weed and anxiety... need help

[twistedfear]

new to the forums and wanted to share my marijuana experience. i need some help..

i started smoking weed at 15, i turn 21 in may. at age 15-17 it was about 2-4 times a day, as i got older i started smoking more and more, about 3-6 times a day. i have never taken a break from weed, ever... the longest i went without weed was for about 3 days when i was in st thomas for a vacation. cor those that want to know when i first started smoking it was through chocolate cigarellos up until about 18 when i started smoking backwoods. when i first started smoking weed it was so great, it used to make me so happy and energetic but it seemed to derail after my second year of using it. at around 16-17 years old i seemed to develop sometype of anxiety disorder. i would get really nervous and anxious whenever i would walk.... whether it be in front of large crowds or a small group or if someone was behind me watching. it happens EVERY single time and still happens to this day smh. my heart would start racing, i would get random thoughts on what they thought of me, i would even start walking funny (missing a step, tripping over my own shoes). it happens alot the only time i realized that it doesnt happen is when im drunk (Lol) and im not a heavy drinker whatsoever. ive never told anybody about this problem and it drives me crazy.

up until about two months ago i ran into another slight problem. ive been messing with this chick (girl #1) that has a boyfriend. we worked at our job together and we had a mutual understanding. shes 30 and im 20. i ended up getting fired from the job the beggining of feb which was kinda her fault. it kindve made me feel resent her a bit and losing my job sucked cause i loved it there, it definitely was on my mind heavy and made my anxiety bad.

shortly after me getting fired, she went on a two week long vacation with him and when she got back i felt pretty shitty. My anxiety started coming alot stronger and i started getting thoughts that she'll stop messing with me to focus on her dude. i went to go see her and my anxiety was all over the place. of course i was high going to her place and of course we smoked there, shes a smoker too. we would be talking and i would be thinking something in my head that wasnt about the topic being discussed, i was out of it. things got interesting and we were about to have sex, my anxiety went thru the roof. i managed to get erect but as soon as we starting hving sex my thoughts started going crazy. i was thinking..maybe im not good enough, maybe she'll leave me after today, about 30 secs in i got soft. this has never happened to me before i was shocked that i actually got soft on her. we stopped, chilled for a bit and watched tv. im thinkin wtf is going with me right now my mind is going crazy, we eventually try again. i tried but failed miserably in trying to get hard. going home was a nightmare, i was having so many thoughts like what if my sex is bad? what if she stops messing with me?

i go back to her house for round 2 to see if i can get hard and no good. on the way there the only thing on my mind is "am i gonna get hard?". i could not get that off my mind it was killing me. i couldnt get hard at all again and it killed me inside... so i planned that night to go see another girl to have sex with her. went to that girls house and my anxiety is booming. im having the same thoughts as with the other girl and I couldn't get hard either. i go home....sleep...wake up and that night went to see girl #2 again to see if i can get hard and i CANT. its in my head its eating me inside. so now im 0-4 with two different girls and me having erectile dysfunction is in my head. its all im thinking about i try to play video games and im still thinking about it.

so another girl (#3) comes to chill with me, she usually only gives me oral and leaves but i actually asked to have sex with her after she gave me oral and she said yes and it turned me on. i had sex with her, i can tell she doesnt have sex alot so i wanted to get my nut off as soon as possible, im also still thinkin about getting soft but the emotions of having sex with someone new took over, so it was pretty short. it made me feel so relieved that i had sex with her that i went back to girl #1.

went to girl #1's house and of course anxiety is always there but creeps back up with a force. im unable to get hard with her. i feel like shit once again almost feel worse than before. i googled ED, what causes erectile dysfunction, if weed helps or makes it worse, if me smoking so early and so heavy has caused my brain to become underdeveloped or if i have an anxiety disorder

now that i reflect on marijuana, it has done more harm than good in my life. i feel like im a shell of what i couldve been without weed. i feel like i have an anxiety disorder because of it. i wake up feeling down when i know im really blessed to be alive have a family that love and supports me. im extremely lazy i dont ever leave the house 90% of the time that i do its to smoke. right now im still going on with this problem and im still smoking weed everyday non stop.

knowing how i get when i walk in large crowds which has been a problem for me for years and how i let this erectile dysfunction shit get to my head i feel like i do have an anxiety disorder. i feel like i should go to the doctor and i feel i should quit weed but i havent yet. im going through all of this at the moment and i would like for someone to shed some light on weed and anxiety. any remedies or advice that u guys have is appreciated.

 

[sunni]

the reason you dont have an anxiety attack when you are drinking is because of how alcohol affects anxiety patients. it is a sedative and a depressant eventually the alcohol will not stop your anxiety attacks and actually make it quite worse.
infact people who suffer from anxiety are much more likely to develop an alcohol addiction because alcohol can be a self medication in terms of anxiety.
people who suffer from anxiety disorders are much more likely to have additional addictions towards other drugs as well including pharmaceutical drugs.

most people on this forum are going to tell you to just get over it, and that youre smoking the wrong strain of weed.
which can be true.

the reality most people dont understand is that some people with anxiety cannot smoke pot. and thats the end of it. they just cant it doesnt matter what strains , or how its ingested they just cant smoke it it causes an attack,. its like the alcohol mentioned above, first it helps with anxiety than it becomes the anxiety giver

get your anxiety under control or its going to cripple your life eventually.
step 1. go see a doctor.
step 2 get a referral to a counsellor or psychiatrist.

there are several non pharmaceutical ways to get your anxiety under control but you need to see a doctor. Cognitive behavioural therapy (aka CBT) is in my opinion one of the better non drug ways of calming your anxiety down.

you must also start eating properly and exercising regularly. your body works as a whole system when you are feeding yourself shit food your body reacts and it can make your anxiety worse. when you are not getting exercise or drinking a pot of coffee a day your body is reacting to that.

there are several pharmaceutical hep options for anxiety as well. stay away from xanax. every single anxiety user i know uses it wrongly. again this is because xanax is highly addictive. xanax should be used and prescribed as an emergency anxiety relief pill. doctors are prescribing it however as something you take daily( used to be the old treatment method) and users who are taking it daily are having to up their doses and cant go on without it
be firm with your doctor if they even try to give this to you. know your facts before you go in.

there are antianxiety medications that take weeks to build up in the system and are not habit forming in the way xanax is. you will have to wean yourself off them if you do get them but ultimately they are much more "healthy" for you than xanax.

your sexual health problems are all directly related to your anxiety so until your get your anxiety issues under control your sexual health issues are probably going to stay the same.



you can read more on how i beat my anxiety here med free , its an older thread but its helpful: https://www.rollitup.org/t/anxiety-and-you-lets-focus-on-winning-the-battle.847086/

i went to school for social work mental health and addictions (almost done a bachelors on it), plus a few nutrition courses and certifications that are personal help for myself so if you need anymore help let me know

but i really advocate that you get help from a professional, youre not alone feeling like this and you can get over it in the end but its a long journey
best wishes

 

[youraveragehorticulturist]

Try lifting weights.

It will help your self confidence. If people look at you, at least they'll look at your huge guns.

Also, some dudes get with lots of girls because it's awesome. Some guys get with a lot of girls because they have messed up issues, always looking for a mom figure. Doing stuff that you know is bad for you is likely to make you anxious.

Lastly, if you're with a girl, and can't perform, try going down.

 

[GrowUrOwnDank]

Try lifting weights.

It will help your self confidence. If people look at you, at least they'll look at your huge guns.

Sage advice. Work that testosterone.

Also, some dudes get with lots of girls because it's awesome.

Yep. Nothing more adorable the female physic. Curves. Sweet voice. Silly emotions. Wet ...... Yeppers.

Some guys get with a lot of girls because they have messed up issues, always looking for a mom figure.

Yep. I wasn't attracted to my mom at all ever. But, I'm extremely turned on by other dudes moms. Is that wierd?

Lastly, if you're with a girl, and can't perform, try going down.

. That's always been my goto. I LOVE IT! Then this girl drowned me and I couldn't swallow any more. And she shot that shit straight up in my sinuses and I gagged. Phew. First time I ever been scared of pussy in my life. She's still my friend tho.

 

[twistedfear]

having trouble mentioning you guys who posted but thanks alot for the advice, those replies are already giving me alot more clarity on my problem. thanks sunni ive been contemplating on going to the doctor and i finally have the balls to go for it. i dont usually work out so ill start trying to get in better shape.

 

[Mr. Bongwater]

the reason you dont have an anxiety attack when you are drinking is because of how alcohol affects anxiety patients. it is a sedative and a depressant eventually the alcohol will not stop your anxiety attacks and actually make it quite worse.
infact people who suffer from anxiety are much more likely to develop an alcohol addiction because alcohol can be a self medication in terms of anxiety.
people who suffer from anxiety disorders are much more likely to have additional addictions towards other drugs as well including pharmaceutical drugs.

most people on this forum are going to tell you to just get over it, and that youre smoking the wrong strain of weed.
which can be true.

the reality most people dont understand is that some people with anxiety cannot smoke pot. and thats the end of it. they just cant it doesnt matter what strains , or how its ingested they just cant smoke it it causes an attack,. its like the alcohol mentioned above, first it helps with anxiety than it becomes the anxiety giver

get your anxiety under control or its going to cripple your life eventually.
step 1. go see a doctor.
step 2 get a referral to a counsellor or psychiatrist.

there are several non pharmaceutical ways to get your anxiety under control but you need to see a doctor. Cognitive behavioural therapy (aka CBT) is in my opinion one of the better non drug ways of calming your anxiety down.

you must also start eating properly and exercising regularly. your body works as a whole system when you are feeding yourself shit food your body reacts and it can make your anxiety worse. when you are not getting exercise or drinking a pot of coffee a day your body is reacting to that.

there are several pharmaceutical hep options for anxiety as well. stay away from xanax. every single anxiety user i know uses it wrongly. again this is because xanax is highly addictive. xanax should be used and prescribed as an emergency anxiety relief pill. doctors are prescribing it however as something you take daily( used to be the old treatment method) and users who are taking it daily are having to up their doses and cant go on without it
be firm with your doctor if they even try to give this to you. know your facts before you go in.

there are antianxiety medications that take weeks to build up in the system and are not habit forming in the way xanax is. you will have to wean yourself off them if you do get them but ultimately they are much more "healthy" for you than xanax.

your sexual health problems are all directly related to your anxiety so until your get your anxiety issues under control your sexual health issues are probably going to stay the same.



you can read more on how i beat my anxiety here med free , its an older thread but its helpful: https://www.rollitup.org/t/anxiety-and-you-lets-focus-on-winning-the-battle.847086/

i went to school for social work mental health and addictions (almost done a bachelors on it), plus a few nutrition courses and certifications that are personal help for myself so if you need anymore help let me know

but i really advocate that you get help from a professional, youre not alone feeling like this and you can get over it in the end but its a long journey
best wishes

how does booze cause anxiety?

 

[whitebb2727]

I would say get your life in order. If nothing else take a break from the pot just to prove you control it not it control you.

You have to learn to deal with things without pot as a crutch.

Start exercising and eating right. No processed food. Plenty of fresh raw produce.

Maybe quit messing around with girls that are taken. I had a buddy that started sleeping with this married girl. She divorced the guy and married him. He called a couple years later crying that she was cheating on him. I told him no shit Sherlock, that's how you met her. How can you expect her not to do the same to you?

 

[sunni]

how does booze cause anxiety?

Hmm re read what I said
i don't think you fully understood what I wrote so I'll go into further detail

Alcohol is a depressant and sedatitive so when you are already a person who suffers from an anxiety disorder and you self medicate with alcohol (which is highly likely for anxiety disorders ) it eventually causes anxiety rather than stopping it
Anxiety disorder patients often abuse alcohol because it gives them the ability to be anxiety free while drunk or tipsy however alcohol is a dangerous substance that turns into an addiction especially when said alcohol is the only thing that "cures" your anxiety
Alcohol is damaging to the body system and it doesn't take long to start wrecking the body

People who are self medicating with alcohol are binge drinking or over drinking

at first it allows the anxiety to go away but when you have to drink a substantial amount of alcohol every single day just to get through the day your body can't tolerate it
Basic symptoms of alcoholism start to happen and than from there your "medication" turns itself around and creates anxiety

I assume you know alcohol destroys the body when it's Being consumed every single day for a long periods of time in excess quantities

To be clear we are are talking about People with pre existing anxiety disorders here

 

[youraveragehorticulturist]

It's Monday.

Brush your teeth
Do your laundry
Have a good breakfast
Maybe go get a haircut

You gotta look good to feel good.

 

[youraveragehorticulturist]

Charge up your iPod.
Fill up your water bottles, and put them in the refrigerator.
Call up the fat girl you get blow jobs from and see if she wants to go for a walk later.

 

[lawlrus]

Plenty of exercise, eating well, not drinking, etc. can help reduce the frequency of anxiety attacks when smoking in my personal experience, but I agree with sunni. Some people come to a point in their smoking career where they can no longer enjoy cannabis in large quantities or sometimes any quantity at all. I run about a 50/50 shot of getting an anxiety attack when I get high now, and since my tolerance is so low now that I rarely smoke anymore, it doesn't take more than one good puff before I really run the risk of getting sucked down that rabbit hole. It sucks, but it's also made me appreciate how powerful good dope is and also how unnecessary it is (for me) to be stoned all the time.

 

[texasjack]

Stop smoking weed and go see a psychologist. You have anxiety and weed is making it worse. I'm pretty sure Sunni said the same thing.

 

[Mr. Bongwater]

Hmm re read what I said
i don't think you fully understood what I wrote so I'll go into further detail

Alcohol is a depressant and sedatitive so when you are already a person who suffers from an anxiety disorder and you self medicate with alcohol (which is highly likely for anxiety disorders ) it eventually causes anxiety rather than stopping it
Anxiety disorder patients often abuse alcohol because it gives them the ability to be anxiety free while drunk or tipsy however alcohol is a dangerous substance that turns into an addiction especially when said alcohol is the only thing that "cures" your anxiety
Alcohol is damaging to the body system and it doesn't take long to start wrecking the body

People who are self medicating with alcohol are binge drinking or over drinking

at first it allows the anxiety to go away but when you have to drink a substantial amount of alcohol every single day just to get through the day your body can't tolerate it
Basic symptoms of alcoholism start to happen and than from there your "medication" turns itself around and creates anxiety

I assume you know alcohol destroys the body when it's Being consumed every single day for a long periods of time in excess quantities

To be clear we are are talking about People with pre existing anxiety disorders here

i've been drinking heavily since i was 15 because of severe depression disorder and shit never more then 3 days in a row though, caused me a lot of mistakes and embarrassment im lucky i didn't end up in juvie lol made me feel alright all these years though, and yeah i could probably use some therapy

 

[Mr. Bongwater]

new to the forums and wanted to share my marijuana experience. i need some help..

i started smoking weed at 15, i turn 21 in may. at age 15-17 it was about 2-4 times a day, as i got older i started smoking more and more, about 3-6 times a day. i have never taken a break from weed, ever... the longest i went without weed was for about 3 days when i was in st thomas for a vacation. cor those that want to know when i first started smoking it was through chocolate cigarellos up until about 18 when i started smoking backwoods. when i first started smoking weed it was so great, it used to make me so happy and energetic but it seemed to derail after my second year of using it. at around 16-17 years old i seemed to develop sometype of anxiety disorder. i would get really nervous and anxious whenever i would walk.... whether it be in front of large crowds or a small group or if someone was behind me watching. it happens EVERY single time and still happens to this day smh. my heart would start racing, i would get random thoughts on what they thought of me, i would even start walking funny (missing a step, tripping over my own shoes). it happens alot the only time i realized that it doesnt happen is when im drunk (Lol) and im not a heavy drinker whatsoever. ive never told anybody about this problem and it drives me crazy.

up until about two months ago i ran into another slight problem. ive been messing with this chick (girl #1) that has a boyfriend. we worked at our job together and we had a mutual understanding. shes 30 and im 20. i ended up getting fired from the job the beggining of feb which was kinda her fault. it kindve made me feel resent her a bit and losing my job sucked cause i loved it there, it definitely was on my mind heavy and made my anxiety bad.

shortly after me getting fired, she went on a two week long vacation with him and when she got back i felt pretty shitty. My anxiety started coming alot stronger and i started getting thoughts that she'll stop messing with me to focus on her dude. i went to go see her and my anxiety was all over the place. of course i was high going to her place and of course we smoked there, shes a smoker too. we would be talking and i would be thinking something in my head that wasnt about the topic being discussed, i was out of it. things got interesting and we were about to have sex, my anxiety went thru the roof. i managed to get erect but as soon as we starting hving sex my thoughts started going crazy. i was thinking..maybe im not good enough, maybe she'll leave me after today, about 30 secs in i got soft. this has never happened to me before i was shocked that i actually got soft on her. we stopped, chilled for a bit and watched tv. im thinkin wtf is going with me right now my mind is going crazy, we eventually try again. i tried but failed miserably in trying to get hard. going home was a nightmare, i was having so many thoughts like what if my sex is bad? what if she stops messing with me?

i go back to her house for round 2 to see if i can get hard and no good. on the way there the only thing on my mind is "am i gonna get hard?". i could not get that off my mind it was killing me. i couldnt get hard at all again and it killed me inside... so i planned that night to go see another girl to have sex with her. went to that girls house and my anxiety is booming. im having the same thoughts as with the other girl and I couldn't get hard either. i go home....sleep...wake up and that night went to see girl #2 again to see if i can get hard and i CANT. its in my head its eating me inside. so now im 0-4 with two different girls and me having erectile dysfunction is in my head. its all im thinking about i try to play video games and im still thinking about it.

so another girl (#3) comes to chill with me, she usually only gives me oral and leaves but i actually asked to have sex with her after she gave me oral and she said yes and it turned me on. i had sex with her, i can tell she doesnt have sex alot so i wanted to get my nut off as soon as possible, im also still thinkin about getting soft but the emotions of having sex with someone new took over, so it was pretty short. it made me feel so relieved that i had sex with her that i went back to girl #1.

went to girl #1's house and of course anxiety is always there but creeps back up with a force. im unable to get hard with her. i feel like shit once again almost feel worse than before. i googled ED, what causes erectile dysfunction, if weed helps or makes it worse, if me smoking so early and so heavy has caused my brain to become underdeveloped or if i have an anxiety disorder

now that i reflect on marijuana, it has done more harm than good in my life. i feel like im a shell of what i couldve been without weed. i feel like i have an anxiety disorder because of it. i wake up feeling down when i know im really blessed to be alive have a family that love and supports me. im extremely lazy i dont ever leave the house 90% of the time that i do its to smoke. right now im still going on with this problem and im still smoking weed everyday non stop.

knowing how i get when i walk in large crowds which has been a problem for me for years and how i let this erectile dysfunction shit get to my head i feel like i do have an anxiety disorder. i feel like i should go to the doctor and i feel i should quit weed but i havent yet. im going through all of this at the moment and i would like for someone to shed some light on weed and anxiety. any remedies or advice that u guys have is appreciated.

try smoking a lot less

 

[twistedfear]

Lol you guys are hilarious , thanks for the advice everybody.

since i got fired from my fulltime job i have been smoking alot more than usual, and i will definitely cut smoking out

 

[youraveragehorticulturist]

Tuesday!

Breakfast and tooth care!

Make sure your clean clothes are folded, or hung up, and put away.

Do the dishes.

Find your sneakers and your gym shorts.

Cross these things off the list as you go. Small accomplishments. Just like when you play silly video games, only in real life. I'm feeling more confident all ready.

 

[Mr. Bongwater]

fuck u video games are awesome lol

 

[Cyrus420]

Please don't take what anyone says here to be proper medical advice.

You have A LOT more going on in your life than just weed it seems. Lot's of girls, personal worries, etc.

It's possible you could just have an anxiety disorder and it's quite common.

If possible I would go talk to a doctor or counselor about these feelings and YES that includes how often you smoke cannabis. You got to be honest with yourself though and not hold onto anything as a crutch whether it be weed or other people.

 

[taproot]

You need to get your anxiety under control or it will eventually wreak your life and body as it plays havoc on your central nervous system. CBT has helped me greatly however I've finally had to shit or get off the pot and I realize the high THC strains do this to me and the fact that I'm probably THC sensitive anyway..just the way my CNS is wired. I'm a lot better knowing how to control it via CBT but still I'm trying to deal with it in other ways such as relaxation therapy, exercise etc. Also, I'm going to switch over to CBD stains which are more body relaxing as they don't have high THC values. I love the body relaxation that cannabis brings but hate the anxiety and racing thoughts. Many patients that need pain relief, me included, are using more CBD strains these days as they don't get you high but do relax the body. Also, please consider not having sex with girls that already have relationships; how would you feel if your girl was doing this to you? Concentrate on finding one girl that has qualities you like and ones you can overlook and form a loving relationship with her; Be each others best friends and see where that takes you. The friendship will be solid and that makes other things have more quality to

 

[Hazy_Nights.DC]

Hopefully we all survive..and be fine up in the mentals..