Denofearth69
Active Member
I guess what has to be considered is how comfortable a man is in his own skin, and with himself. I do most of those things, and much more, but then I'm OK with myself enough that I am able to avoid the game player girls/women. But it helps that I'm a biker, so already have the bad boy thing going, and so the rest doesn't make much of a difference to my persona. I am also 48 so have learned many lessons along the way. For those guys truly interested in improving thier relationships let me pass on some advice gleaned from my years on this planet.
Tolerance. This should be your mantra, and forever in your mind when dealing with your lady. When you are about to get into an argument, think to yourself, will this even matter tomorrow? The next day? a year from now? If the answer is no, then it isn't worth fighting about.
Women process new information by cycling it through their emotions. This is why they have emotionally charged responses to things. We men cycle new information using our intellect, and this is why we can't understand women's emotional responses. Both processes work equally well, just men have to be aware of the difference and understand that their ladies feel while they think, and therefore are more easily hurt by what can seem like innocent remarks.
Quit pretending you don't know what beauty is. If you truly don't know, then your lady is probably a butt ugly dog. If she isn't, or even if your the only one who thinks she is beautiful, than you do have a sense of beauty, so yes you can help make decisions about drapes, wall treatments, and bedroom sets. If this is such a girlie thing, why are there so many straight men who do interior design, construction, painting, landscaping, etc.
Get over your teams. Let's face reality guys, first of all, is there truly anything more unjust in the world than paying players millions for playing a game? Especially when we consider that most pro athletes are so basically useless that without pro sports they would either be in prison, the army, or at best a janitor. Besides, there is tivo, DVR's, and any countless number of ways to ensure that you get to watch your game. If your lady isn't more important than watching a bunch of overpaid tards slap each others asses, than I understand why she is thinking about leaving you, and you have no idea. Don't get me wrong, I like to watch sports too, just not very high on my priorities list.
Nothing, and I do mean NOTHING, will get your lady in the mood quicker than showing your softer side. Cook her a fabulous meal ( all the best chefs are men ) serve it to her on a nicely set table with candles, wine, and a sprinkling of rose petals. Play soft music that you know she likes ( her music, not your music that she pretends to like ) serve her a nice dessert ( can't go wrong with anything chocolate ) discuss things that she finds interesting, and try not to make talk about you. And when you do get to the bedroom try to keep Mr. Happy from running the show. The longer you take getting there the more your lady will like it. My own rule of thumb is don't let Mr. Happy get inside her until you have already made her cum a few times. Then she is really ready for you. Quit pretending you don't know what will get her there. You like head and so does she, and you don't have to choke giving her head.
And most importantly, your buds that give you crap about being whipped? Could it be because they haven't been laid in so long that they are jealous? Are your buds going to put up with your ass, and care for you when you're sick? Will your buds wash your streaked underpants and make sure you have a nice meal? All those things she does for you, are your buds ready or willing to take over? If not than as the late great Sam Kinison said " God gave you a choice, love women, or suck a big dick "
I can only speak for myself, but I like having a woman in my life, and doing these simple things makes life so much easier, and I get a lot more action since I started paying attention, I can go out with the guys, and my lady even suggests that I do after I have done something nice for her, I can go fishing, on rides, and all the things you hardass guys get flak for, all because I make her feel like she matters to me.
Tolerance. This should be your mantra, and forever in your mind when dealing with your lady. When you are about to get into an argument, think to yourself, will this even matter tomorrow? The next day? a year from now? If the answer is no, then it isn't worth fighting about.
Women process new information by cycling it through their emotions. This is why they have emotionally charged responses to things. We men cycle new information using our intellect, and this is why we can't understand women's emotional responses. Both processes work equally well, just men have to be aware of the difference and understand that their ladies feel while they think, and therefore are more easily hurt by what can seem like innocent remarks.
Quit pretending you don't know what beauty is. If you truly don't know, then your lady is probably a butt ugly dog. If she isn't, or even if your the only one who thinks she is beautiful, than you do have a sense of beauty, so yes you can help make decisions about drapes, wall treatments, and bedroom sets. If this is such a girlie thing, why are there so many straight men who do interior design, construction, painting, landscaping, etc.
Get over your teams. Let's face reality guys, first of all, is there truly anything more unjust in the world than paying players millions for playing a game? Especially when we consider that most pro athletes are so basically useless that without pro sports they would either be in prison, the army, or at best a janitor. Besides, there is tivo, DVR's, and any countless number of ways to ensure that you get to watch your game. If your lady isn't more important than watching a bunch of overpaid tards slap each others asses, than I understand why she is thinking about leaving you, and you have no idea. Don't get me wrong, I like to watch sports too, just not very high on my priorities list.
Nothing, and I do mean NOTHING, will get your lady in the mood quicker than showing your softer side. Cook her a fabulous meal ( all the best chefs are men ) serve it to her on a nicely set table with candles, wine, and a sprinkling of rose petals. Play soft music that you know she likes ( her music, not your music that she pretends to like ) serve her a nice dessert ( can't go wrong with anything chocolate ) discuss things that she finds interesting, and try not to make talk about you. And when you do get to the bedroom try to keep Mr. Happy from running the show. The longer you take getting there the more your lady will like it. My own rule of thumb is don't let Mr. Happy get inside her until you have already made her cum a few times. Then she is really ready for you. Quit pretending you don't know what will get her there. You like head and so does she, and you don't have to choke giving her head.
And most importantly, your buds that give you crap about being whipped? Could it be because they haven't been laid in so long that they are jealous? Are your buds going to put up with your ass, and care for you when you're sick? Will your buds wash your streaked underpants and make sure you have a nice meal? All those things she does for you, are your buds ready or willing to take over? If not than as the late great Sam Kinison said " God gave you a choice, love women, or suck a big dick "
I can only speak for myself, but I like having a woman in my life, and doing these simple things makes life so much easier, and I get a lot more action since I started paying attention, I can go out with the guys, and my lady even suggests that I do after I have done something nice for her, I can go fishing, on rides, and all the things you hardass guys get flak for, all because I make her feel like she matters to me.
GiGi
