Concerns About Telling my Caregiver that I'm trying a Grow.

[shotrocker]

Hi. I'm new here and am a couple of weeks into my first grow, a dozen seedlings in a tent. After getting my card in the spring, I got tired of Remedy's limits and reached for a caregiver. I was fortunate enough to get a great one! 10 miles away, been growing 20 years, great prices and variety. I've been buying about 2&1/2 ounces a month from him. But I'd really like to try to grow my own. My guy is, (rightfully) very proud of his products, and disdainful of those who don't realize "how hard it is to grow." I have a great relationship with him but wonder if it would stay the same if I tell him I'm growing. It would be great if I could turn to him for advice, but I think I might just become another one of those people he is disdainful. Should I tell him?

 

[unohu69]

My guy always encouraged us to grow.

 

[bryon209]

yes this is true he should encourage it if he doesnt, its because he is greedy in nature tell him whats growin on

 

[bkbbudz]

Unless he really isn't the 'great guy' you think he is, he will hopefully be an encouraging mentor. I would hope a caregiver would show compassion to someone and set aside some of his cash flow. If I were in a legal state not only would I encourage a patient, I would give them clones and help wherever I could.

 

[unohu69]

If hes all that, he would be a member on RIU, if not? meh.......

 

[Maine Brookies]

Just as a thought - you can designate an allotment of your 6 plants to the caregiver, which allows you to remain a patient while allowing you to try your hand at growing for yourself. I'm not 100% certain, but i don't think that splitting the plant allotments has any impact on purchases from the caregiver. That is - you can grow three plants and let the caregiver grow the other three but you can still purchase up to 2.5 oz every 14 days.

 

[SickofPain]

I'd tell him, I'm sure he will encourage & even help you. You obviously think highly of this guy, I'd just be straight up with him. Am sure it will turn out fine

 

[MYWhat?]

I know the law doesn't state it in plain English. Hence the reason the laws allow you to spit your plants. (you grow 3, caregiver 3)

A caregivers role is not only to supply you with MMJ. Their role is to help patients that cant procure their meds. They should be inclined to help you become self sufficient.

If they only want to supply you, they are not a caregiver. They would be a drug dealer !

I know I'll probably get some negative feed back on this but oh well. I'm not saying their bad people, just not a caregiver.

But yes your caregiver should help you (mentor), if they don't like it. Find a new one.

 

[Buddy232]

I also would tell him. Just inform him that your learning more about cannabis and would to experiment more with different strains, medication methods, etc. Also, if you've developed a good enough friendship - working as a team would be great. Tell him your plans and tell him you'd hope for future assistance in exchange for help in his garden, swapping med's, strains, seeds.

You bring up a great topic though. There will be people in your life who stand in your way and in this instance and other life circumstances, you have to your own route.

 

[maineyankee]

I can attest that my CareGiver is a sweetie, and that she encourages her patients to be self-reliant if they choose to do so. That is why she is a CareGiver and not a CareTaker. If a person is just in it for the cash flow, or bragging rights that He/ She has the very best MMJ around, and does not want to "Share Knowledge", then I def would be finding someone else that does.

Just my 2 cents worth of a buck-forty nighty eight
Merry Christmas
The MaineYankee

 

[cerberus]

everyone is saying the same thing, and some of us are caregivers too. its good for you to grow your own meds, plants are a good thing in our lives and a relationship between you and your meds is a really quiet priceless. Every gardener i know feels love for and from there plants.. you should be able to experience that same sensation..

overgrow the system

 

[organicness]

Yea, I actually go to one of my patients house to teach her how to grow. We started off the relationship knowing up front that she would one day want to grow for herself. Even if we didn't, I like to teach patients how to grow. There's always going to be people who can't grow for some reason, but those that want to I think should. This one patient had a caregiver before me who told her to go to Border's and read, 'cause that's how he did it. douche.

 

[maineyankee]

Touche on the Douche !!

 

[mdanforth]

I didn't know I could go to borders and learn all there is to know about indoor growing.....I guess I'll have to take a trip...

 

[chadsgrow]

Borders is out of business . The Portland store closed.

 

[maineyankee]

Guess like Our "Borders" ... I guess we don't really need them after all

 

[bomb hills]

If the guy really is cool, he will encourage you.

 

[nl3004.kind]

there is always barnes and nobles... amazon has every book you will ever need, though most folks do just fine with the bible from jorge cervantes...

 

[bkbbudz]

Just a thought but after awhile he may figure out for himself that you are growing your own, when you are making no more purchases.

 

[cerberus]

if he learned everything he knows from a book store, well, you can find a more skilled caregiver I have read thousands of books, from the most basic (jorge's bible) to scientific journals (did you know that there's a agro professor at UVM, that specializes in cannabis and hemp diseases?) and as much as these books helped me, the advise from a few friend / master gardeners and actually growing for years, making growing journals, documenting exercises, photo's for reference, these are how I learned.. this guy is a shmuck.

frankly, one of the reasons i am totally fine with patients learning to grow, is the time and energy it took me to grow the quality that i do (and trust me, theres still a lot to learn) BUT i trust that i have built skills over the years that nobody will be able to replace with one grow effort, no one will learn it in one book. It's why i chuckle when i see this crap, if your so insecure about your growing skills that you wont help a sick person, then your obviously got no skills.. :/

my .02