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The Outdoorsman

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yea these guys are no joke, they harvest around the clock. Hard keeping up with them. I was only helping an old friend. He fixed my diesel generator which I thought was blown, and so did a mechanic that I had take a look at it. told him he could have it if wanted it for parts. came home the other day and it was sitting in front of my shop, fixed. he wouldn't take my money, but would accept some work from me. I grew up helping him on his farm, as he was the only neighbor for miles. he is in his late 70's and can still out work most guys I know.
I know a couple old timers like that. They trust you to begin with but when I'm half drunk and bored I'll start pulling weeds and trimming trees. Now I'm part of the family. "You need to borrow a rifle? You need to borrow my tiller? Yeah I'll sell that to you for x amount of dollars."
There's this one cool dude that sets up a veggie stand in the middle of nowhere on his farm stead. I stopped by all the time because it was cheaper and better than the grocery store. Also it's a honor system, take what you need leave the money in the red wooden box. Once he got to know you he'd let you pick what you wanted from his garden. I'm rambling but I should go visit that guy and get a couple pounds of raspberries, if still in season. Dude must be in his 80's. I asked what variety of apples he had, he paused, looked at the tree and said "small ones" haha
 

sunni

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Staff member
how do you approach someone about their money situation when youre younger than them?

my mom is NOT a good budgeter, basically she doesnt know how to adult at all. she needs me to remind her to take her pills every morning, do her laundry, eat properly..etc
she blows through cash faster than a hooker.

my mom suffers from severe mental health disorders , anxiety and agoraphobia

my mom and her wife divorced after 15 years , my mom received 30,000$ from the house ,
anyways my mom couldnt live in the same city as her ex so she up and moved down south to toronto area, in this small little town of like 300 people, very cute place

anyways, i asked my mom for 2000$ because i knew she was going to blow her entire 30,000$ and i stashed it in my bank account and send her 500$ a month,

but i also pay for her netflix, and cellphone bill, and bought her cellphone.

the only bills she has are internet, 30$ a month, and rent 650$ her total bills are 680$

my mom receives disability and cpp, (canadian pension plan) in 2 paychecks per month adding up to 1800$

which means after bills she has
1120$

THAN TO TOP IT OFF i give her an additional 500$

i have no idea what the fucking fuck shes spending the extra money on

but she comes up to me every month round the 15th explaining how fucking broke she is , how she doesnt have money for smokes or food.

i have set her up with a caretaker who i pay for out of pocket, who drives her to grocery store, the doctor etc. ...her medications are paid for by disability, and her food per month cannot be that high, she eats terrible dont get me wrong but junk food is fucking cheap

i keep trying to tell her we need to be able to work together to work on her budgeting and money management skills so she can properly have money for everything she needs but she refuses to listens and tellsme to fuck off basically.
 

abe supercro

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ultimately her disability and pension covers all of her bills if she does auto-pay. so she'll survive regardless of details, that's prolly the bottom line. don't enable her or listen to her poverty whining unless she conforms to a little more regimen. why pay for anything of hers, she has enough. if she wants your help, set up consequences for when she deviates, outline it all and make it clear.

if she's not willing to embrace your help, what can you really do. damned if you do, damed if you don't, but still, it's her life.
 

sunni

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ultimately her disability and pension covers all of her bills if she does auto-pay. so she'll survive regardless of details, that's prolly the bottom line. don't enable her or listen to her poverty whining unless she conforms to a little more regimen. why pay for anything of hers, she has enough. if she wants your help, set up consequences for when she deviates, outline it all and make it clear.

if she's not willing to embrace your help, what can you really do. damned if you do, damed if you don't, but still, it's her life.
i pay for her cellphone because she refused to have a home phone, prior to her divorce finalization she attempted suicide by downing an entire bottle of xanax because she did not have a phone to call 911 when she got it in her head she didnt want to die, ultimately i knew something was wrong that day and broke down her door

i bought her an iphone 4s, and pay for her bills so i can vocally check up on her, its easier for people to hide behind a keyboard harder to sound "okay" on a phone. ...
i know when shes taken too much anti anxiety meds by her voice

she refuses to do auto pay..so i keep trying to help her do auto pay for her internet and her rent, but her landlord comes to her house to grab her rent by cash, which is fine, but shes not properly managing her money to be able to have her rent.

i pay for her netflix because she does not have a credit card and its only like 8$
 

abe supercro

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I'd want to be able to hear my moms voice on the telephone as well. knowing what movies she's renting may be insightful and a bit of a conversation starter too.. for real, that part sounds fun.

sounds like you've got the right idea about getting her on auto-pay, it's a must. just may take a lil time to get it established, perhaps contact the LL and get him to require auto p. hopefully she's not using substances other than prescribed. most ppl i know that have budget strains, self included, just shop too much. 'retail therapy' i call it.

understandable to have concern because she's your mom and has a history of depression. now that you're farther away, you may need to find a new local contact for her to be your point person to check on her in an emergency.
 

Flaming Pie

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how do you approach someone about their money situation when youre younger than them?

my mom is NOT a good budgeter, basically she doesnt know how to adult at all. she needs me to remind her to take her pills every morning, do her laundry, eat properly..etc
she blows through cash faster than a hooker.

my mom suffers from severe mental health disorders , anxiety and agoraphobia

my mom and her wife divorced after 15 years , my mom received 30,000$ from the house ,
anyways my mom couldnt live in the same city as her ex so she up and moved down south to toronto area, in this small little town of like 300 people, very cute place

anyways, i asked my mom for 2000$ because i knew she was going to blow her entire 30,000$ and i stashed it in my bank account and send her 500$ a month,

but i also pay for her netflix, and cellphone bill, and bought her cellphone.

the only bills she has are internet, 30$ a month, and rent 650$ her total bills are 680$

my mom receives disability and cpp, (canadian pension plan) in 2 paychecks per month adding up to 1800$

which means after bills she has
1120$

THAN TO TOP IT OFF i give her an additional 500$

i have no idea what the fucking fuck shes spending the extra money on

but she comes up to me every month round the 15th explaining how fucking broke she is , how she doesnt have money for smokes or food.

i have set her up with a caretaker who i pay for out of pocket, who drives her to grocery store, the doctor etc. ...her medications are paid for by disability, and her food per month cannot be that high, she eats terrible dont get me wrong but junk food is fucking cheap

i keep trying to tell her we need to be able to work together to work on her budgeting and money management skills so she can properly have money for everything she needs but she refuses to listens and tellsme to fuck off basically.
Unfortunately, you can't help people who don't want to change. Sad as that may be.
 

New Age United

Well-Known Member
how do you approach someone about their money situation when youre younger than them?

my mom is NOT a good budgeter, basically she doesnt know how to adult at all. she needs me to remind her to take her pills every morning, do her laundry, eat properly..etc
she blows through cash faster than a hooker.

my mom suffers from severe mental health disorders , anxiety and agoraphobia

my mom and her wife divorced after 15 years , my mom received 30,000$ from the house ,
anyways my mom couldnt live in the same city as her ex so she up and moved down south to toronto area, in this small little town of like 300 people, very cute place

anyways, i asked my mom for 2000$ because i knew she was going to blow her entire 30,000$ and i stashed it in my bank account and send her 500$ a month,

but i also pay for her netflix, and cellphone bill, and bought her cellphone.

the only bills she has are internet, 30$ a month, and rent 650$ her total bills are 680$

my mom receives disability and cpp, (canadian pension plan) in 2 paychecks per month adding up to 1800$

which means after bills she has
1120$

THAN TO TOP IT OFF i give her an additional 500$

i have no idea what the fucking fuck shes spending the extra money on

but she comes up to me every month round the 15th explaining how fucking broke she is , how she doesnt have money for smokes or food.

i have set her up with a caretaker who i pay for out of pocket, who drives her to grocery store, the doctor etc. ...her medications are paid for by disability, and her food per month cannot be that high, she eats terrible dont get me wrong but junk food is fucking cheap

i keep trying to tell her we need to be able to work together to work on her budgeting and money management skills so she can properly have money for everything she needs but she refuses to listens and tellsme to fuck off basically.
One of my employees has the same problem with his daughter who used to call him constantly looking for money, she's 30 years old, he cut her off about 6 months ago and she's doing just fine, no doubt she's pissed at him for not dishing out the money but tough. Listen sunni I know your mother has a couple of mental disorders and you may feel like she's dependent on you but you have to draw the line, give her whatever you are comfortable giving her and tell her you're broke when she comes back looking for more.
 

sunni

Administrator
Staff member
I'd want to be able to hear my moms voice on the telephone as well. knowing what movies she's renting may be insightful and a bit of a conversation starter too.. for real, that part sounds fun.

sounds like you've got the right idea about getting her on auto-pay, it's a must. just may take a lil time to get it established, perhaps contact the LL and get him to require auto p. hopefully she's not using substances other than prescribed. most ppl i know that have budget strains, self included, just shop too much. 'retail therapy' i call it.

understandable to have concern because she's your mom and has a history of depression. now that you're farther away, you may need to find a new local contact for her to be your point person to check on her in an emergency.
I don't go on her Netflix I have American one now
As for someone checking in on her I have a care taker I pay for think I might have mentioned that they take her grocery shopping and check in once a week to make sure she's taking her pills
I am in touch with her twice a day morning and night
 

UncleBuck

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not only did i find squirrely-Q's mom dead in the yard, i found squirrely-Q dead as well. not a mark on either one. i'm guessing it's the plague. squirrels here in colorado apparently get the plague from fleas. oh well. we gave him warmth and food when he would have shivered, starved, and died. i don't feel bad about it.

oh, and i got @sunni preggers in a rather ingenious ploy to get her to quit smoking. smoking is bad for you.
 

racerboy71

bud bootlegger
went to take a drink at work on friday, and said to myself, wtf is in my mouth, it's all fuzzy, omfg, it's a bee..
spit out my juice, but not before i got whacked on the lip from mr killer bee.. just glad i didn't swallow..
 

UncleBuck

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went to take a drink at work on friday, and said to myself, wtf is in my mouth, it's all fuzzy, omfg, it's a bee..
spit out my juice, but not before i got whacked on the lip from mr killer bee.. just glad i didn't swallow..
ouch. a sting from a killer bee on my lip would kill me. you are lucky. and your penis is huge from what i understand.

it's just not fair.
 

Merlot

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I don't go on her Netflix I have American one now
As for someone checking in on her I have a care taker I pay for think I might have mentioned that they take her grocery shopping and check in once a week to make sure she's taking her pills
I am in touch with her twice a day morning and night
Approach her like an adult, and ask her wtf is she doing. If she's broke in 2 weeks with 1100 dollar disposable income a month, she's either being rinsed by someone, or has an addiction.
 
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