When we are children we live in the moment, this is where true happiness comes from Hep. As we get older our minds continue to grow (well, when we get too old they start to degrade, but everything does that with enough passing time) Instead of worrying about the past, or the future, the only thing that is on our minds is NOW, and what we can do to make now more pleasurable for ourselves, and for the people we are around.
Like i said before, after lying to ourselves for so long... and when the absurdity of existence is realized and accepted, it is inevitable that we will be sad for a time. But i assure you, the more time passes, the more we will embrace the absurdity instead of fear it, instead of run from it. The more we embrace it, the more honest we are with ourselves, with other people, the better we feel, the more at peace with ourselves we are.
As ive said before, but what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? We must all make our own way through life.
Honesty gives us a heightened sense of freedom, peace of mind, taking responsibility for the decisions we make, and the things that we think. Becoming more conscious about the way we think, why we think the things we do, and trying to understand how our emotions effect the way we think is a big part of growing up, a big part of getting older and starting to become one with who we are as an individual.
Happiness is a choice my friend, not many people realize this, and too many are too self absorbed or do not have enough self confidence to realize this. We all have it in us, each and every one of us, to make the decision to just BE happy, to just BE in the NOW.
One of the biggest problems with the human condition is that we have this tendency to view ourselves through the eyes of other human animals, instead of viewing ourselves through our own eyes. Know that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks about you, the only thing that really matters is what YOU think about you, bottom line. The more honest you are with you, the better you will feel about you, and the easier it will be for you to choose happiness over sadness.
Just this evening i rode my bike to the store to get my lil bro (20yrs) and his girlfriend (22yrs) a bottle of vodka while they set up their ps3 for us to do some gaming and drinking all night. I rode across the road to kroger and locked my bike up, went inside and grabbed the half gallon, and walked up to the check out isle. There was an older man and woman, i would say around the age of 50-60 who had a shit ton stuff, and the poor (very cute) girl working the cash line was having a really hard time keeping up, i could see it. So instead of doing what everybody else would do and sit and watch, i set down my half gallon, walked around to the other side of the isle and started bagging the groceries and putting them into the cart. After i got done the man (with a very cool australian accent btw) asked me if i worked there, i smiled and said "nope!" he asked why i helped, i smiled and said "cuz im just a really nice dude" you could just see the gratitude emanating from the guys face. Oh it was priceless really... anyways, i walked back around and noticed the name tag on the girls shirt, Jenn i believe, and said pretty rough nite eh Jenn, and you really wouldn't believe how important it is to someone for you to treat them as a human being, instead of a thing put there to ring up your shit ya know? So not only did i help two strangers, i also helped another feel a little better ya know? And i was also a great example for everyone else around who observed my actions. After i rang the shit up the dude had waited for me so he could shake my hand, and told me how much it meant for someone to do that, and that it fills him with a sense of hope that there are still good people out in the world, and he gave me his card lol. Some kind of president for a security system company or something. I prolly wont call him, but whatevs.
The moral of this story, is that when you start becoming who you really want to be (and im sure, deep down in everyone's inner being, (i would like to think) that they would want to do the same exact thing) you find so many different ways to fill your life with meaning, purpose, freedom and happiness. To be a good example for everyone, and especially for yourself, choosing to be a better part of yourself in all occasions. Going out of your way to do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return but a smile, and a thanks. Doing something spontaneous that you normally wouldn't do will put you in some really cool situations where you can meet some really good people, because they ARE out there bud, we just gotta find them. The best way to do this is to be better parts of ourselves in all moments, to be a good example for everyone, and most importantly... be honest with ourselves.
Keep that glass half full my friend, stay young, live in the now, be honest, it's all we can really do. Hope you enjoyed the story.