Living With A Bipolar Person

[eye exaggerate]

After I got kicked out of my dorm at school I've been in living in a three bedroom condo with my uncle, who is bipolar. He doesn't take his meds (Depakote) and all he does is lay in his room with the lights off and the tv on either reading, playing Call of Duty on the computer, drinking, or sleeping. The only time he comes out is to get food, cigs, and alcohol. He didn't pay the power bill last week, he hasn't paid for car insurance so I can't drive his car anywhere, dpoesn't feed his dog or our two cats, doesn't go grocery shopping, and he just stays locked up in his room all day.

It's really depressing and now it's making me be kind of depressed just being around it. I need to get out of here but I can't drive the car anymore and most of my friends all live downtown and go to school there so they don't have cars.

Anyway, what would yall do?

...okay, let's start here.

Why did you get kicked out of dorm?

Do you pay rent and for amenities?

Do you pay for your own groceries?

Do you pitch in for the car insurance?

 

[2fast92]

He HAS a girlfriend and he really only acts any differently when his daughter is around. That's when he actually does stuff and comes out of his room. My whole family has tried to help him for years but it doesn't work. We got him to go to the hospital a few years ago and they made him take his meds and he kept taking them for a while but he just stopped taking them as soon as he left.

 

[2fast92]

...okay, let's start here.

Why did you get kicked out of dorm?

Do you pay rent and for amenities?

Do you pay for your own groceries?

Do you pitch in for the car insurance?

Don't make this about me, I haven't done anything bad to him. All I'm doing is trying to help. I make his meals and do the laundry and feed the animals and do the dishes and clean. So don't make me out to be a bad person.

 

[eye exaggerate]

Don't make this about me, I haven't done anything bad to him. All I'm doing is trying to help. I make his meals and do the laundry and feed the animals and do the dishes and clean. So don't make me out to be a bad person.

...inferred. You made this about you - hence the thread.

I'm not at all making you out to be a bad person. Do you know the expression 'beggars can't be choosers'? That is what I am talking about. We're all guilty of this from time to time.

Geez!

 

[Sunbiz1]

Don't make this about me, I haven't done anything bad to him. All I'm doing is trying to help. I make his meals and do the laundry and feed the animals and do the dishes and clean. So don't make me out to be a bad person.

Uncle needs to lay off the booze, it's a depressant that will worsen the condition.

Glad to hear you are back in school, good luck!

 

[2fast92]

...inferred. You made this about you - hence the thread.

I'm not at all making you out to be a bad person. Do you know the expression 'beggars can't be choosers'? That is what I am talking about. We're all guilty of this from time to time.

Geez!

My bad. I was just looking for idea of what I could do to help him.

 

[eye exaggerate]

My bad. I was just looking for idea of what I could do to help him.

...fair enough. Don't ever let up on being a positive influence. His condition is hell.

 

[dirtsurfr]

Bi Polar what a screwed up life, one time yer good to go next you wonder why god let you live.

 

[cannabineer]

You should try unipolar! Same thing, but hold the "good to go".

I have observed with a raised eyebrow at the prickly atmosphere of this thread, and have declined from posting until now.
2fast ... I will wish you one thing: luck. I hope you find a way to both meet your own needs and provide a more-or-less bright spot in your uncle's.
... It should be safe to say that.
cn

 

[Carne Seca]

Bi Polar what a screwed up life, one time yer good to go next you wonder why god let you live.

With proper treatment your life can be fulfilling and even enjoyable. My brother has a great job and wonderful family. He takes his meds like he's supposed to and seeks therapy when things get a little rough. He has a great life and will be the first to tell you that.

 

[mysunnyboy]

my grandmother, mother and brother are all bi-polar. it's not something to take lightly. if you want you can PM me but i personally don't think this is the place to discuss such serious matters. not something to be ashamed of but it's not a joke either

 

[Jar Man]

Interesting! At 52 I was more or less misdiagnosed as bipolar and run through a mental health program for 6 mos, placed on depakote as well and I wound up losing all my motivation, lying around the house and virtually unable to even make my own meals as a result of the depakote itself. I was convinced by clinical assesments that I really had a problem which didn't really exist, I only discovered much later. It was bitter-sweet. Bitter in the beginning for almost 2 years, but sweet in the end. I was awarded SSDI as a result within 6 mos. from filing, and now don't really have a problem as it turns out or need the $300/mo. meds (Depakote and Seraquil). But now have the base income and time to focus all my energy on what I'm really good at and love to do. Grow cannabis

 

[2fast92]

I just wish he would take his meds. When he does that he's fine and acts like his normal self but he's convinced himself he's fine trhe way he is and refuses to take the meds.

 

[mysunnyboy]

you can't make him take them, take care of yourself, it does run in families

 

[heyYousGuys]

My bad. I was just looking for idea of what I could do to help him.

Get a job. You can help him by helping with the bills. Cleaning and feeding the animals is not worth rent and insurance. That's a cop-out, basically saying your efforts are worth a thousand dollars a month. If that's the case, then I got my own mop&bucket, let me take your place so I don't have to pay my bills anymore.

Sorry, but I've met chicks like you. Get a job and pay your own way. Once you do that, you'll probably see why he drinks.

 

[mysunnyboy]

Get a job. You can help him by helping with the bills. Cleaning and feeding the animals is not worth rent and insurance. That's a cop-out, basically saying your efforts are worth a thousand dollars a month. If that's the case, then I got my own mop&bucket, let me take your place so I don't have to pay my bills anymore.

Sorry, but I've met chicks like you. Get a job and pay your own way. Once you do that, you'll probably see why he drinks.

did you read any of this post kid?

 

[PeyoteReligion]

Get a job. You can help him by helping with the bills. Cleaning and feeding the animals is not worth rent and insurance. That's a cop-out, basically saying your efforts are worth a thousand dollars a month. If that's the case, then I got my own mop&bucket, let me take your place so I don't have to pay my bills anymore.

Sorry, but I've met chicks like you. Get a job and pay your own way. Once you do that, you'll probably see why he drinks.

^^idiot. Read the whole thread before posting.

 

[dirtsurfr]

Get a job. You can help him by helping with the bills. Cleaning and feeding the animals is not worth rent and insurance. That's a cop-out, basically saying your efforts are worth a thousand dollars a month. If that's the case, then I got my own mop&bucket, let me take your place so I don't have to pay my bills anymore.

Sorry, but I've met chicks like you. Get a job and pay your own way. Once you do that, you'll probably see why he drinks.

This is what happens when you fall out of a tree on your head...

 

[Finshaggy]

Save up, go to Mexico

Or

Save up and pay the bills