in. I had a birthday do last night and I had to go even though I didn't want to. Stayed out till midday today and had a great time in the end!! Hadn't been out since thursday night! Sick now tho

It's about getting the balance right!!

 

[bigbillyrocka]

I can empathize with the situation.

I left before things got out of hand.

I never go out thinking "I 'm gonna kick all of your asses" but I know when the dust settles
"Everyone in the room will be hurting"

There is only 3 people that I even liked in that bar and our paths only crossed there.

I may as well stay at home because if i had a can of asshole repellent i would
still be a lonesome soul.

Me too. My sister had a fiance whom of which took his own life in a drunken rampage.
Before he did that (year before) he took me to a bar that is strictly beer and wine. It was to become my sanctuary. There was a catch though, they sold strictly only micro brews and highly foreign brews and wines from around the world. No big name stuff like bud, coors etc. Not even sam adams as theyre "too mainstream". Found my favorite Aventinus, a nice dark amber high content belgian/german brau.

Any ways, moral of the story is that this bar only attracted beer and wine snobs of all makes and classes that only talked about one thing: what they were drinking. Loved that place! (Recently moved away)

Those people, they never wanted to argue, only smile and make new friends. A few surgeons next to a tattoo artist just seems out of place, but the aura was always good!

 

[neosapien]

 

[Sunbiz1]

I can empathize with the situation.

I left before things got out of hand.

I never go out thinking "I 'm gonna kick all of your asses" but I know when the dust settles
"Everyone in the room will be hurting"

There is only 3 people that I even liked in that bar and our paths only crossed there.

I may as well stay at home because if i had a can of asshole repellent i would
still be a lonesome soul.

The guy beat up on women, so I already had a reason...then he was dumb enough to try me out for size. I don't even drink anymore, does absolutely nothing for me except dehydrate...lol. I still go to concerts though, never had any trouble at those. When that incident happened back in 98', I had about 2/3 of a fifth of crown royal in me. Had I been sober or even baked, I would have stopped when I had the guy on the ground but of course the alcohol affected my judgement.

Peace

 

[joesmithjoe]

I've been there but I have to say that you are focusing on the wrong things. If the only reason you are going out is to meet a girl then it will most likely never happen. If you are going out with your friends to hang out to have a good time and you are open to anything that might happen along the way, you are of the right mind set. It sounds like you are in a funk and the only cure I have found is daily exercise, sunlight and forcing yourself out of the house.

 

[GrowinTheDank]

I don't want to go out, to meet a girl at least. Don't get me wrong! I used to think that was the only way to do it, but when I say 'meet a girl', I mean someone I actually want to have a real relationship with. You don't have to go out to find a soul mate, but you do need to love yourself before even worrying about that. If you want, read these quotes. Bob Marley was a very, very wise man, and there is much we can learn from the gifts he left behind.

http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/25241.Bob_Marley

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
― Bob Marley

“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.”
― Bob Marley

“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.”
― Bob Marley