UUggghhh!! A Rant.

budlover13

budlover13

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Just had to rant about my ex who took my son on a date with her Sancho. Not the guy she cheated on me with and moved in with, but the guy who she is cheating on HIM with.

She bought him a Ripstick for Christmas 2 years ago and now wants it back at her place. (i have primary custody.)

She is entitled (via court order) to one weekend a month and all 3 day holidays except President's Day and Labor Day. That agreement was made when she was living 300 miles away and she has since moved closer within 20 miles (as soon as i remarried and her boyfriend decided to move back up here where he was raised.) She now enjoys (via my son's request) every other weekend and the same holidays. NOW she wants EVERY weekend and ALL holidays.

She refuses to buy him clothes for his weekend (and half the summer) visits because she says he'll just outgrow them. She lies to him about a LOT and plays mental games with him (remember, he's just turning 13 in a couple months). She lays guilt trips on him and is pretty much a cunt imo. i DON'T use that term lightly.

She left a week before his 6th b-day and did so by dropping him off at school and telling him she wouldn't be home when he got out. The story could go on and on but i just needed to vent.

Thanks guys.
 
olylifter420

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Damn, how the fuck did that happen?

And im glad i was able to leave a dysfunctional relationship before anything serious arose.

I feel for you buddy.

I hate bitches like that, my ex cuniada is exactly like that...
 
budlover13

budlover13

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olylifter420 said:
Damn, how the fuck did that happen?

And im glad i was able to leave a dysfunctional relationship before anything serious arose.

I feel for you buddy.

I hate bitches like that, my ex cuniada is exactly like that...
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The date or the whole fucked up situation?

The date is because she had my son on a weekend when she asked to NOT get him but it was already scheduled and my son wanted to go. SOOoooo, she combined the two activities.
 
budlover13

budlover13

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olylifter420 said:
Ending up with a bitch like that?
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i was working with her uncle who introduced us because he hated her current guy. THEN i was told that her OTHER uncle who she was living with was molesting her so we got a place together to get her out of there. (i didn't find out until later that the sex was consensual 0.0). My parents didn't like us living together "out of wedlock" and she simultaneously developed a raging UTI. She got treated with heavy antibiotics which, unbeknownst to us, counteracted the pill. She got pregnant, we got married, and the story began.
 
PeyoteReligion

PeyoteReligion

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This is all very unfortunate. The only advice I would give is don't let her get every weekend. You have an already agreed upon court order, make sure it holds up. If you can.
 
PeyoteReligion

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budlover13 said:
i was working with her uncle who introduced us because he hated her current guy. THEN i was told that her OTHER uncle who she was living with was molesting her so we got a place together to get her out of there. (i didn't find out until later that the sex was consensual 0.0). My parents didn't like us living together "out of wedlock" and she simultaneously developed a raging UTI. She got treated with heavy antibiotics which, unbeknownst to us, counteracted the pill. She got pregnant, we got married, and the story began.
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Wow wtf? Consensual uncle sex? Damn man I've got myself into some bad relationships with baggage, but that takes the cake. Glad that's in your past man...
 
budlover13

budlover13

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PeyoteReligion said:
This is all very unfortunate. The only advice I would give is don't let her get every weekend. You have an already agreed upon court order, make sure it holds up. If you can.
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Hell NO she ain't getting every weekend! i don't want it and MOST importantly, neither does my son. We have already been allowing her more than the court order to simply stay OUT of court AND because it is what my son wants. IF it goes back to court, i will do everything in my power to make sure he never sees her again. 100% custody. He knows this and is "good" with it because he sees her as being the one pushing the subject.
 
budlover13

budlover13

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PeyoteReligion said:
Wow wtf? Consensual uncle sex? Damn man I've got myself into some bad relationships with baggage, but that takes the cake. Glad that's in your past man...
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Yeah, kinda. She had 3 uncles. The one i worked with, the one she fucked (an ex-cop locally and still a "valued" community member), and one who killed two cops before offing himself.

http://www.fresnobee.com/2010/02/26/1839186_p2/minkler-suspect-planned-on-deadly.html

Fucking LOVE my life sometimes. *SMFH*
 
er0senin

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Dude i know your pain! i wish i did have any sort of advice i rly do, but the best i can say is at least you have your child and at least its up to you to decide since you have custody and are in control! my ex-wife and i have a vary similar situation and past...lol i almost thought you were me dude! Only reason i sometimes let my kids mother act a fool is because i can still confirm that she is a good loving parent even if she is a total bitch, but thats for another day.Does she even care from what you can see? even troubled people can be wanting to do the right thing and wanting to spend more time with her son + moving closer doesnt sound so bad to me.
 
er0senin

er0senin

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budlover13 said:
Hell NO she ain't getting every weekend! i don't want it and MOST importantly, neither does my son. We have already been allowing her more than the court order to simply stay OUT of court AND because it is what my son wants. IF it goes back to court, i will do everything in my power to make sure he never sees her again. 100% custody. He knows this and is "good" with it because he sees her as being the one pushing the subject.
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you are making the correct decision bro. However i can not support when you talk about completely removing her from your son's life. That is imo a little drastic. I can agree on her not sounding like the best person in the world, but your son still wanted to meet her more than once a month and YOU allowed it. there must have been something good behind this no? maybe all i do is sound stupid but isnt what your son wants and needs the most important?
 
budlover13

budlover13

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er0senin said:
Dude i know your pain! i wish i did have any sort of advice i rly do, but the best i can say is at least you have your child and at least its up to you to decide since you have custody and are in control! my ex-wife and i have a vary similar situation and past...lol i almost thought you were me dude! Only reason i sometimes let my kids mother act a fool is because i can still confirm that she is a good loving parent even if she is a total bitch, but thats for another day.Does she even care from what you can see? even troubled people can be wanting to do the right thing and wanting to spend more time with her son + moving closer doesnt sound so bad to me.
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She sees my son's love as something she "deserves" because she popped him out imo. She gives him little to no choice in what goes on at her house. After all, she and her guy are the adults right? i'm the bad guy because i let him choose what he wants to do when it comes down to time spent with she and i. She says i'm putting him in the middle. i say i'm giving him a voice in this mess.

i'm probably hyper-sensitive and assuming too much when i say that a lot of what she does is more to annoy/inconvenince my wife and i rather than out of love for her son. Maybe not, given her track record.

In the end, my father/papa bear/MAN side says i should've kept her from ever seeing him again when i was making $70k a year and she had shit.
 
budlover13

budlover13

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er0senin said:
you are making the correct decision bro. However i can not support when you talk about completely removing her from your son's life. That is imo a little drastic. I can agree on her not sounding like the best person in the world, but your son still wanted to meet her more than once a month and YOU allowed it. there must have been something good behind this no? maybe all i do is sound stupid but isnt what your son wants and needs the most important?
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My ONLY reasoning behind it was to "give her enough rope to hang herself", which she has done well from what i gather with convos with my son.
 
blazinkill504

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i dunno if you got feelin for her but fuck that bitch for real. she's out there fuckin your kids heads up with lies an thats bogus. you think she gonna really get all weekends tho?!
 
er0senin

er0senin

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blazinkill504 said:
i dunno if you got feelin for her but fuck that bitch for real. she's out there fuckin your kids heads up with lies an thats bogus. you think she gonna really get all weekends tho?!
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ill second this after your replys bro... its sad but screw that bitch if she is messing with your sons head like that and for her selfish ways. Let your son decide for himself once you belive he is ready to take that decision. best of luck to you
 
olylifter420

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Dont feel sorry for her.

I did the same mistake when i was younger and stupid bitxh used it against me.

They dont have a heart, why shuld you give them one to fuck with

budlover13 said:
She sees my son's love as something she "deserves" because she popped him out imo. She gives him little to no choice in what goes on at her house. After all, she and her guy are the adults right? i'm the bad guy because i let him choose what he wants to do when it comes down to time spent with she and i. She says i'm putting him in the middle. i say i'm giving him a voice in this mess.

i'm probably hyper-sensitive and assuming too much when i say that a lot of what she does is more to annoy/inconvenince my wife and i rather than out of love for her son. Maybe not, given her track record.

In the end, my father/papa bear/MAN side says i should've kept her from ever seeing him again when i was making $70k a year and she had shit.
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budlover13

budlover13

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Most definitely don't have any GOOD feelings toward her and sure as hell don't feel sorry for how we've dealt with her.

There IS a part of me that is sad for her because i don't think she really realizes what she's doing in pushing my son away. But, that's been the plan since she left. That's why i've given her so much leeway. At least this way i can't be blamed for keeping him from seeing his mom.
 
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