Hepheastus420
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Hmmm you make me question the possibilty of soul mates.. But IDK.
soul mates
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Winter Woman
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If by soul mate you mean that a total stranger can stand next to you and you physically can feel a real electrical, sparky inner feeling. Then yes it exists. I've felt it.
It happened to me. I had reached out to my university about something I was working on and he handled my request. He came into town during a terrible winter storm from Virginia. He was nothing like I was expecting.
The waitress came he ordered a drink, I said I'd take an ice tea. Then he started asking for data points, cost analysis, production numbers. I'd been through this before, he was trying to crush me! When the waitress came back I told her I had changed my mind that I'd have a White Russian. His face changed and softened he then apologized to me saying, something in me made him feel very aggressive. He calmed down, the snow continued, the rest of the evening went well. We talked for a couple of hours. We grew up just a few miles from each other. He told me his middle name, what his parents were like, his brother. We found out as kids we hung out at the same places. He asked me if I knew who he was? I confessed I didn't.
Unbeknownst to me the university had set up a meeting for me with a man who has been on the cover of Forbes and Fortune magazine more than once. Who knew?
Dinner was over, he paid the bill, he walked me out to the parking lot. Wouldn't you know it his rental car was parked next to mine! We stood there between the cars with big fluffy snowflakes slowly floating down illuminated from the parking lot lights and melting on our faces and hair. Then suddenly a very weird tingly, electric feeling came over me. If he had reached out and pulled me to him I would have melted I would have kissed him.
We stood there for a moment looking at each other. I reached out my hand and shook his, got in my car and drove away. I was no more than 5 miles down the road and my phone rang it was him. It was him!
'Did you feel that?' he asked.
'Yes, yes I did feel it' was my reply. I was clutching the phone so hard I thought I'd break it.
He said he couldn't stay any longer the storm was dumping tons of snow and he had to get his plane off the ground while he still could.
We talked a few times over the next couple of weeks, more like burn up the phone lines. Then I was going to a meeting in Chicago. He flew in. We just stood there looking into each others eyes. That feeling was still there, I felt like this was what I had been waiting for all my life.
We had pizza somewhere near State Street. He showed me his loft he still kept there, remnants leftover from his first company. Then he told me the truth... he was married, but would I consider being his...
Problem, I never would do a married man, not even him. I couldn't.
There is a blessing and a curse to this. The blessing is I know it exists and the curse is I know it exists. Another part of the curse is there isn't any city or town in this country that his business isn't there somewhere. I know I've faded from his memory, but a part of me still remembers him.
Time has came and went. I met my husband and I'm very happy. We have had a hard but good life and I wouldn't change it.
But, every once in a while I wonder if he hadn't been married what would my life be like. I think I know he would have had a woman on the side with me too. Once a cheat.
silasraven
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once a cheat isnt true, i love and hate your story WW it makes me sad which is why i hate it.
Hepheastus420
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Well that put's me down horribly ww.. If that's what you call a soul mate than that sucks. I thought soul mates automatically love each other forever. I believe in love and all (like how you loved that other dude), but I also believe that there will always be somebody else in the world that your spouse would honestly rather be with. I mean there's billions and billions of people in the world, how does anybody know that their "soul mate" wouldn't leave them for anybody else?
Out of these billions of people, how the hell am I supposed to find my soul mate? It just won't happen. I'm just gonna end up settling down thinking I found my soul mate. Because that's what people do, they settle. I don't believe people are "destined" to be together. Which is what I consider soul mates to be. Love is real, I know that much.. but soul mates? Bah humbug.
Out of these billions of people, how the hell am I supposed to find my soul mate? It just won't happen. I'm just gonna end up settling down thinking I found my soul mate. Because that's what people do, they settle. I don't believe people are "destined" to be together. Which is what I consider soul mates to be. Love is real, I know that much.. but soul mates? Bah humbug.
Winter Woman
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Maybe it was just really strong animal attraction. I'll never know. There is a place in my heart for him, I'll never forget. We'll never see into each other again.
Now my husband is my soul mate. He was with me when I quit my business so I could take care of my mom while she faded away. He would take both of us out on our dates. He has never failed me. I held him when a trusted individual wiped him out-completely. I cried when the doctor told us he would eventually need a new heart, but he wouldn't put him on the list because he ate brownies. Making him druggie. He'll have to test clean on random drug tests for 2 years just to be put on the list. He has never done a drug that I know of, ever.
Do we settle? Yes, we do. But that doesn't mean it can't be beautiful.
Tenner
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Your not a religious man, then things can`t get supernatural. In that case the only magic you see or feel will be the magic you create! I don`t belive in any sort of destiny either... Nothing is destined to be... You make your own destiny.
How does anybody know that their `soul mate` won`t leave with anybody else... Well think of two people sitting in a room completely twisted on acid. They both look at each other and start thinking, well what if the person opposite me suddenly does this, but what if he wants to kill me, how do I know he isnt? and keep on looping the same style of thoughts over and over again. Well, that is not how a trip should go. You need to fuel that thing up with the driving forces... Trust, hope, love... The outcome will be very different, and the vibe will instantly change...
And its those driving forces that will drive any relationship. I was long distance with a girl for 2 years, then together for 2 years. I knew better than anything she never messed with another man, and I never messed with another girl. It rarely happened in my dreams, and I woke up feeling horrible. She would say the same. When we were together the fire was burning and we were hugging in tears... But if I started thinking, well what if she was cheating and lying to me, and she did the same, it would of fallen apart! I did at times, but anytime that doubt was expressed we bashed it into the ground with reassurances and by expressing ourselves and how we thought, because we trusted each other so much...
And of course there are many people you can be soulmates with. How awesome your relationship is, will depend on all the moments of shared laughter, and joined experiences. Look at really really close friends, they know what each other means so well it appears like they are talking another language to other people... You can`t just get that with anyone you have met, its special and it has to be built...
WW I think you did the right think with not cheating on his wife with him, I would of done the same... You have to put yourselves in others shoes, you could be his `soulmate wife` being cheated on by another `soulmate`. Sorry to hear about your husband, that is some more horrid injustice on cannabis users... I wish him all the best, and you never know what science may pull out the hat, not all down to a donor. Don`t lose the hope
Hepheastus420
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So there is no such thing as a soul mateYour not a religious man, then things can`t get supernatural. In that case the only magic you see or feel will be the magic you create! I don`t belive in any sort of destiny either... Nothing is destined to be... You make your own destiny.
How does anybody know that their `soul mate` won`t leave with anybody else... Well think of two people sitting in a room completely twisted on acid. They both look at each other and start thinking, well what if the person opposite me suddenly does this, but what if he wants to kill me, how do I know he isnt? and keep on looping the same style of thoughts over and over again. I see what you mean with the loving somebody enough to trust them thing..
And of course there are many people you can be soulmates with. How awesome your relationship is, will depend on all the moments of shared laughter, and joined experiences. Look at really really close friends, they know what each other means so well it appears like they are talking another language to other people... You can`t just get that with anyone you have met, its special and it has to be built...
WW I think you did the right think with not cheating on his wife with him, I would of done the same... You have to put yourselves in others shoes, you could be his `soulmate wife` being cheated on by another `soulmate`. Sorry to hear about your husband, that is some more horrid injustice on cannabis users... I wish him all the best, and you never know what science may pull out the hat, not all down to a donor. Don`t lose the hope
. I know love is beautiful, I appreciate it greatly. I was just saying there is no such thing as a soul mate since there is no such thing. Ahahahahahaha I love the acid scenario/explanation. I've sat in one spot staring at my friend out of the corner of my eye wondering if he was gonna hurt me for like an hour. He's a REALLY BIG guy so I didn't want him to jump up and attack me. Oh the fear struck me deep. He was just sitting there holding his hand out as though he was holding an imaginary ball and looking at the top of my head which made me skeptic of his intentions. I was just so scared I must have looked like a deer in headlights lol. If I would have just chilled I would have realized he was just playing with an imaginary ball of light while happily jamming to music and we could have been looking through red and blue goggles while running around the room.
"it's special and it has to be built".. loved that. My friend (girl) was always talking about how she was confused about her bf being with her over all the other hot chicks since he could have pulled in much better looking girls than her at the time. I told her it's because you actually spent the time to build a relationship with him. I also told her that if any girl would put enough effort into a relationship with her bf, he would love her too. Even though it wasn't my intention, it made her really sad. It's true though. It's like how people say you should love your parents because they're your parents. Wrong, that's not why you should love your parents. You should love your parents because of the time, care, and effort they put into y'all's relationship. Anybody can be a trusted and loved parent/guardian if they put the time into raising a kid. Trust and love are the foundation to a beautiful relationship.. Still, there's no such thing as soul mates.
And yes, good job ww on not being a mistress lol.
. You made the right choice. Irrelevant.. but this whole "soul mate" thing reminds me of how some people just can't face the fact that our emotions are chemicals. So what if they're chemicals in our brain? They're still beautiful. But they have to insist that there's more to emotions than just chemicals. Saying that kinda makes the way I see emmotions inferior.. those douche bags. Same thing with soul mates.. they don't exist, but love is just as wonderful.
Tenner
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Yes in this context I deffinately agree with youSo there is no such thing as a soul mate
Ahahahahahaha I love the acid scenario/explanation. I've sat in one spot staring at my friend out of the corner of my eye wondering if he was gonna hurt me for like an hour. He's a REALLY BIG guy so I didn't want him to jump up and attack me. Oh the fear struck me deep. He was just sitting there holding his hand out as though he was holding an imaginary ball and looking at the top of my head which made me skeptic of his intentions. I was just so scared I must have looked like a deer in headlights lol. If I would have just chilled I would have realized he was just playing with an imaginary ball of light while happily jamming to music and we could have been looking through red and blue goggles while running around the room.
"it's special and it has to be built".. loved that. My friend (girl) was always talking about how she was confused about her bf being with her over all the other hot chicks since he could have pulled in much better looking girls than her at the time. I told her it's because you actually spent the time to build a relationship with him. I also told her that if any girl would put enough effort into a relationship with her bf, he would love her too. Even though it wasn't my intention, it made her really sad. It's true though. It's like how people say you should love your parents because they're your parents. Wrong, that's not why you should love your parents. You should love your parents because of the time, care, and effort they put into y'all's relationship. Anybody can be a trusted and loved parent/guardian if they put the time into raising a kid. Trust and love are the foundation to a beautiful relationship.. Still, there's no such thing as soul mates.
And yes, good job ww on not being a mistress lol.
Irrelevant.. but this whole "soul mate" thing reminds me of how some people just can't face the fact that our emotions are chemicals. So what if they're chemicals in our brain? They're still beautiful. But they have to insist that there's more to emotions than just chemicals. Saying that kinda makes the way I see emmotions inferior.. those douche bags. Same thing with soul mates.. they don't exist, but love is just as wonderful.
Funny acid trip there but the stuff can just do that sometimes... Amazing how a persons reality is bent by their thoughts, and much much more on when they are on acid 
I follow on the emotions part too. I love stuff like metaprogramming and `the computational theory of the mind`... so on...
You could call happiness (from all sources, emotions, love, playing, sex) just chemicals too. Drugs are a great glitch to abuse in that respect, but not consistent. Otherwise, I would be rushing to get lots of sick drugs
I do "every now and again", but I think the happiest person would be the one who attaches all the triggers of happiness to things happening in his life, thus uniting the two things... drugs or not... positivity man
Hepheastus420
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What's metaprogramming?Yes in this context I deffinately agree with you
I follow on the emotions part too. I love stuff like metaprogramming and `the computational theory of the mind`... so on...
You could call happiness (from all sources, emotions, love, playing, sex) just chemicals too. Drugs are a great glitch to abuse in that respect, but not consistent. Otherwise, I would be rushing to get lots of sick drugs
With enough chocolate, you'll experience love.. but of course you'll also be horribly sick. So I love my natural and awesome emotions.
Acid is weird right? It's like all humans have a connection of some sort that allows us to read each others emotions. Kinda like vibes, but mor in-depth. IDK how to explain it though.
Hepheastus420
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Seems like you just need a dick lol.
And soul mates aren't a joke muffin queen. just replace soul with love and you'll get what they mean. Now if you say love is a joke, then I'll halfway agree with you
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april
Pickle Queen
I should have said "fuck it" But the dick needs to be the thing inside me
Metasynth
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Hello April and HipHopAnonymous...How's it going? Where's the "happening" thread tonight?Seems like you just need a dick lol.
And soul mates aren't a joke muffin queen. just replace soul with love and you'll get what they mean. Now if you say love is a joke, then I'll halfway agree with you
Soulmate...nice thought...Have you eveer thought someone was your soulmate, but they didn't feel the same way? Weird...
april
Pickle Queen
What is love? Lust? do people really luv each other, or what they get from each other? What if the person u want to be ur soul mate does not feel the same way? I was 2 afraid to risk loosing his frienship, so i left him and everyone i thought i loved, but i only miss him, and he betrayed me, what is luv????????
Ok smoking a bowl or 2, damn it i should have gone for it, but I want it all, not just a penis....
Ok smoking a bowl or 2, damn it i should have gone for it, but I want it all, not just a penis....
Hepheastus420
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I;m too high to get this one.. shame, I usually love your jokes.I should have said "fuck it" But the dick needs to be the thing inside me
april
Pickle Queen
LOL i so did not see this b4 i posted, lol funny shit. Im ok how u doing luv?
Metasynth
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Eh...I'm here, I'm high...good I guess...Need a dab?
Hepheastus420
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Love is a beautiful emotion that gives you chills and makes you smile.. like this
. Lust, it also gives you goosbumps and makes you smile, but it doesn't last as long as love.. and isn't as "deep". People do love each other which includes what they get from each other. I've loved a girl before and I loved what she gave me, which was love in return. Couples can give each other love, support, and kindness. So yeah they love each other and what they get from the relationship. What if your soul mate doesn't consider you their soul mate? Well, that just honestly sucks. It sucks so bad. It's the love triangle, it's a bitch. But, there is always somebody else out there.
You shouldn't have left him. That's a promise to lose y'all's friendship.. I don't get why you would end a friendship because you didn't want him to end the friendship. If he betrayed you, move on.. You will find love again.
I'm happy for you for not going for the dick. You have good morals april.. Two thumbs up for you
. aww you need a hug
Hepheastus420
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hahahaha.. the sad truth.ng too much thinking ...