relationhip/dating question

[Cannabolic]

hey all it's Canna. I don't know if I'm saying this because i faced 4 blunts with my cousin, and i'm still high, but it's on my mind. I don't know if anyone remembers, but before i went to school I ended a 2 year relationship. Since then my thoughts on relationships has changed. Lately I've been thinking more about myself, my wants and needs. Not only that, but more about when is the absolute right time to get into a relationship, and with that spawned the thought of me not wanting to be the one that women can always run to. Now i feel like women tend to latch onto men and give them a false image of love and compassion. Or maybe it's our overthinking....idk but i do know that in my life women have always ran to me for guidence and security, and all it's ever done for me besides get me laid every once and a while, is fuck with my emotions. Now I avoid being in situations where i'd have to be a human tissue, but by ignoring these women i'm feeling kinda guilty. So my question is, by me avoiding to be there am I just doing it because I'm hurting still or am I maturing in the relationship feild..................... this is a weird situation i'm in.

 

[slomoking13]

Sounds to me like you're maturing more and getting tired of listening to other people's drama...This is a good thing! You're also right in concentrating more on what you want and not what others want you to be for them. As long as you are being honest with yourself, you shouldn't feel bad or guilty about not wanting to change who you want to be for someone. I honestly think the girls of our generation are beginning to give more false images of love and compassion because they don't know any better. They grew up watching too much reality tv and sex and the city or some shit and think that's how things are supposed to be. I'm not saying this about all of them, but i know a lot of girls who will try to tell you what they want in a guy and end up with the complete opposite type of guy. Next thing you know, they have non-stop drama and they're running to you all the time. Being the guy that has to listen to it all the time will most likely make you as insane as she is! My ultimate advice to you is go with the flow, be honest with yourself, and try not to be too concerned about it all. If you are tired of always having to be the shoulder to cry on, don't do it anymore because it's only going to stress you out.

 

[Balzac89]

Just live your life man.

 

[Cannabolic]

Sounds to me like you're maturing more and getting tired of listening to other people's drama...This is a good thing! You're also right in concentrating more on what you want and not what others want you to be for them. As long as you are being honest with yourself, you shouldn't feel bad or guilty about not wanting to change who you want to be for someone. I honestly think the girls of our generation are beginning to give more false images of love and compassion because they don't know any better. They grew up watching too much reality tv and sex and the city or some shit and think that's how things are supposed to be. I'm not saying this about all of them, but i know a lot of girls who will try to tell you what they want in a guy and end up with the complete opposite type of guy. Next thing you know, they have non-stop drama and they're running to you all the time. Being the guy that has to listen to it all the time will most likely make you as insane as she is! My ultimate advice to you is go with the flow, be honest with yourself, and try not to be too concerned about it all. If you are tired of always having to be the shoulder to cry on, don't do it anymore because it's only going to stress you out.

your right man. you know what it is, I have these girls in my life who either we had some sort of relationship and it ended but decided to stay friends, or girls whom I'm now just getting to know more on a romantic basis and some of these girls dude..........they piss me off. They tell you that they wan't this and that, and your like yeah i can give you it all, and honestly u believe you can. then they are stressing about stuff in their lives or other guys even and your the one who has to play DR. Phil. or i hate the type of girls who want you to themselves and make you feel like you should just be with her when there out playing the feild and you look dumb. Thats why since my last relationship i tell women that my life is moving pretty fast and i have no time for a relationship but I could use a friend. I mean whats the point of getting into a relationship when the woman is still kinda looking around. You guys might as well be friends, have sex from time to time, and call it a day.

Just live your life man.

your right man thanks for your advice, makes me feel a little less crazy..........

 

[slomoking13]

For sure dude. People either know what they want in life or they don't. Often times the ones who will tell you they know exactly what they want have no clue (when it comes to girls anyways). Just worry about your future and trying to have as much fun as you can with your life and the rest will fall in to place. Stressin will get you nowhere in a hurry.