OK Girls (and guys) what can you tell me about this situation.

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puffdatchronic

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ok ok.. so the message is cheating is bad. I'll not.

But what is the overall consensus on what she is doing. Toying or interested? Just curious to see what people think based on those varying/mixed messages..
 
sunni

sunni

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a senile fungus said:
She's fucking with you. Ignore her and watch how quickly she moves to the next guy who'll pay her attention.

Some girls like to do that, to see how long you'll pay them attention. Or see how far they can go... Its like a mind-game, don't play it with her, you're being a pawn. Put the power back in your hands and ignore her advances!
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mmhm you go girl say it loud say it proud
 
oldtimer54

oldtimer54

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st0wandgrow said:
I agree with the ladies. The odds on this being some harmless fling and you just getting your pecker wet, with no collateral damage is slim to none. The possible bad things that could come of this are endless. She could have herpes (or worse). You could knock her up. Her current BF could knock you out (or worse). She could end up being a shit load of drama that you never saw coming. You could likely make yourself look like an ass.

Handle your business with your current girl, and then if you still feel the need to pursue this other one go for it AFTER you get to know her a bit better. No matter how much "meh" you feel towards your girlfriend, she probably doesn't deserve to be made to look like a fool if this shit goes sideways. If I were you, I'd get a good mental image of this new gal and go beat off. It's much easier and quicker. Besides, most women that are drop dead gorgeous don't have much else in life to offer. They get by on looks alone.
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These words of wisdom are spoken by a true gentleman....my hats off to you
Great freaking advice !
 
racerboy71

racerboy71

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a senile fungus said:
She's fucking with you. Ignore her and watch how quickly she moves to the next guy who'll pay her attention.

Some girls like to do that, to see how long you'll pay them attention. Or see how far they can go... Its like a mind-game, don't play it with her, you're being a pawn. Put the power back in your hands and ignore her advances!
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i tend to agree, if this girl is as hot as he says she is, then no doubt she's used to having guys dripping off of her at her every step.. she might be a bit bored at home, or who knows, she could be head over heels in love with her bf, but still likes to get attention outside of the relationship. knowing that you're into her is of course good for the ego.. like stow said, for a lot of these girls, ego is all that they really have, so they will do w/e it takes to feed it constantly so they feel good about themselves, wanted, and there fore worth something..
 
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puffdatchronic

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I don't think she is fucking with me. See I haven't really been paying attention to her. I go out for a smoke with her and have a chat, I have a chat with her when we first come in.. it's not like I'm making it obvious, in fact I've been explicit that I have a sexual life of my own.. ie kid etc. Most shifts I don't even sit near her, but I'll glance over and always catch her glancing at me. Last night I sat beside her on shift, very casual, talked about usual stuff like weekend activites.. i'm in no way coming across as in awe of her. If anything she is the one "pssting" me if I wanna go for a smoke ... she was the one suggested number swapping... all i had to say last night was "damn forgot to make coffee on my break",, and she brings me one in... you guys make it seem like because she is a 10 she is just evil and playing with me ,when actually I'm feeling real things going on.. and shes actually doing a degree and is very intelligent and charming.. though , again.. it's possible shes trying to sucker me into being her pawn.. but thats not gonna happen..
 
sunni

sunni

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puffdatchronic said:
I don't think she is fucking with me. See I haven't really been paying attention to her. I go out for a smoke with her and have a chat, I have a chat with her when we first come in.. it's not like I'm making it obvious, in fact I've been explicit that I have a sexual life of my own.. ie kid etc. Most shifts I don't even sit near her, but I'll glance over and always catch her glancing at me. Last night I sat beside her on shift, very casual, talked about usual stuff like weekend activites.. i'm in no way coming across as in awe of her. If anything she is the one "pssting" me if I wanna go for a smoke ... she was the one suggested number swapping... all i had to say last night was "damn forgot to make coffee on my break",, and she brings me one in... you guys make it seem like because she is a 10 she is just evil and playing with me ,when actually I'm feeling real things going on.. and shes actually doing a degree and is very intelligent and charming.. though , again.. it's possible shes trying to sucker me into being her pawn.. but thats not gonna happen..
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its called infatuation , youre not feeling anything else for her that you did when you first met your current girlfriend.

regardless of how much you try to play it off as something innocent and real youre only trying to cover your ass and convince yourself this is a good idea, youre not convincing any of us by doing this ya know?
 
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puffdatchronic

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sunni said:
its called infatuation , youre not feeling anything else for her that you did when you first met your current girlfriend.

regardless of how much you try to play it off as something innocent and real youre only trying to cover your ass and convince yourself this is a good idea, youre not convincing any of us by doing this ya know?
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Yeah I know. I honestly probably won't even make one move. She was probably just being friendly
 
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reasonevangelist

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two questions: (don't answer here if you don't think you should)

1) are you growing without official authorization?
2) do you want to get busted?

If you answered yes to the first question, Do Not do anything to make new enemies. People become diabolical when their hearts get broken.

There's another thread on this very forum about a guy who got caught cheating and ended up getting ratted out over it...
 
UncleReemis

UncleReemis

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Ngl, I feel really bad for your gf right now. I think it's best if you end your relationship. She obviously isn't the one, otherwise you'd be repulsed by the thought of cheating on her. You're going to break up regardless, whether its a normal break up or an unfortunate divorce. I know what its like to have urges and cheat, probably one of the worst paths to follow.

not telling you how to live your life and I know that what I've said has probably already been said in some way or another. But man... breaking hearts is srs bsnss
 
XXVII St.

XXVII St.

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Hookabelly said:
That's infatuation. Right now she'd fart and you'd love the song….There was probably a time when you felt this way w/ your gf too.. think back

You'd be surprised. Seeing the b/f will explain a lot: if he's a little weasel, then you know she has massive insecurity issues, if he's an Adonis, then def. leave them alone and she's toying w/ you

Dude, cheating is so low rent, be a man and handle the existing relationship first either you both fix or end it clean, but don't muddy the waters and your mind by managing two women at once, Never a good idea.


My instincts tell me that she's a beautiful girl who is used to men falling all over her and the coffee, phone # etc. is just seeing how far she can push….
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Holy Crap! Listen to Hookabelly......... Wise this one is.......
 
XXVII St.

XXVII St.

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a senile fungus said:
She's fucking with you. Ignore her and watch how quickly she moves to the next guy who'll pay her attention.

Some girls like to do that, to see how long you'll pay them attention. Or see how far they can go... Its like a mind-game, don't play it with her, you're being a pawn. Put the power back in your hands and ignore her advances!
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For me there's nothing more liberating than ignoring a HOT girl who's used to men falling all over her. It usually drives them crazy and they try even HARDER....Kinda funny.
 
Jimmyjonestoo

Jimmyjonestoo

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racerboy71 said:
i tend to agree, if this girl is as hot as he says she is, then no doubt she's used to having guys dripping off of her at her every step.. she might be a bit bored at home, or who knows, she could be head over heels in love with her bf, but still likes to get attention outside of the relationship. knowing that you're into her is of course good for the ego.. like stow said, for a lot of these girls, ego is all that they really have, so they will do w/e it takes to feed it constantly so they feel good about themselves, wanted, and there fore worth something..
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"A lot of girls". Just because she's used to it doesn't mean she uses it to her advantage. She could generally be into him. We don't know what her relationship is like with her bf. Maybe she's wanted to end it for a while. Not saying this is the case but its not impossible. To the op I say ignore the advances for now. You'll find out soon enough if she likes you or the attention. As far as the cheating....I'm guilty but don't recommend it. Follow your brain( the heart is stupid,don't know shit). If you honestly feel she's into you, go for it. After ending it with current gf.
 
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puffdatchronic

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Jimmyjonestoo said:
"A lot of girls". Just because she's used to it doesn't mean she uses it to her advantage. She could generally be into him. We don't know what her relationship is like with her bf. Maybe she's wanted to end it for a while. Not saying this is the case but its not impossible. To the op I say ignore the advances for now. You'll find out soon enough if she likes you or the attention. As far as the cheating....I'm guilty but don't recommend it. Follow your brain( the heart is stupid,don't know shit). If you honestly feel she's into you, go for it. After ending it with current gf.
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thanks jimmy, non judgemental and thinking of the possibilities.. it's not even for sure, but it's a possibility. I'll bide my time for now and we'll see what happens in my current relationship
 
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