I Reall want her !
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zigzag6
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Ok lolll misread MACE hahahahha.. Ya i guess i have to make a choice ... Thanks for your help bro'
Jer La Mota
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So you've known each other for 4 years, she doesn't know you're a stoner ..
she knows you have feelings for her, tho she won't go out with you (probably ??), because of your past (which is)?? smoking weed maybe
.. and her parents toke ?? lol
Has she ever given you signs that she sees more in you than a simple conversation ?
If you've had a healthy friendship with her these last years, theres nothing wrong with asking her out for coffee and such ..
If she says no, she's just not into you ..
if yes .. could be bcause you're a good friend, or she wants to spent time with you ..
Its like the old saying .. You'll never know until you try for yourself ..
zigzag6
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Yaa .. thats what i think .
Well i think there could be something . Cause once she was feeling really bad and she came on MSN (ya i know msn , WTF) She said that she was crying and shit and talked to her for a couple of hours .. Some guy tried to take advantage , Suggested id go see the guy but she didnt want , prefered telling the principal and get him expulsed .
about it .
Well i think there could be something . Cause once she was feeling really bad and she came on MSN (ya i know msn , WTF) She said that she was crying and shit and talked to her for a couple of hours .. Some guy tried to take advantage , Suggested id go see the guy but she didnt want , prefered telling the principal and get him expulsed .
about it .
sarah22
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heres a female perspective for you 
DO NOT LIE TO HER.
thats all there is to it hun. you either love this girl enough to quit weed...or you don't. do NOT lie and tell her that you "used to smoke" when you still do. if she's not going to date you because you smoke weed then you're gonna have to completely QUIT herb if you want her. and i mean QUIT. for good. do not assume that she'll warm up to it and accept it down the road somewhere. because not only will she be pissed at you for smoking weed, she'll be pissed at you for lying about it too. so make the choice. do you want the weed? or the girl? because in this particular situation...you probably won't be able to have both.
DO NOT LIE TO HER.
thats all there is to it hun. you either love this girl enough to quit weed...or you don't. do NOT lie and tell her that you "used to smoke" when you still do. if she's not going to date you because you smoke weed then you're gonna have to completely QUIT herb if you want her. and i mean QUIT. for good. do not assume that she'll warm up to it and accept it down the road somewhere. because not only will she be pissed at you for smoking weed, she'll be pissed at you for lying about it too. so make the choice. do you want the weed? or the girl? because in this particular situation...you probably won't be able to have both.
Brother, you gotta move on. She's going only want to be friends and you'll accept that because you think you can work you're way in. You will never work your way in, unless you go away and change and come back four years later. You will only get hurt, time and time again.
You shouldn't obsess over woman for such a long period. It's not healthy.
You should take all the energy and invest in making yourself better. Then women will want you bro...and as far as reps, women love bad boys. Not all of them, but a lot of them.
makin green
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go rent "super high me" and invite her over to watch it
That 5hit
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me and the wife started off the same way she dont smoke never have never will
we have been together over 10 years
at first she hated i somked
so i did what any person who was in love with someone and didnit want them to know what they do
i hide it from her
when we stared living together ..she made me feel like i was still living with my parents, i had to keep cologne eye drops and some time a change of shirt on me at all times
my smoking friend looked at me like i was crazy to go throught all this for some chick .. but like you i was in love, with her and maryjane
what helpme was i was still smoking ciggs at the time so about 99% of the time i just blamed it on ciggs (every time we would kiss she would say i tasted like smoke)
>>>>>>.....fast foreward a few years........>>>>>
now i only have one alotted area to smoke in, which is fine for me , my office which i made a negative pressure room so all the air in the room is sucked out of the window i dont some in the car or around our kids, or in any other part of the house. at times its kind of refreshing... NOW.. she knows that i smokes and is cool with it as long as she dont smell it coming out of my room or on me.. that i can respect, see aa relationship is about finding a common ground to meet at
see by me hiding it for so long from her it allowed her time to get to learn me for who i am not the stoner or thug everyone tryed to make me out to be i keep her away from that life and in return she stayed in my life ....after she found out that i did infact somked weed she was far to inlove with me to let me go ...at times it was the point of many arguements, but i would let her win, because at the end of the day i loved her way more then i did weed
if you decide to take this keeping the to worlds apart route... then keep in mind the $$$ always become a problem. you have to have your own and you have to keep this from her but at the same time give her money ... my job has a credit uion so i have a odd 158 bucks taking out of each check before it is directly deposited into our shared checking account this is my out of sight out of mind money this + the few oz's i yeild every 3-4 months keep me nice and happy + i have the girl of my dreams and she is also happy
i gat it sooooo good now that she dont even know that i grow... she's never been up in my office.. she knows i somke but my area is myspce only i lock the door when i go in and when i come out .. for all she knows i could have another bitch up there living,,,LOL.... when she needs me she just calls the cell i gat a old recliner desk and tv in there. the kids are still young but they are learning not to come to my cave.. the oldest stands in the hall and just calls my name untill i answer ...
hopes this helps
we have been together over 10 years
at first she hated i somked
so i did what any person who was in love with someone and didnit want them to know what they do
i hide it from her
when we stared living together ..she made me feel like i was still living with my parents, i had to keep cologne eye drops and some time a change of shirt on me at all times
my smoking friend looked at me like i was crazy to go throught all this for some chick .. but like you i was in love, with her and maryjane
what helpme was i was still smoking ciggs at the time so about 99% of the time i just blamed it on ciggs (every time we would kiss she would say i tasted like smoke)
>>>>>>.....fast foreward a few years........>>>>>
now i only have one alotted area to smoke in, which is fine for me , my office which i made a negative pressure room so all the air in the room is sucked out of the window i dont some in the car or around our kids, or in any other part of the house. at times its kind of refreshing... NOW.. she knows that i smokes and is cool with it as long as she dont smell it coming out of my room or on me.. that i can respect, see aa relationship is about finding a common ground to meet at
see by me hiding it for so long from her it allowed her time to get to learn me for who i am not the stoner or thug everyone tryed to make me out to be i keep her away from that life and in return she stayed in my life ....after she found out that i did infact somked weed she was far to inlove with me to let me go ...at times it was the point of many arguements, but i would let her win, because at the end of the day i loved her way more then i did weed
if you decide to take this keeping the to worlds apart route... then keep in mind the $$$ always become a problem. you have to have your own and you have to keep this from her but at the same time give her money ... my job has a credit uion so i have a odd 158 bucks taking out of each check before it is directly deposited into our shared checking account this is my out of sight out of mind money this + the few oz's i yeild every 3-4 months keep me nice and happy + i have the girl of my dreams and she is also happy
i gat it sooooo good now that she dont even know that i grow... she's never been up in my office.. she knows i somke but my area is myspce only i lock the door when i go in and when i come out .. for all she knows i could have another bitch up there living,,,LOL.... when she needs me she just calls the cell i gat a old recliner desk and tv in there. the kids are still young but they are learning not to come to my cave.. the oldest stands in the hall and just calls my name untill i answer ...
hopes this helps
Jer La Mota
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Did the fact that you spent time with her regarding that event change anything ?
UncleBuck
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great avice from that5hit, sarah22 an kbroaster, among others.
so you've been in love with her for 3-4 years, does she know? that does not seem healthy to hold onto unrequited love for so long, i've been there before....i still have to take time now and again to get over it years later.
maybe you should just bang her mom, has anyone suggested that yet?
so you've been in love with her for 3-4 years, does she know? that does not seem healthy to hold onto unrequited love for so long, i've been there before....i still have to take time now and again to get over it years later.
maybe you should just bang her mom, has anyone suggested that yet?
That 5hit
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this is what i did and i was able to keep both
this is somthing eveyone goes through
as great as weed is it is still taboo
so onec she realized that i understood this she was cool with it
the way i understood it as is she just didnt want me to make her look bad in front of her friends and family .
.... after much thought i could respect that
she was waaaayyy more conservitive then i was. together we where complete oppsitte
kindof like that sandra bulark and jessie james. but i made a promise to myself that i would never hurt her the way he did
trust me when i till you that the cheatting didn't hurt as much as it blowing up in her face the way it did
a real man dont let that type of shit happen
i dont mind being the one keeping my life style off the record
sometimes i feel like clark kent , like i have a dubble life
theres been times that i envey'd friends that had girls that smoked with them
but the best advise i was every given was from a friend of mine , who told me to never try to every get her to smoke with me , he told me that deep down if i had wanted to be with a smoker i would have been with one ,, and trust me i knew plenty of smoker chicks and some that where way cuter then my wife,, that wantted to be on my team.. but for some reason i wanted her. maybe it was the fact that she didn't somke that attracted me,...... one of many...
this is somthing eveyone goes through
as great as weed is it is still taboo
so onec she realized that i understood this she was cool with it
the way i understood it as is she just didnt want me to make her look bad in front of her friends and family .
.... after much thought i could respect that
she was waaaayyy more conservitive then i was. together we where complete oppsitte
kindof like that sandra bulark and jessie james. but i made a promise to myself that i would never hurt her the way he did
trust me when i till you that the cheatting didn't hurt as much as it blowing up in her face the way it did
a real man dont let that type of shit happen
i dont mind being the one keeping my life style off the record
sometimes i feel like clark kent , like i have a dubble life
theres been times that i envey'd friends that had girls that smoked with them
but the best advise i was every given was from a friend of mine , who told me to never try to every get her to smoke with me , he told me that deep down if i had wanted to be with a smoker i would have been with one ,, and trust me i knew plenty of smoker chicks and some that where way cuter then my wife,, that wantted to be on my team.. but for some reason i wanted her. maybe it was the fact that she didn't somke that attracted me,...... one of many...
Exact same situation, except now she doesn't care at all and let's me grow it. It took about 7 years to "break" her in, but now she and I talk about it like friends. She hates the smell though, esp. the skunky shit, but it still way, way cool about it.
In fact, I just showed her my quadruple thunder order and Crimea blue after she told me I needed to trim my plants. Back in the day, she used to throw my stash away and made me go to counseling--lmao! It was when the counselor told her that weed was not evil, she lightened up.
I'll be honest, the high is better when you hide it. Just like high school.
Eventually, they'll see that pot is medicine for your soul and that you need it. So much better than booze, imo.