When is it ok to sleep with your workmates?

[xKuroiTaimax]

i wouldnt suggest it. people go gettin attatched and its just all bad from there. that very action resulted in a failed marriage for me.

So it's ok to slut around the office with unattached sex? Wouldn't there be less disaster if people just fucked people they were actually into? Did your marriage fail because you or your wife cheated ad got attached? The problem was with the cheating, not having more than a physical connection with someone you or she banged.

 

[cannabineer]

I've had some fun with several of my coworkers when I worked for a research company. Always outside of my department though. If you can maintain professionalism in the work place then I don't see a problem. Unless you're going at it like rabbits in the office. That's a no-no.

I can think of one industry in which that is a requirement.

But to the larger question, I say no. The downside is too great. cn

 

[lahadaextranjera]

But you don't have to sleep around the office. How about date one cute secretary and go steady ^^; But you are right, no one wants to be labeled the slut and the reputation would follow you around and ruin your professional reputation. I've seen too many office dramas where one guy screws all the women, they end up feeling like hos for fucking the pimp and he is exposed for unpleasant person he is.. However much men boast about how many people they've slept with, not one likes a man ho really.

And for the women there often seems to be this confusing duality where half the time he is a 'self-empowered' and adored temptress who is in control and knows what she wants and the other half of the time the same woman is scorned. It's a difficult one eh.

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Lahada you seem like a nice person with a good set of morals. I say go for it. And if you, being a nice girl, think dating your coworker is 'wrong' I say give it a go ^^. My first ever sort-of-one-night-stand turned into my first (and hopefully last) relationship, even though some may think me slutty for it.

You have a good head on your shoulders, and I get the feeling you have a good heart, too. If your boss knows, why not? Just don't go ito it thinking yo will break up a month later and have to face the awkwardness in the office for the rest of your employment.

Its always gonna be tough for women in that respect. Men become studs and women sluts. However my situation is different coz I've been here for over 7 yrs and I spilt up with my Boyf of 6 yrs. I'm always with guys and there's no other women that work there- just me! less competition more choice!!

 

[lahadaextranjera]

This is funny- the boss is 8 yrs younger than me, the Italian stallion in question is 3 yrs younger and some of the boys that work for the club are teenage- I could be their Mum!!

 

[lahadaextranjera]

everyone knows that no means yes...

Uh, how many years did u get for that?

 

[lahadaextranjera]

Risk versus reward? A question I've asked myself many a time. Do we think with our hearts or our heads (girls I mean)? We know that some men think with their pricks instead of their heads.

I think a work-do is a good idea for a social get together. Gonna bring that up tomorrow when we have a meeting. What will be will be and everything happens for a reason. Que sera sera, whatever will be will be (singing)

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

Aw, I'm sorry to her that, Lahada... what went wrong??

There you go, you sound like the kind of person that goes steady and you did just come out of a long term relationship. This could work I guess. You're already being tentative, take it slow. So, do you really enjoy this person's company, like their character, have the same good morals, they make you laugh, you share interests and does this person seem to CARE about you?

If the answer to all of the above is yes, happy humping and pray for wedding bells ^^

 

[cannabineer]

Its always gonna be tough for women in that respect. Men become studs and women sluts. However my situation is different coz I've been here for over 7 yrs and I spilt up with my Boyf of 6 yrs. I'm always with guys and there's no other women that work there- just me! less competition more choice!!

The Germans have a great word for strongly sexed women. One such is a Stute (mare) ... you can see the etymology; essentially a Studette. cn

 

[lahadaextranjera]

We were just too different and couldn't get on. He never puffs and I rarely drink, unlike him. I wasn't on a marriage and kids mission but after all those years you expect things to move a bit quicker, maybe engagement. Then my path changed and he doesn't like my work. He used to be on my case a lot and try to tell me how to work. Joke really as he's a lawyer. The arguments were fantastic and I'd regularly catch myself looking behind me to check there wasn't a jury! I was a rebel at school and he was a constant challenge!!

 

[lahadaextranjera]

The Germans have a great word for strongly sexed women. One such is a Stute (mare) ... you can see the etymology; essentially a Studette. cn

Ja!!? Ich bin eine studette? Ich spechen einen bissen deutsch!! Ich haber eine Deutsch freund vor 6 jahren!!

I know plenty of words - my ex is German !!

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

Ah I see... Totally understandable, and it's not like you split because you couldn't settle down... quite the opposite. My current one being my first relationship, I could never understand ever letting go of someone who loves you voluntarily, but then will come someone who loves ALL of you and then nothings can makes you drift apart...

You're a nice lady, Lahada. I hope this guy appreciates you for all you are.

 

[cannabineer]

The costumes can be elaborate. cn

 

[charface]

As soon as a crowd gathers start

 

[lahadaextranjera]

We shall see. I just couldn't make my ex happy and I really hope he finds someone that does. I've got 4 yrs on him so he'd better hurry up! I can't live in Germany either. I couldn't even go back to London now.

Theres a big difference between need and want. I know I don't need a man. Luckily, I've got all my lovely RIU e-boyfriends to keep me cockles warm !!

I like not knowing what's gonna happen next!!

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

Ja!!? Ich bin eine studette? Ich spechen einen bissen deutsch!! Ich haber eine Deutsch freund vor 6 jahren!!

I know plenty of words - my ex is German !!

Sprechen sie einem bissien Deutsch? Gestern Jahre habe ich nach Berlin geflogen... Es war tolle; Man kann ohne Identifikation Zigaretten kaufen.

 

[lahadaextranjera]

The costumes can be elaborate. cn

Das ist fantastich!! Wonderball!

 

[lahadaextranjera]

Sprechen sie einem bissien Deutsch? Gestern Jahre habe ich nach Berlin geflogen... Es war tolle; Man kann ohne Identifikation Zigaretten kaufen.

OMG !! Brilliant ! I really want to go to Berlin. I know Hamburg only. Check this : hast a meine kipper alter !! In my best hamburg slang! (sorry abt the spelling)

 

[cannabineer]

Sprechen sie einem bissien Deutsch? Gestern Jahre habe ich nach Berlin geflogen... Es war tolle; Man kann ohne Identifikation Zigaretten kaufen.

Tabak ist immerhin so ungesund. Ich empfehle ein (tabakfreies) "Gelenk". cn

 

[xKuroiTaimax]

Lahada, come to London and smoke with me >_< Keep me company when I can't see my boyfriend :3

And the whole pony play thing intrigues me, too; they often seem very serious about it, conducting 3-day events in the same fashion as with real horses. It isn't actually very sex-oriented at all from what I've seen. It's nice that people indulging in the fetish actually know and understand horses, and get into a real horse-like state of mind.

 

[imchucky666]

One of my friends has had 2 boyf in the same office within 6 mths and she's cool with both of them and the new girlfriend, also in the same office. It is quite a large company though!!

She's BI??????????